well my 5 kids have 1 bed time that 8:00 my 8 year old says its not fair just because my 6 year olds twins,4 year old boy have to have that bed time i dont want to give him a different bed rime because that also wont be fair what should i do?
2006-09-11 13:47:30 · 28 answers · asked by somaya m 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It would be fair to give your eight year old a later bed time. I think at that age a child should go to bed at about 8:30. What time does he get up to go to school? That should also be a factor in getting enough sleep. Maybe let him stay up just a half hour later--it's hard being the oldest, he should get to stay up later.
2006-09-11 13:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a son that's 6- a daughter that's 8- and a son that's 11.
I put the 6 and 8 yr old to bed at 8:30 and let the 11 yr old stay up until 9:00.
The other two end up staying awake in their beds anyway until the oldest goes to bed and it's only 30 more minutes,so really it doesn't matter.I tell my two younger kids that the 11 yr old is older and that's why he gets to be up later,and when they are 11 they will get to stay up later too.Yes,the younger ones were mad at first,but it was short lived and they are over it,they don't care if it's fair or not,what I say goes!
You could just let them all stay up 30 more minutes,it's not that much more time and I bet they will like the compromise!
2006-09-11 20:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by ~Misty.babydoll~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually agree with your 8 yr old. My oldest is also 8 and she goes to bed at 8:30. My younger one goes to bed at 8. She and I take that extra 30 minutes to spend time together because she's in school all day and she reads me a story. My sister has 6 kids and they all have different bed times. Her oldest 2 go to bed when they get tired (theyre 14 and 13) but the other 4 are 10, 8, 6, and 22 months. the 10 and 8 yr old also go to bed at 8:30 the 6 yr old goes at 8 and the baby whenever shes ready.
2006-09-11 21:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Maw730 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the oldest, your son will have extra responsibilities just because of his age so having some special privileges would actually be very fair. At age 8 is at a stage where he understands rational thinking and it is a sign of development that he is questioning the "fairness" of things. I would allow him to have a later bedtime, probably 8:30, with the provision that he has to be up and ready in the morning for school as usual. If he is too tired or cranky than he has to go back to 8:00 bedtime. With extra privileges comes extra responsibility - that is a good lesson for kids to learn.
2006-09-11 21:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three...11, 10 and 8. They all have the same bed time. Do they have seperate bedrooms? This is what I do:
My 11 year old has his own room, being as he is the only boy, so his bedtime is the same BUT he can spend the first half hour in his room reading, where the girls have to go to sleep. The girls don't know he gets to read for a half and hour, and to make it even better...his grades started coming up in reading from B's to A's. :)
Any quiet time activity will work, no tv's or video games, which will not help with the other kids not knowing the older one(s) are allowed up longer and will hender sleeping, but reading works great for getting them sleepy and it's quiet...and you can get the one of the clip lights for the headboard to minimize the light coming out of the room.
2006-09-11 20:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What isn't fair is making your 8 year old go to bed the same time as the much younger children. He should be allowed to stay up a bit later because he is the oldest. Even an extra half hour would make him feel more grown up. Good luck!!
2006-09-11 20:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a 5 year old and a almost 2 year old. The bedtime for them both is 8:00. On the weekends it is around 8:30 or 9
Just explain to him that the bedtime isn't to be mean. Tell him that it is very important to get enough sleep so that he won't be sluggish or grouchy and so that he can be alert and attentive at school.
This is really something you and your husband should decide. Maybe going to be at 8:30 for him would be a solution. My oldest niece is 9, and her bedtime is 8:30. Sleep is very important for your every day needs. Good luck!!!
2006-09-11 22:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Trina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is fair. Move the 8 year old maybe to 8:30. That should solve the problem. The other kids are younger and need to go to bed earlier.
2006-09-11 21:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give your 8 year old until 9 if they can handle it
we have kids that are 7,8,9,10,11 and they go to bed between 8 and 10 depending on maturity and not age, the 10 yr old is one of the ones that go to bed at 8.
Your kids need to learn that life is not about being fair to everybody as a group because that is not how it works in the real world.
2006-09-11 21:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by Niche Jerk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should treat all of your children as individuals because that's what they are. Sending your older child to bed with the younger ones is unfair. He/she is older and should have a later bed time. you wouldn't treat an 8 year old like a 4 year old when it came to other things.
2006-09-11 21:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋