so my ex cheated on me last year with this girl, and after we broke up they were on and off dating basically all year. He just ended his relationship(supposedly, like i said their very on and off) and he is like my best friend now. I'm not sure if i have feelings for him, or if i can trust him. I think he might just start liking that girl again? He really is a nice guy, whos matured alot since last year. Should i give him another chance? because i think deep down i've always liked him, even after i broke up with him and even though we are completly oppisite..oy
2006-09-11 13:23:21 · 8 answers · asked by because7_8_9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to look deep into your heart and at him. What makes you think he's matured since last year? What about this supposed maturation makes you think he is now more capable of being faithful? If he's been on again/off again with the other girl, you are right to be wary that he will get back together with her yet again. You've been friends with him even after he hurt you by cheating. That hasn't taught him that his behavior is unacceptable, so what motivation does he have to act differently? Does he really want YOU back, or is he interested because you are there and he wants to get some?
More importantly, why do you think you have feelings for him? Have you been dating other people, finding out if there is someone else out there for you? Or is it just that he is still around and now single so you think maybe you can get him back?
Just because you think you may still 'like' him doesn't mean you need to be with him. It's a lot easier to think that you're still hung up on someone when you pal around with him. Hanging out with an ex can also limit your opportunities to meet someone else. I'd say, especially if you haven't dated anyone else seriously since breaking up with this guy, go out and sample some others, have some fun. Make this guy work to get you back, if that's what you eventually decide is right, and prove to you that his love is true and that he is faithful and reliable. But don't take him back just because he's alone and horny. You could get burned yet again.
2006-09-11 13:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by khtanktgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are like best friends now.Just keep it that way for awhile until you are sure you can fully trust him. Ifhe feels the same way about you, he will wait because everyone knows it takes years to build trust and only a split second to lose it. I know this from living it and it doesn't work.
2006-09-11 13:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by s k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u shouldent u guys gave it a try and he cheated on u what makes u think that he's not gonna do it again just be friends that the best thing to do right now and ull find some1 better and some1 who's gonna love u and tread u with respect.
2006-09-11 13:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by clueless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you like is time to repair a broken heart. do no longer locate somebody to 'replace her' this is a good sized no no . It by no skill works . basically provide up ingesting, concentration on paintings ALOT and till now you comprehend it love will come back. remember it basically gets worse till now it gets extra appropriate .
2016-11-07 03:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys will always be boys...
i know he now is your best friend sweeti...but remember this..he cheated on you.dont you see that scar of what he did to you last time..what if he does it again..try and think the time he back then did it 2 you...who was laughing??who was crying...??
i dont really think you should.stay as friends...its for the best..plenty of boys out there..20 times as better as him..someone who will love you 4 the way you are...someone who will never...ever hurt you...be patient
2006-09-11 13:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You really are a glutton for punishment.
Sure, go ahead and date him again. When you post in five-ten years, "why are all men jerks?", I'll be the guy posting, "It's your fault, you're the one that keeps dating jerks."
2006-09-11 13:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do get back with him, be very careful. Most people really never change. I don't think you should trust him.
2006-09-11 13:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was the sex good. if so go back with him, get your fill of him and than dump him for a hot guy...
2006-09-11 13:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by grantwonit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋