saying no one ever calls or comes to see her.and it makes me feel really sad and I try to tell her we just talked like a half hour ago and she dont believe me and hangs up .What can I do?
2006-09-11 12:28:11 · 17 answers · asked by Addie B 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
dan your mean I do know the name I DONT know how to spell it.
2006-09-11 12:33:36 · update #1
bareftcat _ what the heck are you talking about ?
I never said I was mean to her because Im not .
2006-09-11 12:35:39 · update #2
You shouldnt feel bad, simply because its not your fault your granny has this disease...I dont know how to spell it correctly either, but I know what you mean....Ill give it a go though, its alsheimers diesease....lots of people call it old timers disease and I think its pretty cute.
Your granny may hang up on you, but you know the good thing about this disease, is she is not going to remember hanging up on you. She may say no one comes to see her or talk to her, but she is going to forget that too.
I am 52 now, and if I had to get an old timers disease, I think I would choose this one. Just imagine I would be meeting new friends everyday because I couldnt remember if someone visited me or called or not.....so every phone call, every visit would be a new one. I know this sounds a bit flippant, but your granny really cannot remember and there is nothing you can do about it. She says these things because it is out of her control.
You can only love her and keep on doing what you are doing. When you do visit or talk to her, try to talk about fun things, and when she starts to say negative things, just say...I love you...Thats all you can do. She cannot remember and you have to be realistic about this disease. There is nothing you can do to make her remember and as much as you want her to remember she just cant....Thats the nature of the disease.
I think you are just wonderful to care so much for your great granny, you must love her heaps. You are doing everything possible just by loving her. She cannot help not remembering, and you worrying about it is just going to make you stress.
You have to think when she accuses you of not visiting, when she hangs up on you, she wont even remember the call. So the guilt you are feeling by thinking she thinks you are not visiting is really quite wasted because she wont even remember saying that.
Cheer up....You can do nothing more than you are doing. Its the disease and you have no control over it, either does your great granny.
2006-09-11 13:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother had the same thing. It was called senile dementia. She would constantly complain that people were stealing her jewelry and her mail. After she died we found all of the checks she claimed were stolen from her. She had hidden them all over the place and then forgot she had done that. I am sorry you have to go through this, but as far as I know there is no cure. Maybe you could give her a big calendar with a pen, and when you talk to her have her write it on the calendar? Just be grateful she remembers to call you. My grandmother didn't even remember who her children were.
2006-09-11 19:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Scarlet 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's called Alzheimer's disease and unfortunately those are some of the things that happen, paranoia, forgetting things that happened a few minutes ago, maybe it's time your family decides if it is time to place her in a specialized alzheimers unit where there aren't any expectations for those who have problems with memory...alzheimers is FATAL remember that, so it will never get better
2006-09-11 20:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by ang2164 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alzheimer's plays with the memory of the patient. They reunite with past stages in their life within a matter of minutes. Be sensitive to her even if you don't understand. I suggest you read on the disease so that you can cope with the situation better. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 19:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Danie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the disease is called Alzheimer's Disease and you could try when you visit writing her a note and leaving it where she is sure to find it...say something sweet ad put the date on it. also, get her a calendar, when she finds the note she can compare the date w/ the day
2006-09-11 19:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by candy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley there isn't much that you can do. There are some medications that can help slow the process. Be supportive and if she gets upset, remember it's not your fault. Check out the alzheimer's society http://www.alz.org/ for support, education and resources
2006-09-11 19:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by nymphetamine1978 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alzheimer's disease*
there is nothing you can do - as far as I know, my mom works with Alzheimer's patients a lot, she just tries to be pleasant all the time, because arguing and being mean is just .... well mean, because they won't remember things anyway.... horrible disease really
2006-09-11 19:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by anachronymph 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honey it is called Alzhiemers disease and I know that it is hard to spell but you can use your spellcheck. Does your granny live alone? If so maybe she is just lonely and need company.
2006-09-11 19:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have bigger worries then that?
Does she live alone? Does she have a caretaker? She needs someone.
If she does not remember your phone calls, she could be a danger to herself.
There is nothing you can do about her forgetting, she has alzheimer's. That is very unfortunate.
2006-09-11 19:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by starting over 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not your fault. You shouldn't feel bad. Just talk to her on a normal basis even if she forgets you know.
2006-09-11 19:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by floridaguy0987 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋