I just moved into this neighbourhood and I met this guy who want to be my friend. I told him Im very sketical about male friends cause after a while they want to get with me. (I have a boyfriend overseas) So he assurred me he wouldnt and introduced me to his girl. He called me one afternoon offering oral sex. I stop talking to him and today his girl asked me why and she want to know the truth. Should I tell her?
2006-09-11 12:27:46 · 38 answers · asked by Simply Put 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she said he told her the reason I stop talking to him was because I was upset because he told me that she is uncomfortable with him being my friend
2006-09-11 12:44:00 · update #1
Absolutely tell her, she has a right to know what kind of guy she's with, what she chooses to do, or not do, with that information is up to her. You owe it to yourself and his girlfriend to be honest, after all, he could be doing this with God knows who and putting her at risk for STD's in the process.
Honesty IS the best policy.
2006-09-11 12:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Angeleyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that only you can solve, but someone is going to be hurt. Most guys would joke about this thing, but it's serious. I believe you should tell her. Even if she dosen't believe you, it will most likely not be your problem any more. There are no wrong choices in life, because for good or bad, they are your choices. So, no matter what, stay calm and Smile:)
P.S. I take offense to the whole Boys always come on to you thing. I'm a boy, and I haven't done that.
:) Just kidding :)
2006-09-11 12:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Reiku 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What will happen if you tell? She will confront her boyfriend. He will deny it. He will convince her you are a liar. He may even say that it was you who asked him for sex and that you are just covering your tracks. She is likely to believe him, since he is her boyfriend and you are just some random girl. Ethically, you probably should tell her, but just be aware of the downside.
2006-09-11 12:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell her. She deserves to know her boyfriend is a looser. Maybe you two can remain friends. But you need to start the relationship out on an honest note. Good luck. I also think you should tell your bf.
2006-09-11 13:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think no u shouldnt tell her because then u gonna get involve into a drama and i think u dont want dat ...just cancel ur friendship with them and dont talk to them anymore . try to get new friend and better that those i think there is a big world outher and there are not the only persons that u can be friends with
2006-09-11 12:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell her...but please don't expect her to believe you. People have a tendency to not want to believe things that they don't like, especially when the information is coming from an unfamiliar source. Friendships have broken up over unwanted information.
Be as gentle as possible when you tell her. Don't be confrontational. You want her to believe you not just for your own credibility but to save her future pain as well.
2006-09-11 12:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by A.R. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think you should. If your boyfriend offered another girl oral sex, I'm sure you would want to know.
2006-09-11 12:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by lovlouis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really don't know to much about this girl and how she would react. Just tell her that you have been busy and haven't been talking with anyone for awhile. You don't need trouble being new to the neighborhood.
2006-09-11 12:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by asia s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i think you should tell her because you never know if her boyfriend will go up to her and tell her that you were the one who offered him oral sex and then she's gonna see you as the bad person when in reality he's the bad one. good luck!
2006-09-11 12:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you tell her she might not believe you. She will take his word over yours because you are new in the neighborhood. Maybe after you get to know her a little better then you can tell her.If she dont believe you then forget the both of them.
2006-09-11 12:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋