I like her, but I don't really want a proper relationship, if we have sex next time I see her, is it mean to say I just want to be friends after that?
2006-09-11 12:39:48 · 29 answers · asked by DS 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Re Bobi C's answer: Yeah, I thought of that. Too late now,
2006-09-11 12:43:58 · update #1
To clarify, I'm not asking retrospectively, haven't had the third date yet
2006-09-11 13:04:39 · update #2
Also, stop having a go at me. I'm just asking what you think.
2006-09-11 13:12:54 · update #3
Depends on what you want to do.
Being a jerk can get you women, doing what you just said basically makes you a jerk.
But it's a pretty lame thing to do. Up to you if you want to do it.
If you want to do it "right", then have a talk with her about this before sex, and before the 3rd date. Tell her you like her, and are attracted to her (sex), but don't want a relationship. Sometimes women just want some booty too. But be prepared to lose your opportunity, or even be called a jerk for it.
Yes, being nice is a thankless job, and you lose scoring opportunities on top of that, it's a lose-lose situation, that's why many guys don't do it.
So it's your call.
2006-09-11 13:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were to go through with the date, and sex, and she thought it was going to be a lasting thing...then yeah you would be a jerk. BUT if she's just looking for a good time as well, then you both can have no-strings-attached fun without feeling bad. Talk to her, find out her intentions and expectations. If she believes that you want a longer term relationship, then you have a moral obligation to tell her that that's not what you're after. It's not bad to want sex, but it is bad to mislead someone.
2006-09-11 13:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by CurlyQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is your problem??? If you are dating just for sex, I think someone should castrate you and also I think all of the girls should avoid you. You suck! I hate guys who just want to get into girl's pants. It is you guys that make decent guys have a bad name. All of the girls should avoid you. You do not respect women. Let's say you were really much in love with you girlfriend then your girlfriend had sex with you and said "Let's just be friends", that would suck. And plus the fact that she might get pregnant and you may ruin her life permanently. I say you break up with her since you just sex with her. You are a pervert person.
If you want sex, go up to a hooker, than pay the hooker and there, you will have your sex session with the hooker. Leave the decent girls alone. I abhor people like you. Dump your girlfriend now.
2006-09-11 13:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why not that is typical for a guy to do anyway. Your the type that give Decent Guys Bad Reps. I'm sure they really appreicate that one. But like most young males that can not control third 2nd brain, love em leave em forget em.
Wait until the tables are turned.
2006-09-11 13:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want a proper relationship,then you shouldn't have sex with her!!!!it just shows that you don't respect women!!!what if you liked a girl and she had sex with you and she wasn't satisfied with your 'package' and she dumped you but you really liked her...how do you think you will feel?!!!women are not just toys you can use and then throw away!!!!but oviously you are too immature and too young to be having sex to know this!!!
2006-09-11 13:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes it's wrong!!!! Girls get emotionally attached n havin sex with a girl then telling her oh i just want to b friends is gonna TARE her up in side! even if she doesnt show it it's killin her, she thinks she really liked her OR LOVED her n she's gonna go into like a stae of depression if she is attached!
2006-09-11 12:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by lisa g 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If all you want is sex, then maybe you should just say so up front. Why cause needless drama and possible resentment? What if, instead of wanting to remain friends, she gets totally pissed and decides to stalk you?
2006-09-11 13:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have a heart? Don't you think you might hurt her? Would you like someone to do that to you if you really liked that person? Gosh NO!! Why don't you tell her that "Hey is it okay if we have sex and then everyone goes there own way?" :(
2006-09-11 13:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by gatita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it's mean.
sex isn't just some piece of candy that anyone can share, it's a sign of love or marrige. women/young teens get pregnant EVERY DAY because of chumps like you, who just do it for fun, and end up leaving them in the end. What if she DOES get pregnant? How would you like being called DADDY???
2006-09-11 13:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its kind of bad to do that. Why not man up and tell her you don't want a relationship with her just to be friends with benefits. She may go along with it.
2006-09-11 13:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋