Throw your happy relationship with a loving boyfriend for someone that you have long known but have never met.
2006-09-11 12:19:10 · 27 answers · asked by Belle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No... but then again I don't know enough about either of the people you're talking about so this is something you'd have to decide on your own.
2006-09-11 12:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ashlee S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends on whether or not you love your loving boyfriend. If you do, if he is "the one," then you stick, understanding that it's normal to find other people attractive from time to time - he does, too, and the world is full of attractive people.
If you aren't sure, then you tell your BF that you're having doubts, and decide together what you're going to do about it. If you know that you're fond of the BF, but not in love with him, it's just not the relationship you want to settle into... then you tell the BF that and let him find someon who's sure he's the one.
Now, about guy #2... someone you've "long known but have never met"? Are we talking "I've seen every movie he's ever made," or "we talk on the internet?" In either case, you don't really know this person yet. You know what he's told you so far. If you want to know more, it's time to meet, in person, somewhere public, and safe, and see if you're interested in more than that.
The thing is, this isn't a choice between guy #1 and guy#2 - it's not like you have a life preserver, so do you let go of it and try clinging to the piece of driftwood floating by, knowing the life preserver will float away. It's about who you are, who you want to be, and who you love.
If you love guy #1, then that's where you stay. If you don't love him enough, or in the way that would let you be happy with him without looking over your shoulder, then it's time to let him find someone who does feel that way about him, while you find the person you feel that way about. Good luck!
2006-09-11 19:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you met someone online or something. It's hard to say what to do. You are obviously not completely happy with your man or else you wouldn't be talking to another guy. If in fact the other guy is someone from online, just don't get caught up in the excitement! You are excited about this other guy ONLY because you haven't met him. Think about it. If you had met him, you might be excited about HIM, but you haven't met him. Sooo..it's the excitement of possibly meeting him and what he COULD be, not necessarily what he in fact IS. It's so easy to get caught up with people online. I'm guilty of it. It's so easy to wake up in the morning with crust in your eye, bad breath and baggy eyes and hop on the comp and chat with someone. lol They won't see you so there is NO FEAR, you can be someone you're not if you really wanted to. THEN you actually meet the person and things change. It has to change. Once you meet ther person things will really change. Could be better or could be worse or not much of a change. If you have a great boyfriend, I would say try and work it out with him. Sounds like you are communicating better with this other guy who you haven't met. But think about that for a minute....ofcourse you will communicate better with someone you haven't met, because you have nothing to lose. He doesn' KNOW you. It's almost like you're giving Chevy a check for a car you haven't even seen yet. Why would you do that? Would you put a mortgage on a house you haven't inspected yet? The house may look great on the outside, but what if it has no electrical and no running water on the inside? Now you're screwed when you had a perfectly good townhome! Lol I hope you get my point. What you have is someting good...you COULD make it better. Don't trade in the sedan you had for the past 3 years with NO problems for a sports coupe that has POTENTIAL but hasn't been inspected. Someone will be right there to scoop up your Mr. Reliable and while you take a gamble. If you can't resist....meet the guy. If it doesn't work out..trust me...you'll run back to your man and violate him bed probably! lol If the OTHER one gets your attention.......well then now we have a problem and you might have to update this question! lol Good luck...take care.
2006-09-11 19:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by vmdv15 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just because you known them a long time does not mean that person is going to share the same things you like to do. You might be totally different in person. And who's not to say this person hasn't told a couple of "white" lies. Good relationships are hard to find, I say if you're happy then leave it alone.
2006-09-11 19:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by primetimekj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never!! who do u love more??
Compare people....ex.-If i liked someone named josh and someone named eric and they both asked me out and i was trying to decide which to say yes to i would write down what the bad things about josh and whats the bad things about eric such as oh eric is shorter than me but hes cuter than josh.....that kinda thing or josh is much nicer than eric or something like that.
2006-09-11 19:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by marrrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are even considering it suggests that you are not as happy as you would like to be. If that is the case, take a chance.......assuming you have seen a photo and like it, and have spoken to or corresponded and like etc.,etc.,
2006-09-11 19:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nisey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no stay with the happy relationship the aim is to be happy in life
2006-09-11 19:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by rob f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEE the guy first! This doesn't mean a date, just see him. Seeing him is nothing to be guilty about... do you really trust him? How do you know him? Don't make a choice you will regret later. Think about this
2006-09-11 19:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never throw away anything you have that is good. But if you aren't sure that it's all that good, then by all means, throw it away.
Good luck :)
2006-09-11 23:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relationships are like gambling. honey keep your winnings and walk away. chances are if you put it all on the table for something that looks like its worthwhile but you know theres a chance that you will walk away broken hearted. good luck on making the right decision.
2006-09-11 19:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by purpleartof5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your happy why take the risk of an uncertainty
2006-09-11 19:23:21 · answer #11 · answered by preciousmoments1962 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋