I like being around people. in a relationship. etc. When I'm alone, I feel lonely. How can I learn to feel complete all by my lonesome? and to like to be alone??
2006-09-11 12:19:09 · 24 answers · asked by rhiannon2797 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Remember girl, being alone does not mean you are lonely. In your solitude you can experience peace that nobody could experience but yourself. I am a quiet person...but I am also an extrovert. I used my qiuetness to think of the people I cherished..I write poetry..i write blogs...I celebrate my success in my silence..You wil be a different being if you practice being away once in a while from the loudness of the social life.
2006-09-11 12:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by maconsolviaa 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is such an important part of growing up. I mean that as in the old saw that says that "some people grow up, and some people grow only old". Being comfortable being alone is tough for some people. Other answers to your question are right-on: find something you like to do by yourself, perhaps a new hobby or even a new pet, if possible. One thing that you can do alone is discover who you are. Re-acquaint yourself with you. Who are you? What do you want from life and how will you get there? Try to avoid distractions, especially the phone or computer, where others can contact you, and visa-versa. Be happy with yourself and what you do. Read a great book, then write about youself as the main character, but write what you might have done differently.
But overall, look at this as a great journey and cherish each moment and each discovery. Most of all, Good Luck!
2006-09-11 12:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am arrogant and absolutely self-possessed. I love myself and I honestly think that I am great and this is a great way to be.
This has led to me feeling that I don't need the attention of others around me. I ave found somehing in myself that I enjoy being and therefore don't feel lonely when I am by myself.
I do, however, have others that I can call on at any time of day or night. But because I have these then I don't need them.
FInd out why you need people around. Look into yourself and see what it is in you that calls out for them, If you can simulate that without needing them there than you will be able to survive on your own. But don't do it completely, make sure you have the true friends that you can turn to if needed.
2006-09-11 12:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Chris F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 46 years old and am Bipolar and live alone. I hate it. My kids are living on their own and I still cannot get the hang of living alone. I have two dogs and still hate living alone. I guess some of us are just made to live alone and some of us hate being alone yet living alone. Stay on the internet if you can. That is what I do and time seems to fly plus you have the added benefit of being able to talk to someone.
2006-09-11 12:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hobbies, projects, clean, shop, surf on line, walk the dog, veg to some good tunes, watch a great chick flick(with a box of tissues and bon bons), take up photography. I find people can get in the way of all that. Gosh, I totally love my own company. Love my friends too but I'm around people all day and it's great to settle down with myself. Hope that helped. Oh ya, relax in a hot bath with candles. I could go on and on and on :)
2006-09-11 12:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Creative activities that you enjoy, painting, writing, drawing, gardening, cooking, long hot baths with lots of smelly stuff! And that's just the beginning. Your question has it's own answer if you like to be around people be around people, there are always times that we feel alone but you might be confusing aloneness with boredom.
2006-09-11 12:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by pink poodle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First find the most annoying group of people you can find and spend as much time with them as you think you can stand, then spend a day more. When you finally get free of them, you will appreciate the blissfulness of solitude. When it starts to wear off, just call one of them up for a quick 5 minute annoying chat, and you will remember how nice it is not to hear from them.
2006-09-11 12:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by AngryMarvin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I loved being single for that 1 yr between ex hus. and new boyfriend. I would go for walks in the park and admire nature. I took art classes that I'd been wanting to take. I also wrote in a journal. It was nice to have time alone to take care of myself. I went to the gym and worked out.. and I went shopping sometimes. Then I also spent alot of time trying to figure out what I wanted to go to college for and what kind of future I wanted to aim for in my life. So, those are some ideas.
2006-09-11 12:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start by learning to love yourself. Make a list of all the things you like about you and some things that maybe you'd like to change and/or work on. Start doing things like going to the movies, parks, walks, dinner, etc. by yourself and soon you will see the beauty and fun in you.
2006-09-11 12:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by monique718 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey i am so with you on this one i am the same way but i have found that doing something or even taling to someone has helped me alot and having ppl to support you along the way helps even more. liking to be alone is not easy at all i can tell ya that all the way.....but finding something to do that you really like dose keep your mind off of it too.....if it was not for my friends and my neighbers i think i really would have had a melt down...stick in there and good luck i wish you the best
2006-09-11 12:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by sunwind25 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋