My friend meet her ex-boyfriend at a sport event, she had her son with her too. her sister and mom was with her, they never meet her son father. until then, ( by accident) he did'nt say hello to her, or the child. the child never meet his real dad, but know his name and what he look like. both of them are marriage to other people. at the end of the event he did said hello to her only, and made a comment "I don't know should I say anything." his wife was with him at th time, I say he did'nt want to disrespect her by holding a conversation, she was hurt that he did'nt say hello to the child, because she said that she told him about him. what do you think of this?
2006-09-11 12:12:02 · 16 answers · asked by birdsdafly 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
pretty messed up family.
2006-09-11 12:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes please go to ESL...
but anyways about the situation. I am sure u d ont know the whole story. i Feel really bad for the child. u already know he is going to be screwed up and as far as the father. even though he might have had some confrentation with the mother. (still not really knowing what the story is) he still should have tried to be there for him. I know how it is to have a mother but she was never there. (i was raised by the grandparents) I hope maybe this is a lost memory for the child and maybe it was a good thing he never knew his father. I hope his step father is a good man.
2006-09-11 19:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by th1gurl23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they had arranged to meet at the sporting event and everybody was aware of who else might be there, then the father should have said something to his child. if it was coincidence that they were all at the same event, then perhaps it was best to not put everyone in an awkward position by trying to have conversation with the child he never met before.
he asked the mother whether he should say anything, so it sounds to me like he was trying to respect her wishes. at that point, if she expected him to say something to the child, she should have told him to or at least introduced them. he could have said hi to everyone there instead of not saying hi to just the child but he was probably unsure about how it would have been interpreted (or misinterpreted) if he did. it was the mother's job to guide him once he asked whether he should say anything.
2006-09-11 19:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by jbslass 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is hard. But if the father has never been involved in the child's life, then you cant expect him to feel comfortable toward the child. I think mabey he could have said more mabey hi, but he might be scared too. Mabey next time you see him set up a visitation.
2006-09-11 19:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is the third one that I have read that sounds like a hillbilly wrote it. Please bone up on your writing skills, it would make it so much more pleasant to answer your question.
I think what happened here is indicative of this society dumbing down to the very lowest common denominator. Obviously we have some serious problems in our society, as this type of thing happens on a daily basis to thousands of children in this country.
I am going to sound like my parents (and God help me for that), but Jeez, this stuff did not happen with as much frequency when I was growing up. People stayed together, for the sake of the kids, whether they liked it or not.
2006-09-11 19:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the ex-boyfriend was the boys father and he knew it but the girl was with others that didn't know waht was up then it could have started a conflict if he made contact and if people was packin' then maybe bullets would have started flyin' and someone, maybe his kid would have gotten hurt
he was cool not makin' conract because there could have been trouble
2006-09-11 19:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have said hello to the child. His child or not.
2006-09-11 19:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isnt anyone thinking about the child here??? Screw the adults and how this might affect them.... what about the child????
2006-09-11 19:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by kitty.hicks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are both to concerned with themselves and not concerned enough with the child.
2006-09-11 19:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no wonder she dumped him!
that is just wrong! the poor boy never met his own father and there when they were all together that bastard of a man couldnt even say hi son??
that is just messed up!
2006-09-11 19:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♥? imma b ur shorty♥? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wth i didnt under stand th at can u re pea t th at pl ee se
2006-09-11 19:50:58 · answer #11 · answered by zkinx6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋