14 years old..sex..?

Question

I just recenttaly had sex with my 14 year olad bf ( iam also 14), we both agreed to have it and neither were pushed.We have gone out for almost two years now.I really love him but i feel so guilty and gross. I am a noramlly good student and i dont do anything bad,s o i should i tell my parent even though im not preganant?

Answer 1

Yes you should tell your mother about it. You should be on some kind of birth control. Till you are on some kind of birthcontrol don't have sex. You would really be better off to wait till you are older to have sex.

Answer 2

Why did you feel the need to have sex so young? If you can answer that with anything but (it seemed like the next step or my boyfriend wanted to or we were curious) then I will be shocked. It is not that your bodies were not ready for it, or that it is beyond comprehension that you would want to express your feelings with your boyfriend in a physical way but if you have have to ask if you should tell your parents and you feel 'guilty and gross' then you were and are not ready for that sort of commitment and I would tell your boyfriend that until your are that this part of your relationship has to wait. Only when we see things from a distance (in this case time) do all the reasons for and feelings about them come into focus.
I hope you have the sort of relationship with your parents that you can talk to them about how you are feeling about what you have done. If going to them is too big a step then talk to a counselor at school or an older friend. Just to have a sounding board for your thoughts and feelings.
Again your question gave your the answer. You do not want to continue this so DON'T.
And congrats for asking in the first place that took guts!

Answer 3

Your parents should always be somebody you should go to with things you are worried or scared about, and you seem lucky that you have that option. If you don't for some reason, just find some adult you trust (preferably a femlae), and aunt, teacher, counsellor, or just a close family friend. You'd be surprised how much better you feel after talking about something you're keeping inside you. If you are religious, confession is also a great way to get things off your chest and start over with a clean slate. I just got married and waited until then to have sex, and I am so happy that I did, but don't think that you can't start over again, and recommit yourself to not have sex until marriage, or if you are not a person that wants to wait, at least recommit yourself until you find the right person. And don't listen to the previous answers, life starts long before college, life starts then for people that are only looking to party. Best of luck girl, and just talk to somebody older about it. =)

Answer 4

Listen, all young kids feel gross the first time they have sex. All that blood and pain. The first time I had sex with a girl we were both freaked out and didn't speak to each other for a week. You need to know it does get better though, and more pleasurable. Just remember to always, always use protection I have had two sisters, who have gotten knocked up because they ere too stupid to use condoms and birth control. Also, you probably shouldn't tell your parents, but if you for some reason feel an overwhelming need then tell your mom first not your dad. Dad's usually freak out about that kinda thing.

Answer 5

Your what 16 now? Don't worry about it. Life only gets harder. In fact the best advice that I could give you is to break up and see other people. The people you know from school is such a small percentile of the country. I mean think about it do you really want to pick one person out of a group of like 10 to spend the rest of you life with when you're gonna meet thousands of other people? My advice is meet new people, Don't close doors before they open. Go to college and do what you like. Contrary to the popular belief of high school students, nothing you do in high school means anything in the real world. College is were life starts. I know this because I'm in my second year of college and it's rough. But life still goes on.

Answer 6

Look, you did it and its not like you were doing drugs and drinking alcohol . Its normal to have sex and it would be best to tell them because it would make you feel better and not feel like you are white trash. Its normal to do those things, just please do not have a baby i went through it and i got pregnant. I'm not saying its bad but you need to enjoy your life to the fullest. and know this you are just 14 don't try to grow up real quick okay enjoy life and try to get the best of it.

Babies are beautiful but always Wait until you can support them and give them what they deserve. Don't bring a baby to this world if you know you are not ready. Use condoms and tell your mom your not a virgin anymore so she can take you to go get some birth control. Think about your safety. Don't worry if you mom is going to get mad, she will get over it.

At least tell her you want to get some birth control.

I hope that you and your loved one be together for a long time. It's beautiful being in love.

Good luck

Answer 7

tell your mom. you may get into a little trouble, but that's life. You need to start going to a girl doctor now because that is the responsible thing to do. You'll feel better in the end if you do this with your mom, because she just might know what she is talking about. And if you feel guilty and gross because you have had sex, well that's a pretty good sign it was too soon. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

I don't think you should feel obligated to spill all to your parents, but now you see why it's best to wait until you're older to have sex. Most people your age just aren't psychologically prepared for it. And you're certainly not financially prepared to be a parent, should your exploration result in a baby.

Do the right thing: wait. What's the hurry? Use hugs, kisses, love letters, and roses to show how you feel about one another. Look into his eyes while he holds your hand. Count the stars and talk about the future. Don't spoil the future for yourselves by going too far before you're ready.

Answer 9

You need to think about if you got pregnat what. My now 18 year old son with a 6 month old know how much he is missing starting off this early. Just think about you at your age. Will you get to do.........? If you are not pregnat and your parents have no need to know then it is up to you when to confide in them or one of them. It will make them paranoid of you doing other things. It does not sound like it is what you thought it would be. Just rmember the things that could happen every time you think about doing this agian. Find someone to talk to about things like this to around home aunts or the such that will keep a trust with you. Just watch out about it being a friend that will get mad and start spreading rumors. The net is not as well of a place to hide as you think.

Answer 10

You are quite young. Live your life! Sex should be the last thing you think about. I know you said you feel growse and guilty, that is your subconcious saying you were not ready my friend. Maybe talk to a trusted adult.Your parents are always willing to help you, no matter what you do they are there for you.
Also maybe consider going on the BCP, To prevent you from getting pregnant.
Good Luck

Answer 11

Thats a tough question... My reply would be yes. Tell your parents. Be honest and upfront with your parents from the beginning, that way if it happens to come out later, it will save you a hellva headache and pain. Remember whats done in the dark will eventually come to light. You aint get pregnant this time but what if... Good luck.