he is in prison for domestic violence and i just help him because i feel sorry for him.he got noone else.he got his family but they dont do **** for him.and i just dont want to be his girl anymore,i realized im better off without him.but like i said i cant help feeling sorry for him.how can i stop feeling this way and just get it over with.
2006-09-11 12:31:37 · 18 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i called the cops on him.and put him in prison for beating me.
2006-09-11 13:01:13 · update #1
don't feel sorry...LEAVE!!!
2006-09-11 12:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cherry I know exactly what you feel and I Experienced something like that ....Do not feel sorry imagine what makes you think he will not be the same with you ....just think about it domestic violence ...I think you should feel sorry for the girl or girls been living with him...it is scary you know ....a man hitting a woman or even worse saying verbal things that can destroy your selfsteem and Could make you feel the worst as a woman .....look he is in jail ...he is not innocent ...as adults we must take responsability for our own acts and this are the consecuences I think he has been manipulating you by trying to make you feel as he is the victim and also to make you think that he is not such a bad guy
Just be careful ...try to be away from him ....right now is your chance because if he gets out of jail it would be worse for you to break up....relationshops should be base in respect, love , trust
can you trust , respect and love a guy like him?
2006-09-11 19:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good news: You don't even have to be reponsible for youself! If you wait for him to get out, you won't have to leave him. He'll kill you or put you in the hospital. Then you'll really be able to milk the "Martyr" role, if that's what makes you feel worthy. Ridiculous? Think about what it is that makes you want this madness-- then purge it out of your system.
Leave the charity to the church. Get on with life. You have more power than you can even imagine. You have no reason to be desperate.
Look up "Narcissistic Personality Disorder." You'll see that any emotion or concern is wasted on him.
2006-09-11 19:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by georgia b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realise that the good times that you spend with him and the fun that you have with him are of a certain value
The bad times and the angst and the mising each other or the apparent lack of concern from him have another value.
Yiu have to set what you think these values are, but if the latter outweighs the first then you have to find the strength to finish it. As it is no longer working.
2006-09-11 19:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by Chris F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was young i was a victim of domestic abuse. I had to learn to turn off all emotions towards that person. Sometimes you have to be a little bit cold-hearted. Don't feel sorry for him. Do what is best for yourself. Leave him before he gets out.
2006-09-11 19:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always feel sorry for him.... But don't wait for the feeling to go away because it could take a year or two.
You realize you are better without him and he's the only one who can change his life... So just bite your lip and go through the pain you will feel... It will fade with time.
2006-09-11 19:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Domestic VIOLENCE and you feel sorry for HIM ?
What is the matter with YOU ? would be my question.
Stop being supportive of him....that tells more about you than him.
Can't you find a decent guy?
2006-09-11 19:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to think of what is best for you in this whole picture than just him and if you are better off w/o him tell him that. and that he is a good person but you need to move on with your life otherwise time will pass and you could of accomplished much more but you have him in your way.you need to get rid of him ASAP before it will get worse.
2006-09-11 19:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your conscience and be for real withyourself. Do what's best for you and get on with your life. Who's gonna feel sorry for you?
2006-09-11 19:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree.. dont feel sorry for him at all, he only has himself to blame for being in der, dats not ur fault n u shouldnt feel lyk u need to be der for him.. do u really want dis sort of guy in ur life? i fink u should be honest wid him n tell him straight out how u feel.
2006-09-11 19:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by bLoSsOm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so he hit someone he lives with at the very least. why feel sorry for someone who has only gotten the seeds thay have sow. not your fault he hurt someone not your fault he got punished for that. how is any part of his situation your fault. leave if you want to leave.
2006-09-11 19:34:21 · answer #11 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋