I am getting married in a couple of years and I want to start choosing my attendants. However, if I had to pick my 10 favorite people in the world, I would choose all guys. Instead of just sticking random girls as my bridesmaids, I want to have my best guy friends up there next to me. Do you think this is socially acceptable? Do you think I am breaking tradition?
2006-09-11 13:32:27 · 12 answers · asked by britishlit2002 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You might be breaking tradition, but in this case, it's for the best of reasons. The people who stand up with you on your wedding day should be your closest friends and/or family. Maybe the groom has some females he would like to have in the party. Or maybe not - you guys do what you want.
Perfect example - I was at a wedding last year where it was just the bride and groom, her brother and his brother. No bridesmaids or maid-of-honor or anything like that. And the reason was simple - they wanted a small wedding and both were very close to their brothers. I thought it rocked!
2006-09-11 15:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've done two weddings quite recently (I'm a consultant) that had all male attendants for the bride. It seemed quite appropriate.
In the last 20 years I have seen traditions change ALLOT. I love the direction that they are taking. Weddings today are allot more personal and REAL. Much of tradition was followed without ever asking why, anyway.
Have them in tuxes just like any groomsman would wear, but choose a color vest or tie that is different from your Groom's groomsmen. You could do the same with their boutonniere -- nothing necessarily fancy, but something that sets them apart.
Its usually best, I have found, to not ask too many friends and relatives questions that are sensitive. Too many emotional answers clouds your judgment.
Do what feels right to you.
Let everyone be surprised on your wedding day!
2006-09-11 23:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by Don Chestnut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely acceptable. More and more woman are having men as their attendants.
While you still have plenty of time, start thinking of ways to set them apart from the groomsmen. Different ties, vest, boutonnieres, etc... You won't want people to get confused as to who is who in the party.
Also try to find ways to make the traditional roles more acceptable for a man to handle. Since the bridesmaids usually throw the shower and/or bachelorette party, talk to them about possibilities for them. They don't need to try to emulate the female traditions since it might be awkward for men.
Example:
A shower thrown as a lingerie party. Would you want these guys picking out lingerie for you, then seeing you unwrap it, etc...
It's your day, forget traditions and do what you want.
2006-09-12 00:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! You can have a best man-- they are typically called "honor attendants". The whole purpose of a bridal party is for you and the groom to be surrounded by family and friends that love and support them. It's your wedding-- so be sure to showcase your personality as much as possible. Don't discount anyone because of their gender, their love for you is just as great!
Happy Planning!
2006-09-11 22:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by sheplansweddings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie this is YOUR wedding, you do what you want to do. Who cares about tradition, you might just change it. I for one dont find anything at all wrong with it. Go ahead and have YOUR day the way you want it.
2006-09-11 20:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now that's one I've never heard. Instead of bridesmaids, what would you call them, "bridesmen"? "bridesdudes"?
Anyway, as long as you don't put them in dresses, it's probably ok. Some old-schoolers would object, but hey. It's your wedding.
2006-09-11 20:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by Halbert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... yes and no... i mean, i would definitely pick some females, to keep the social affair balanced... you know... keep it "publicly acceptable" (not saying that all men, aren't) I think that would make it look more appropriate.... and btw, men and women is how the tradition is normally done; sometimes with more women than men & sometimes all women....
best of luck
-hope and wish, God will provide-
2006-09-11 20:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by muahaha smarty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for the guy attendents. Just don't make them wear dresses ;-).
2006-09-11 20:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by bluechick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Socially acceptable I am not sure about....Breaking tradition yes...Is it wrong to do...HELL NO...Just don't put them in fluffy pink dresses..I am sure they will thank you for that...
2006-09-11 22:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Works for me.
2006-09-11 20:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋