I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 years and we broke up because we've been fighting too much....during that break she started hanging out with people who did a lot of drugs she got with this one guy and had sex with him (she claims she was drunk and high)...ok i forgave her...then we started going out again because she claims that he treated her like crap and she couldn't stop thinking about me...and two into it she went over some dude's house and took ecstasy and had sex with him..she claims she didn't know that would happen...now..my dilemma..I can't get over it..over the fact that she had sex with someone else and that she cheated on me..we are currently going out but I can't get it off my mind..I keep thinking that perhaps the only reason she got back together with me is because i didn't treat her like crap and there was nothing better out there..I can't get over the fact she had sex with 2 guys and i've only been with her...someone help me please will i ever get over it
2006-09-11 11:44:41 · 11 answers · asked by thatguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I appreciate all of the input..I just do not know what to do..I love her and can't see myself with anyone else besides her...we're both very compatible and just as crazy...sometimes I just wanna hurt her on purpose the same way she hurt me..and I do not think that makes a healthy relationship but at the same time I do not wanna lose her...I'm confused...she keeps telling me that she loves me and I do believe her but i find myself always thinking she is cheating on me or thinking of doing that..I just drive myself crazy ...i'm hoping to work through that and get over it..the events I described took place about a year ago (we've been going back out for a year now and these feelings have started resurfacing)..guess im gonna have to do a lot of thinking..thanks everyone
2006-09-11 11:59:35 · update #1
She is disrespecting and taking advantage of the fact that you love her. You can not build a relationship when you can not trust her fidelity and why would anyone tolerate a woman (or any person) who does not respect herself either?!! Getting high and drunk then casually sleeping with people is not a sign of a healthy, centered individual.
Move on to someone who will treat you as well as you do her.
2006-09-11 11:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by ldylili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a 16 12 months-historic guy. The percentages are, you will not be with this woman ceaselessly, and you would conveniently find someone higher suited to you seeing that you have not even reached the years when you're going to change probably the most. You two absolutely seem to be in tune with every other, which might be why you are bored or would be bored; because you already know what she's considering, have all of the equal interests and stuff like that, she could simply not be that intriguing or fascinating anymore. It is certainly boredom, and it is usual in relationships when the "honeymoon phase" is over. Give things a different shot. Are trying doing new things together, consider external the field. If that doesn't work, i'd recommend that you split amicably and check out to be pals once you're each in a healthful situation and over every different.
2016-08-09 14:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by harting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a sixteen yr-historic man. The odds are, you're going to now not be with this lady ceaselessly, and also you might comfortably uncover anybody greater fitted to you due to the fact that you have not even reached the years whilst you're going to difference probably the most. You 2 obviously appear to be in track with every different, which might be why you are bored or might be bored; due to the fact that you understand what she's pondering, have the entire identical pursuits and stuff like that, she might simply now not be that interesting or fascinating anymore. It is surely boredom, and it is normal in relationships whilst the "honeymoon section" is over. Give matters an additional shot. Try doing new matters in combination, consider external the field. If that does not paintings, I'd advocate that you simply cut up amicably and check out to be peers as soon as you are each in a healthful position and over every different.
2016-08-21 07:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants the stability of you and the thrills of a dangerous playground. Unfortunately she can't seem to leave that playground, but that sure doesn't mean you have to stand there and wait.
Let her know that you are not willing to put up with the behavior of her doing drugs and sleeping around. Either she is with you and learns how to act like a respectable person or she can just go play at the playground. No ifs, ands, or buts. Do NOT let yourself get dragged into that scene!
2006-09-11 11:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, Im not sure on YOUR stance on drugs, but the fact that she did/does drugs should be enough reason to stop seeing her right now. On top of that it also seems that the so called grass was not greener on the other side, so she cam running back to you. A drug user and a cheater, my advise cut the loss now.
2006-09-11 11:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by primetimekj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. She's using the drugs/alcohol as an excuse to cheat. If she respected you and your relationship, she wouldn't put herself in situations that would get her in trouble.
2006-09-11 11:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by sunssecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously she saw herself with other people besides you...
im sorry to say this but get over her!
She DOESNT LOVE YOU!
obviously if everyone on here is telling u they same shi* then listen.
Just think about her fuc*** the other guys when u miss her and thne your be pissed off...
2006-09-11 12:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her walking papers. Yes, you will get over it. With time you will find someone who truly appreciates you for you
2006-09-11 11:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no point staying in such an comfortable relationship
2006-09-11 11:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by K Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her or she will keep breaking your heart ,you are being played...dont stand for it you deserve better
2006-09-11 11:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋