I have been with my bf for about 2 and a half years,he never hit me but he did touch me while quarrelling or while teasing me. He is one of those guys that wants things to be done the way he says or else I am grounded.
For example if I don't want to make sex because I'm afraid to have unprotected sex during my ovulation, he won't make any sex for about a month or so rather than use a condom or else he will make sex after ovulation is over but he ejaculates inside as to punish me for not letting him before (that's what he told me) and such other things.
He doesn't like to let me go out with friends, in fact I never did go out with any friends except with him. Today I have spoken to him about taking the pill or making the ring but he definitely doesn't want me to take either.
I'm afraid he might physically abuse me in the future? Are these signs of such things or am I completely wrong? But I find it difficult leaving him, he want let me alone sure of that...I don't know what to do
2006-09-11 10:43:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Btw I'm about to be 20 in january
2006-09-11 10:44:21 · update #1
He is controlling you which is a type of abuse. Yes it is difficult to leave him but if you don't leave now the abuse will get worse to where he WILL start beating on you. Contact your parents and tell them you need help. Contact your friends and tell them you need help NOW. Don't wait until he puts you in the hospital or leaves you lying somewhere bleeding to death.
2006-09-11 10:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a control freak who will only get worse. On top of it, he sounds terribly immature. If you stay with him it will eventually be like being in prison. The trade off is the security you feel with him and that you leave all the decision making to him. Will you still want to live like this when you are 25? 30? 50?
2006-09-11 10:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea this guy is already abusing you. i was once in a relationship like this, not as bad, but still was hard for me to see what he was doing. you should never be punished, EVER, for not wanting to have sex the way you want to have it. just because you're not ovulating doesn't mean you can't get pregnant. even though u love him and he was your first you should leave him. there are plenty of respectful, caring men out there. this relationship is very unhealthy and can effect you for a very long time.
2006-09-11 10:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by crabbyone23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure I'm not going to be the only person telling you this, but no matter how lonely you feel....you must stop seeing this man at one. Now! He is not a healthy person for you or anyone else. Yes, he's emotionally abusive, and starting to get physically abusive as well.
Does he make you happy? NO
Does he care for you and do little things to please you? NO
Does he want a caring and sharing relationship with you? NO
Is he tender with you? NO
Does he think of you and put your needs and desires before his own? NO
Does he make demands and hold your feelings hostage to keep his sexual "power"? YES
Does he dominate you totally? YES
Do you respect yourself enough to admit that you are a person who deserves better treatment than this.....I CERTAINLY HOPE SO!
Please, please talk to a friend, your mom and dad, a priest or minister, someone to help you get away before it's too late.I hope all the people who read your post will pray for you and give you the strength to get away from this sadistic bully.
Good luck and be strong!
2006-09-11 10:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is any "truely right" decision here.. you are the only one who knows how you truly feel... think it out for a while... think of what it would be like with him... and than also think what it would be like without him.. I do know where you are coming from... you love the person but maybe not how they treat you 100% of the time.. but yeah.. just give it some thought.. you are the only one with the answer to this.. it is how 'you' feel
2006-09-11 10:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl if you think that your life is in danger then leave this guy alone, if you r not happy within your home then there is something wrong. your house is your safe haven. and if he doesnt make it safe call the police and get the **** out of that. because you might end up dead.
and that punishing you ****.... is some bullshit did your father do **** like that to you???
then leave it alone.
2006-09-11 10:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by phenix s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him for good!!! He is a very unfair, irresponsible person and you need to stand up for yourself. Where you are going wrong is LETTING him run your life. Find someone else that will treat you right!
2006-09-11 11:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an italian girl and my english sucks as you can understand bymy words...but i can perfect understand what u say and is only one way....over...it's over sinve the moment u decide to ask this type of question...
best wishes....
2006-09-11 10:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by bratz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a control freak, and even if he does not become violent, he will totally dominate your life. Is that what you want?
2006-09-11 10:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of this selfish asshole!
it will only get worse in the future if u stay with him.
2006-09-11 11:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mambers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋