Well I was at the beach in the condo thinking about heading down to the pool. I was in my swimming trunks, didn't have a shirt on and was watching tv. My girlfriend comes up and sits down next to me and starts massaging me. I was thinking hey this is nice...well then she starts popping zits on my back! THIS PISSES ME OFF VERY BAD! Especially since I told her before never to do it again. I was already in a bad mood because of other things and plus I had been drinking. I grabbed her and turned her over and spanked her very hard on the butt. She started crying and all that. Well later she says I need to apologize but I don't feel like I am at fault b/c for one I had warned her before not to do that and two I had been drinking so am I really responsibile for my actions? Was I wrong here?
2006-09-11 13:26:50 · 43 answers · asked by Sandstorm222 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gah'. Yes. You were wrong. Very wrong. You 'spanked' her? That's rediculous. And are you suggesting that because you were drinking you weren't responsible for it and that she should've known better? You're very very wrong here. You're always responsible for what you do.
2006-09-11 13:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A.) Just because you were drinking does not mean that you are not responsible for your actions...You are always responsible for your actions and to think that you aren't is very immature.
B.) Spanking is something that is only acceptable when two consenting adults are having fun in the bedroom, spanking as punishment is never acceptable. I can't believe that you think that is acceptable. This is your girlfriend, it is not your responsibility or right to punish her. If I were your girlfriend an apology wouldn't be enough. I would be out of there so fast. You are lucky that she is giving you a second chance and you should apologize and do way more: Flowers, candy, romantic dates and begging for forgiveness ASAP
2006-09-11 13:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Drinking is not an excuse for poor behavior. You were responsible for drinking enough to be drunk, which means you were responsible for your behavior afterwords. Don't be a dick.
You should apologize for spanking your girlfriend even if you'd told her before not to pop the zits on your back. There is a MANLY way to handle that situation. You chose to handle it like a baby boy.
Where's your girlfriend's question on here asking if she should leave your zit-covered butt?
2006-09-11 13:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What gives you the right to think you can spank her? She is not a child. You were very wrong doing that. If you didn't want her to touch your back you could have told her straight up and walked off. That proves there you are a violent person. I hope she doesn't stay with you. Your no good for her. Especially if you drink and can't control you temper.
Yes you were wrong what you did. Grow up!
2006-09-11 13:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One if she was doing something that you didn't want her to be doing, then tell her o stop there is never any reason to become violent with a women, its just wrong. And two Of course you are f***ing responsible for you actions. I don't care if you had just chugged a kilo of moonshine and smoke a joint the size of your arm, those are your decisions, your actions, and you have to suffer the consequences of those actions. Were you forced to drink the alcohol? No, you weren't it was your choice which you are responsible for... So get up off your *** right now, pick up that damn phone and call her and tell her your sorry, and hope like hell she forgives you, and if she does, you have a women that is to good for you.
2006-09-11 13:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you were wrong. You DON'T HIT GIRLS!!!! Don't you have any sense of morals? If your girlfriend had any self-respect, she'd dump you. At the very least, you should apologize. If you make someone cry, you should apologize. If you physically abuse someone, I think that a simple apology doesn't cut it.
And please, don't blame it on alcohol. You still have capacity for judgement, even if you're drunk. Get over your power complex and treat your girlfriend like an equal- or maybe you should figure things out by yourself, reflect on why you shouldn't hit your significant other, and then, when you're mature enough to handle a relationship, THEN you should date.
2006-09-11 13:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes , you were wrong. But due to the circumstances , you came down to her level. She didn't respect your wishes and took it upon herself to disregard and disrespect your right to govern your body. However, when you took her and placed her upon your knees and spanked her behind , you did a battery as she did you. Now, if you decide to apologize make sure you explain to her the facts of her and your actions. If she had done that to a person on the street who might have told her something similar in scope , then in all likelyhood she would suffer the consequences of her disrespect. The school of hard knocks would have taught her a lesson most cruel , but she would have learned a valuable lesson about respect of others.
People tend to make decision based in their life experiences and not in the reality of the moment. One's life can be snuffed out for being disrespectful to others.
The graves are full of fools and such.
Secondly, you gave the excuse of being under the influence of alcohol , which in itself makes you juvenile and irresponsible for your decisions. Never act in the sense of excuses. Stand on your square and stop being a wuss.
Thirdly, give your relationship with her a rest. Both of you need to grow up! Both of you are juvenile and there is no excuse for either of you to be in any relationships until you both learn to respect yourself. Neither of you are ready to act like mature adults. Both of you need a course in etiquette and behavioral psychology before you embark on another relationship of any kind!
2006-09-11 14:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Darknight469 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to apologize to your girlfriend, you have no right to put your hands on no one. And for something as trivial as that, you want to harm her? you are lucky she does not leave you. And don"t blame it on you drinking, if that is the case, then you don"t need to drink. What is wrong with talking, don't you know the key to a good relationship is communicating. If you are nice to her. she will be even nicer to you. Do the right thing.
2006-09-11 13:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you most definatley were wrong....shes your girlfriend NOT A CHILD!!!!! If you still want her as a girlfrind I would definatley apologize, and flowers wouldn't hurt either. That must have been extremely embarassing for her as well. And if you drink enough to question if you should be responsible for your actions...maybe you should question weither or not you need AA.
2006-09-11 13:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by Julie W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should apologize even though she shouldn't have done what she did but i mean if that really pissed you off you should have just grabbed her and told her that you didn't want her popping your zits because you don't like that and that it was making you mad instead of spanking her *** and making her cry but good luck!
2006-09-11 13:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋