If I question my girlfriend about the guys she talks to, does it mean that I dont trust her?
2006-09-11 12:30:11 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, what do you care who she talks to if you trust her? Has she given you reason not to trust? If so, then it is justified, and the relationship is doomed.
2006-09-11 12:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by JillA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of circumstance are you asking "how was your day and did brian at work have it out with the evil seceratary lucy yet or what?" But if you are asking"who did you talk to, where did you go, oh yeah you probabley flirted with the guy who changed your tire?" Then you are being acusatory. You should know without having to ask whether you trust your girlfriend. Now a better question is why are you asking this. She is probabley telling you to just calm down and trust her. If that is the case (I could be wrong) then you should find out if you don't trust her or if you are being insecure. The girl is dating you for a reason breath.
2006-09-11 12:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by SassyFras85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That completely depends on the way you question her. If you are confrontational or dig for small details of her conversations, then yes, you come across as untrusting. If, however, you are asking just out of curiousity and boredom and are using a perfectly conversational tone, there is no reason for anyone to think that you are untrusting. You just want to know more about what goes on in her life--and that's a side effect of loving her.
I think the question you need to ask yourself here is DO you trust her?
2006-09-11 12:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by A.R. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my books it has to do with a little jealousy as well as curiosity and yes some trust issues (depending on the answers she gives back). I am female and have a ton of male friends - Now "friends" is the opperative word here. I like them and like hanging out with them. Nothing more - no romance, no holding hands - no more than what I would do with my best female friend.
2006-09-11 13:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In part. If somebody's prompting you toward that by their actions or something, yeah. You don't. Trust is a mutual thing. It's also relative considering we all fail, we all know we can't be trusted implicitly. But if what you have is real, it'll exclude untoward behavior. That's why the real thing is so rare.
2006-09-11 13:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friends says: of course! y else would u question her about the guys? i mean sure u may not trust them but u wouldnt question her if it was a matter of trust w/ HER! if u trusted her and not them ud prolly be questioning THEM! lol but that would still mean u prolly wouldnt trust her that much..
and i say..your just looking out for her. becase one of my other friends just recently got back together with her ex that cheated on her and i questioned her and i told her i thought he was an A$$!! and shes like well i know what im doing and i told her i was just looking out for her and she knows what i think of him so whatevs!
2006-09-11 12:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes if we lose trust in others .. it can be because we've been dishonest ourselves .. look in the mirror and ask your self .. am I that honest with her ..am I open enough .. do we talk to each other .. do you treat her like a dog .. want to put her on a leash .. be a friend to her 1st .. and I think the trust issues will go away ..
2006-09-11 12:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily. It depends on if she is presenting herself to them in an "innappriate" manor. If she is your girl, then she should make sure they know she is your girl. If you are questionong her because you are jealous of any guy she talks to then yes YOU have the issues not her. Trust is earned and not easily regained so becareful how you handle the situaton.
2006-09-11 12:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A casual question now and then is one thing. Constant questioning is letting her know that you are possessive and insecure and not trusting.
Take your pick. If she talks to guys and it makes you crazy, you got some problems that you need to deal with.
I am assuming that she is engaging in casual conversation with these guys and that is what I am basing my response on.
2006-09-11 12:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ,,,,it could also mean that you dont trust the men.. That would be my mans case,because he totally trusts me. He sees how some men act when he turns his back.
2006-09-11 12:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋