I really want to finish college, but i really want a kid...help me please?

Question

I am first year in college, i plan on going for 6 years...but my life just isnt complete without a child.....some one give me some advice...

Answer 1

It's complete for now, believe me. You will of course love the child but you will regret it BIG TIME. Please don't do it, enjoy you freedom and your wonderful opportunity to get an education. Women everywhere in the world have the opportunity to get pregnant and sit home and take care of it but only a small percentage actually have the opportunity you have - to go to school. Please take advantage, you have til 40 to have a child and maybe even older than that.

Answer 2

Are you kidding? Just because you don't feel complete doesn't mean you should have a child. You need to finish school first. I know you've heard that line before but seriously you need an education first. I'm 27 and my daughter is 3 i went to beauty school when she was about 6 months old thinking i would have a future and make good money well guess what reality check i make **** for money and don't get child support it s really hard and i wish i would have gone to college but its so hard to do now . You have to think of all the time you could miss if the child is sick and you have to stay home with him or her you'd be missing classes which means you would have to make them up some how in a short amount of time. Just think about it its not all cracked up as it seems. I love my daughter dearly but i just wish i had a college education.

Answer 3

How old are you? if you are under say 28....stay in school and stay on the pill. If you are 30 or 35...then have a child, but be sure you have a stable environment, husband and family that will assist you with the child and you going to school. If you are young, like I think you are...this is a serious selfish feeling you currently are experiencing. This feeling must be controlled, otherwise you may end up pregnant just "because" and not be ready to provide for your child. Also, you may always regret the fact that you could not finish school because you got pregnant and did not have all your ducks in a row.... so think rationally and logically. You can do more once you have a degree, a better job, more money and a nicer home environment for your babies....
right?

Answer 4

I had 2 of my 4 children while going to college. I was in a loving, committed marriage with the man I am still married to 29 years later. It is possible to be both a college student and a parent, but it is extremely exhausting and time-consuming. There are many successful single parents in the world who are doing marvelous things with their lives. However, having a baby is a life-time commitment with the best case scenario being that you are in a stable, secure, loving marriage before starting your family. Your chance to finish college is the best right now at your stage of life when your focus can be on just that. When you are finished with college, you will be in a better position to financially support a child. Use your extra time now to volunteer at a Children's Hospital or a homeless shelter or a daycare center. Your passion for children can be directed to the many children who are in need of a caring adult in their lives until you are in the best position to have a child of your own.

Answer 5

FINISH SCHOOL!!! There is plenty of time for children later. I waited until I was 28 to get pregnant and I am still worried about the future. At least I know that I have the college part over with and will be able to raise my child in a educated and secure household!

Answer 6

I had to wait until my kids were old enough to go to school themselves before I went to college. And by that time I no longer wanted to be what I originally thought I wanted to be. I highly suggest finishing school first. Or at least waiting until the last year of college so that you can get a good job to support not only yourself, but your child and future child.

Answer 7

Finish college first. That way you will be much more financially able to care for a child.

You might look into volunteering with a big brother/big sister program or at local schools. It can be very rewarding and you can also learn a lot by working with special needs children.

Answer 8

Think as though you are at the end of your life looking back. Are you proud of your academic acheivements, your kids and grandkids, your ability to survive through periods of extreme poverty and come out of it raising caring, self-sufficient, loving, children? There is no right answer.
If you try and have children before you are making a steady income you will live in poverty/major debt for years, possibly forever. Do you want to eat dinner every night thinking 'I should stop eating now, food is really expensive'. As my friend and mother of 2 feels every day?
There is no substitute for having a child - I have a son and plan on more in the future - but it is such incredibly, unanticipated hard work and frustration having to study and make deadlines forr school, knowing your future depends on the grades you get might make your parenting skills falter.
I believe the goal of every parent is to be your child's guide through life. You cannot control this independent life, even if you try.
Take stock of your own personality and capabilities honestly and seriously before you make this decision.
If you take care of your body (eat healthy, don't smoke, don't drink excessively, keep active . . . ) you will be able to have children later in life and maybe enjoy them and have them enjoy you and life better.

Answer 9

Having a child while you are in college is very difficult, believe me, I did it. There will be many sleepless nights, because the only time you get to study is at night when your child is sleeping. Please weight the pros and cons carefully. Make you can can line-up and pay for RELIABLE and AFFORDABLE child care. But, do you really want your baby to spend all their beginning years in daycare while you sit in class? I hated doing that, and regret it to this day. It also really hard to take your little one to the library. Make sure you can afford it. Diapers, formula, doctors, hospital bills all add up very quickly. College budgets are usually pretty tight. If you will have to live off of government money to raise your child, please make a responsible decision, the best one for your soon to be child, and WAIT. If you can afford it, just know you are in for a rough 6 years. I was tough, but I wouldn't have gave it up for anything.

Answer 10

Finish college first. When you get the urge to have a child, do some babysitting. You might sign up for this to help you with college funds. Believe me, being a mother is a full-time job.