I currently have a 2 1/2 year old and am considering having another child. I worry that if I wait to long that they will not have a relationship. Is it to soon or should I wait until I through with my college education and are more finacialyly stable?
2006-09-11 11:12:03 · 7 answers · asked by evilfaerie_13 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I was 3 years older than my sister and we were never close until we grew up because the age difference was just too much to bridge. So I had my girls 2 years apart, and as adults they are friends, but not as close as I'd hoped. If you wait too long you will have 2 only children.
2006-09-11 11:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a personal decision only you can make. I always liked big, close knit families because that's what I grew up in. The five kids in my family were all spaced one, then two, then one, then two years apart. That way, all the kids were close in age and all out of the house by the time my dad turned 45. But, I'm now just having my first at the age of 25 because that's how things worked for me.
The current trend in the US is to wait until you're older and more stable and have fewer kids, so the kids you do have want for nothing and you don't have to rely on government aid, but then you can't retire because you still have kids at home to feed when you're in your fifties, sometimes sixties. It's all trade offs. If I were you, I'd have that other kid now, but it will be tougher initially on you with school and work to deal with at the same time as having a toddler and a newborn to take care of. My brother's doing it, though, and his wife doesn't work, and if you don't mind the lifestyle, it's alright.
2006-09-11 11:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been having my children with the idea that I want them close to one another, despite the strain I will go through to get them there. I have 3 girls so far, all of them are 20 months apart. The older two are 3 1/2 years and 20 months. So far they have a pretty good relationship and play together a lot, I'm pretty confident that they will all be good friends throughout their lives. But of course I have had to endure nothing but pregnancies and breastfeeding since I got married to get to this point, and now I have 3 in diapers. If you are willing to sacrifice what you want for yourself so your children can be friends, then I would get pregnant now.
2006-09-11 11:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my kids 7 years apart. They still fought over everything. But now that the oldest is over 18 and the youngest is in middle school, they have a really nice bond. I think it is all in the genes (and a little luck) You can never tell which would be best, big gap or small one. I say have all your children quickly while you are young and save the late 40s and 50s for you and your spouse.
2006-09-11 11:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know when the right time is to have another baby. If you wait..and they are more that five years apart, they will be like only children. If you do it sooner, birth order comes into the picture.
There is a book out there about Birth order by Layman.
You have to do what is right for your family. :) Everyone will have different opinions about this.
2006-09-11 11:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by rebeccalynn_dj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should wait and finish you education.The more kids you have the harder it is to concentrate on your studies.When you are done with school you will have more time to give and that you and your children spend time together will bond them together.Good luck.
2006-09-11 11:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents had my brother 2 and 1/2 years before me and we are fine....
and then only my dad was working
the only problems we have is because he is 15 and i am his "little" 13 year old sister....
but we are fine
2006-09-11 11:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by luellenstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋