Should I go?

Question

I have been seeing a counsellor for a few weeks last week i was talking about a incedent when my father took me somewher covered my head and told me he was going to shoot a child because she had talked about the abuse. He infact shot my pet rabbit and then made me wear its foot as a lucky charm to remind me what would happen if I told anyone.

The counsellors are saying it was part of a ritual but i do not remember that much of it and dont think it was. We are talking about ritualistic stuff.

it is really put me off should i bother going if try are going to try and put there opion on the memory? Do you think they are right?

Isnt it my memory and shouldnt they just be listening to me not giving an opion on it

Answer 1

No, the councillors are there to listen and then give an opinion, so that you may come to understand, or be able to deal with the event, memory or situation.
By the way, I think your father is a sick f*ck!!!

Answer 2

Baby that was a terrible thing for anyone to do to a child. In fact it is down right sick. How it could not be in your memory for the rest of your life is beyond me. Keep going to therapy for the post traumatic stress. If that doesn't work see a Psychiatrist to get on some meds to relax you a little bit. I am sorry that that happened to you that was a cruel thing to do to you as a child. I wish I could say more, I really do feel bad for you. Try and keep your mind busy and not think about it (easier said than done)but give it a try. God Bless you and I hope that it gets better for you.

Answer 3

If You Are Not Happy With Your Counsellor Ask To See a New One.
They Are There To Listen Not Opinion-ate.

Answer 4

Your counsellor might have meant that it was a ritual in that your father did it in a ritualistic way in order to enforce what he was saying so that you would never forget and accidentally tell.

However if you don't feel comfortable with anything that your counsellor says then you should first of all discuss that with them and if you cannot resolve it find someone else who you are comfortable with.

Go back to your counsellor and tell them what you have told us.

Good luck

Answer 5

if you dont feel they are helping you then stop going, you can always get a new one, but sometimes we need to be asked questions that makes us look deeper within and that may in turn makes us question the memories we have, for through-out our life our memories get jumbled and mixed up and we then have our own made up image of the past some which is true some which is not. some question are made to get us thinking and dealing with the problem that we already have the answers too.

Answer 6

Counselling is supposed to help you get to the bottom of things and there will be periods of "challenge".
Have you ever had a dream (about an everyday occurence) and then thought it really happened a few days later?

The mind can play tricks on you, especially during periods of high stress.

I am truly sorry you went through that, i hope your father was brought to justice.

Answer 7

I think that you need to talk to someone who can listen-you don't want any false memories the ones you have are pain enough. I'd go and tell your counsellor how you feel about them, the thing with talking is when you talk about it more, it hurts less and your subconcious can sort it rather than screwing you up. Hugs

Answer 8

they don't have the answers and are learning along with you ,
you have obviously suffered trauma and what happened needs to be put in a logical light before you can put it behind you .

they are not trying to change your memory's but to help you see them as others more fortunate than you would .

your frustration tells me that you should go back , remember a child brought up in a cage thinks its perfectly normal and would probably laugh if someone said it wasn,t , it takes a long time to teach someone that what they consider normal is not .

have patience good luck x

Answer 9

I don't know anything about ritualism, but what your father did is definitely abusive. I think you should continue with counseling to deal with that trauma and whatever else you might be going through. But if the counselor you currently have isn't helping you or you disagree with their approach, go to someone else.

Answer 10

Thats a difficult one, it may just be that this counsillors style is not right for you...try finding another one. These are issues that should be dealt with so you can have a happy future...worthwhile talking to someone who understands that you might just need someone who will listen to you.