I try over and over to trust my boyfriend but cant...what to do?

Question

so heres the story...in the beginning my b/f and i were peachy couldnt have asked for a more amazing guy...then one day i go over his house to spend the night and him and i are cuddling and i remember i was joking around and had wrote my name on two condoms that were on his night stand...he had never cheated or anything it was just a joke...so when him and i started making out etc etc i asked if he still had the condoms with my name on it...and hes like yea so hes searching and searching and found 1 and im like ok wheres the other one ...i look around and its next to bed on the floor open...his excise was he used it on a dildo and put it in his rear end becuse he wanted to see how it felt...but when i asked him the first time he said his roomate probably came in and used it like what the HEck whats going on

Answer 1

he's got to many excuses.......... he probably cheated

Answer 2

Ya, srry to say but I think he may have cheated. My now ex boyfriend and I were at his house one day and I was helpinghim clean, and found a used condom in the garbage......his excuse.....get ready, I used it to jerk off with so that there would be no mess!!!! These guys are cheaters, plus he has already had a change in his story. Test him if you want to be sure, get a friend of yours that he doesn't know to try andpick him up one night, you'll get your answer. Always listen to your gut, womens intuition runs deep. Srry

Answer 3

If you don't feel that you can trust him...break up with him and move on...but keep this thought in mind...not many guys would admit that...or he could have made the excuse about the condom simply to make you believe him knowing that you might think that most guys wouldn't admit that...Next time you're having sex...Use the dildo on his anus...then you'll know if he's lying...

Answer 4

C'mon now. Don't kid yourself. That man is doing some things that you may not even want to deal with. Let him go and move on. Cause if you can't trust him now, you may never trust him and you'll keep thinking about it everytime you look at him.

Move on and find someone else who's at least smart enough to buy a new box of condoms without your name on it.

Answer 5

you probably should have continued kissing . so what if if hes cheating?at least he has enough respect to still be with you and not just dump you .and what is a condom ? you can also get him kind of jealous , not angry . that way you might find you re self dumped .and whats a dildo ?

Answer 6

I really doubt either of his stories. he used a dildo on his rear, What is he gay????? Does his roomate use the same bed as him???? Definetely reason to doubt, He's probably had a girl over

Answer 7

He cheated. Plain and simple. If you want to continue with him, tell him you don't believe him and if you ever find out for sure that he has cheated again, it's over.

Answer 8

some guys wouldnt say they put it in there rear. he wouldnt need a condom for that ne way if its a dildo. did u see if there was still *** in it? if there was *** he was cheating

Answer 9

The writing is not on the condom, it's on the wall. Get a clue

Answer 10

I am very sorry to hear that. If you think hes cheating then its probably true. Drop him and get on with your life./

Answer 11

You know what's going on. Why do you want to trust him? People earn trust. It doesn't exist outside of the context of the relationship. You'll trust him when he's earned the trust. He hasn't earned it so why try to give it to him?