now that both my older siblings have been married, everyone keeps encouraging me to get into the dating scene. one even said that i should do an online dating thing like eHarmony or somethin. i'm glad that they want me to find love.
but the things they are saying i should do, would break the image i've tried to create for my self. i'd like to tell them kindly to back off, but i won't take that path.
ok so yeah, i'm venting my stress online. why? how would i know...
it would be nice to have a boyfriend, but it's not on my top 5 goals. even if i made goals. ha!
so whats my problem? i guess, for me, love is not easy to come by. and i don't know what to do with myself anymore.
what do you think...
sorry if i wasted your time, don't be to harsh on me :)
2006-09-11 13:25:21 · 10 answers · asked by Shadow of a girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships are a lot of work and though they can be very rewarding I still suggest waiting until you find someone you're compatible with and taking it from there. No one really knows how relationships are going to work out because so many unexpected things could happen.
Believe me sometimes it's in the most crazy place that you might meet someone, when you least expect it.
I've heard good things about EHarmony, it's worth a shot, or you can meet guys at community or church events or work or even through friends maybe even a blind date.
The best advice I can give is to go about life as you normally would focusing on the things that are most important to you and when love finds it's way into your life hopefully it'll all work out well for you.
Best of luck. :)
2006-09-11 13:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by JessE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 is why are you thinking about your image. Your image only really matters to the small circle of friends you should have/will surround yourself with.
#2 Those online dating things may be fun, but I'm not sure that I'd ever consider it for a serious relationship either.
#3 If love is not easy to come by for you or if there is another reason for your reluctance to find it - then you are just not ready for it. When it comes it will take your life over and you will not be able to fight it off easily.
Don't pressure yourself and don't allow anyone to pressure you about it. Enjoy being single, enjoy yourself, and work on creating some goals to accomplish.
2006-09-11 20:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by ZIAGACITY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What image are you protecting? If I was to guess, I would suppose you are extremely independent and feel like you have earned everything you have on your own (this is the case with the youngest in many families) and now you are reluctant to tie your achievements or happiness to anyone else because you have never allowed that to happen before. Love does not mean giving up your identity, (though maybe you feel like one of your siblings did?) but sharing it with someone who appreciates you and inspires you to be yourself even in the toughest of times. Don't expect to find that with the first guy you date (but who knows?!) It takes work and a little practice I think. You'll know when you're ready. Don't beat youself up b/c you don't feel ready. Try to stay true to yourself and still be open to talking with guys, maybe and see what happens. Maybe you'll start to feel a little more comfortable but maybe not. Just be you.
2006-09-11 20:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone push you into doing anything. the worst thing you can do is get into a relationship because everyone else expects you to. I have the same situation. The adult males and females are married with children so now everyone says it's my turn. I am not sure I want either so I have just told everyone to mind their business. I seems harsh but you can only live for yourself. When you meet someone you want to be with you will know. If you want to be alone that's fine too.
2006-09-11 20:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone dates at the same time, and not everyone finds their true love as soon as their family does. Just wait and experiance your surroundings. Look and listen all around you, you may find a guy dying to date you that is to coward to admit it.
2006-09-11 20:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Killerofgrims 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i mean relationships are hard to come by i am personally not good at them either. now i haven't exactly had the situation that have but i mean it bothers me to see other people that have a relationship and i just wish that i could have one to. but i know that it will take time to get what i need to get to. personally idk if i would go for the online dating thing but that's truly up to u and it's good that you set goals just try and get those reached and then go from there. i mean if you don't wnat a relationship now then don't go for one.
2006-09-11 20:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by polobaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your independence is so refreshing!! Keep going on goals 1-5!
2006-09-11 20:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them when your ready to date and find love you will but now your fine with just the way things are going for you and you wish they would stop
2006-09-11 20:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your own good judgment. If you want advice, ask someone you trust and respect, but use your own good judgment on making the final decisions.
2006-09-11 20:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll date when you're darn ready too. Don't let everyone pressure you.
2006-09-11 20:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by bernie2u4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋