im not really in with the popular crowd...but this new kid i REALLY like sorta is. he doesn't hate me...he talks to me constantly b/c i sit by him, but usually i talk first. anyway, one of the stupid, popular girls sorta kinda likes him too, and even tho she also likes another boy, im guessing she'll get him, because for reasons im guessing you know, she's considered really, really pretty and desirable. ive never had a bf, and im in 9th grade...and i've never really been 'out' with the popular crowd, though im sort of socially acceptable b/c i have some new friends that are in with all those ppl. My question is this: you now know my situation very well, what should i do to win this guy? ask him to the homecoming dance? wait for sadie hawkins in october? ask him to hang out? im thinking of inviting him to fright night, at our amusement park...its before homecoming, so im thinking i could ask him there. but, if i don't talk to any of his friends, should i invite them 2? What should i do?
2006-09-11 11:36:15 · 12 answers · asked by aerie anna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you're going to tell me to do something like grow up, obviously you were a jerk/b i t c h in high school, and are an old annoying person now. you have no idea what im talking about so go away.
2006-09-11 11:39:28 · update #1
hey i know this is a lot to read..but i want to thank ALL you guys for the advice..i wish i could pick them all for best answer, i really do...except a few annoying ones. anyway, ill try most of ur advice, and c how it goes...btw, we're both in most of each others classes cause we're both in like honors/special classes, and i don't think he deserves to have a stupid girlfriend. is there a way to help him realize this? do you think he already does? if so, why does he pay attention to that crowd and not so much to me. he waves and smiles at me, but only when i do first, and i can't help wondering if he waves and smiles at the popular girls too...what are your thoughts on that?
2006-09-11 14:41:00 · update #2
Don't take this the wrong wayI noticed you're not very aggressive. Maybe that's the only reason you're not popular. But that's something that's easily fixed (trust me, I know) Using words like "kinda" and "sorta" and "not exactly" shows me you're a bit of a placater. You need to get out there and get what you want. Sure you'll be turned down now and then, maybe even alot. But the more you get turned down and get right back up and do it again, the less it will bother you and and the stronger you'll become. Don't wait. Get to him before someone else does. If he turns you down now, it won't be because you didn't wait. If you wait, you'll definitely have less of a chance. You don't even have to ask him. Just flirt with him and make him ask you. You can pretend you don't know how to be fun or don't want all the "popular" things, but the reality is, it's up to YOU and you alone to get yourself what you want. Don't be afraid of people anymore. You seem likea great person. Now get out there and kick some stupid girl butt...
2006-09-11 11:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rockstar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As in Fright Night at Lagoon? Definitely ask him there. Get a couple of your friends, and a few of his, and go as a group. That place is so dang fun! And don't be clingy and act silly. If you are genuinely frightened, that's one thing, but acting like a ditz is not attractive. If you ask him to that, you can spend some time talking and stuff, and he will know that you are into him. If he is interested in you, he should give you a signal or sign about it, and you can proceed from there.
(If you weren't talking about Lagoon, that's fine, still ask him to Fright Night. Any amusement park is very cool after sunset, especially with the spooky atmosphere.)
2006-09-11 11:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sort of slip the question in about the fright night during the course of a casual conversation.
Don't even worry about the "popular crowd". Usually they are just legends in their own minds anyway. Face it, they are only popular with themselves, aren't they? They certainly aren't popular with anyone else - typically they are mean-spirited, spiteful, nasty people who are very impressed with themselves. Who really wants to be a part of that group?
Be yourself - you - a unique individual. Any person worth hanging out with isn't going to just "shop" in the popular crowd group for that person. If they did, that person would be just as small as they are.
2006-09-11 11:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't talk to his friends doesn't mean you can't approach him.
I would say you should go for it before the other girl gets to it. I mean, it's worth a chance, even if he does turn you down; you'll never know unless you try.
I hate when people think just because they're not AS popular, that they can't date someone. As long as there is a connection between the two, who cares what crowd you're in, as long as theres feelings involved!
2006-09-11 11:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
derinately the fright night thing and let it progress from there its just that simple you sound like you know what to do your just nervous, if you really want this guy go get him. also remember your young and dating think of it as practice. also forget about his freinds they will show up on there own, use them to see if he is attracted to you like if he shys away when there around that type stuff. anyway Im no expert so have fun and be young. life is in the journey not the destination
2006-09-11 11:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Aaron A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a tuff situation you got there, Ive never had that probalem being a guy, but listen you should probably just wait until the next dance, but stil go , and try and snatch that boy and if the other girl starts ****, then who cares she is probably on drugs...lol anyways wait until the other dance
2006-09-11 11:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by J from O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont take him to the amusment park bcuz he'll get bored nd it'll b acward but ask him to hang out with u like to the movies or sumthin nd dont ask him out wait for him to ask u out..nd if he asks the popular girl than leave it alone nd find some1 better.
2006-09-11 11:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by fillojeta a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he wants to hang out. amusement pak is a great place to get close to him. go on a scary ride and tell him he has to hold ur hand on the ride
2006-09-11 11:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by Chardonnay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u look like a gigling girl,dont worry.
some guy go after beauty, some guy curious to find girl with beautiful mind(as u r)
and God created a partner for each one of us.
2006-09-11 11:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by rav 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do whatever u have to do but make sure u ask him out before she does, u sound like the better person in my opinion to be with
2006-09-11 11:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Rather Dashing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋