can you help me please...i really need help and im really depressed?

Question

so heres the deal other then school stress, my dad thinks my step mom is having an affair with this 17 year old who works for them and the kid and my step mom swear that there not...however the kid is over all the time and both my parents are driving my crazy i have never cried so much in my life nor will i ever ....what do i do and aside from that i not getting along with my real mom at all......im also starting to hate everyone and im not really ever eating my dad was even hospitalized b/c my step mom said he was crazy ...this kid is always at are house(my dads not allowed to stay at the house anymore)the kid is always calling and i dont want to think its true.....my dad is constantly crying and so am i ...i really really dislike this kid what to i do ..can anybody help me understand what is going on...even if you would email me at [e-mail] just please tlk to me someone i really need help..........this isnt one of the stupid ?'s ..this has to deal w/ peoples life

Answer 1

No wonder your depressed.....not gonna help, but try to talk to somebody. Could you go see your Doctor and have a chat? maybe your guidance teacher (or something similar) at school? please go talk to somebody I hate to think that somebody your age is feeling so rough...life is better than that honestly, you just go to get through the bad times (which we all have) and get through the other side. Easy for me to say...I know.

Talk to somebody tomorrow please.........or today if you can.

Answer 2

Well it is apparent that you have reason to believe your step mother is having this affair with the young boy if she wasn't she would not have your father living somewhere else. And even if she isn't having the affair then she doesn't seem to want to work this out with your dad so he and you should start talking together and make a life for the two of you. You both sound like you are so depressed over this situation that you have forgotten about how important you are to each other. So, please don't let this harm you and your father physically because nothing is so bad that you harm yourself. You are young and life will get better so just try to help your father and just know you care will help and you, just Wait and see. Good luck

Answer 3

Hello alli. You sound really down. I think your step mom should tell the 17 yearold to stop visiting the house if he is not calling to see you. Your dad is not crazy, he is probably depressed and in a short while when he gets better he will sort things out for the best. No worries. In the meantime you need someone to talk to . How about your grandmother. Your nan would probably let you come and stay with her until your dad sorts things out. If that is impossible then have you got any aunts , or your Godmother. You have to go and talk to someone right away. Just tell them what you told us and they will take care of you for a while until things improve. If there are no family members whom you can talk to then talk to your teacher tomorrow. Tell her/him what is bothering you . You need someone to turn to right now and there is no harm at all in asking for help. I promise you will be glad that you did. Your dad will be better soon. Have something to eat. You need nourishment to be in top form to handle things right now. There is no point in a lovely young thing spoiling their looks by not eating. Am I right?. Try and relax tonight and first thing tomorrow go and talk to someone, tell them why you are sad and say you want some help. This time tomorrow you will be feeling much better. Look at all the people here who want to let you know that they care about you. Everything will be alright.

Answer 4

I understand you. Of course you are not stupid, its not your fault that your family are nutters. I feel completely sorry for you, you sound like my friend, she has a crazy family. I think what you should do is make it up with your real mother as she is the one that genuinely cares for you. You should tell her what is going on... I think your step mother sounds like a desperate house wife, what is she playing at, I think your father is being a complete idiot and really pathetic keeps crying and stuff, you sound like you need professional help, or why don't you just listen to music, music lover?

The situation sounds unbelievable and unbearable, why don't you just move out. Upon leaving you should just make up something like you've slept and had sex with her seventeen year old, see if he still comes round then....

By the way I'm as baffled as you are, you should stop crying and tell your father to also stop crying tell him he's the adult and you perhaps consider moving out with him or that he is crying over nothing.

Next time the boy comes round just kick him out, if there is any trouble the Police will take your side as it is your house.

You should also try talking to your step Mother or someone at school like a counsellor or a favourite teacher, trust me they will be able to help you.

Or you should just think this is none of my business and go live with your real mother.

Answer 5

You need to talk to your step mom and tell her exactly how you feel. It certainly looks suspicious. You should move to wherever your dad is. He is your flesh and blood and you should be with him until this is all figured out. What a mess. Do you have any relatives you can talk to or stay with?

PS. If it was me, I would throw the 17 yo out the next time he shows up. It's your house,too.

Answer 6

I don't understand why if this 17 year old is causing so much problems, just fire her and get some-else to work for them. In my ranch if there is a coyote stirring up the chicken coop, we get rid of the coyote not mess up the coop. We actually shoot it, but don't shoot anyone. What's up with your step mom. Why hasn't she got rid of the 17 or why hasn't your dad ? I know it won't fix your stepmoms jealousy, but may take care of immediate problem and allow for some breathing room.

Answer 7

have you got a friend, you could trust, to talk to about this or even a relation. If not perhaps speak to a nurse at school about it- she would know who to get in touch with to help. I think bottling it up will not do you any good-you need someone to confide in. Have you tried a chat site to talk to others your age, to chat about music or anything else, to take your mind off it. Are you allowed out of the house, even for an hour, to see a friend. Please don't suffer in silence. Best of luck.

Answer 8

Would you consider telling your mom how you feel? If you let her know just how much the situation is upsetting you then things may change as it seems to me like she is the only one who has controll over this situation. Keep your chin up chick it really sounds like a tough time you are going through.

Answer 9

Talk to your step-mum, move closer to your dad and make up with your real mum. You really need your family around you. Accept that your step-mum and your dad are over. You will find it easier to let your feelings out after crying about it. If you find that you can't talk to your family, then write them a letter. Remember, your step-mum is just that. If your step-mum has hospitalised your dad, then you need to ask him exactly why she did this. If you wanna talk about it, my email is [e-mail]

Answer 10

Hi there - well my suggestion my love would be to call on professional help - I happen to know you can talk to child line totally confidentially - it is not just for young children but for young people too- you need some proper help and they are really the people to be able to do it - you can dial from any phone mobile or call box - and it is free and know one need know if you don't want them to - please call them