I have always been there since the day she was born and I financially support her through D.O.R. (weekly) and buys her what ever she likes and do fun activities together when I see her each Saturday for 5 hours. She cry whenever I have to take her back to her mother.
2006-09-11 10:42:46 · 9 answers · asked by thyalexander S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Coming from a divorced woman, I do not refuse my ex-husbands visitation. I have, I will admit, done it twice in the last 10 years. Once when my son was 3 months old, and my husband, who I was separated from, had never seen him. And again about 3 years ago, when my ex had moved for about the 15th time, and was refusing to give me his new address before he took my son off for visitation. I don't want to be in contempt first off and second, as much as I can't stand my ex and think he is a huge loser, I am the one who chose to marry him and I am the one who chose to have a child with him, not my son. My person feelings against him, have nothing to do with my sons relationship with him. It was hard in the beginning, and I will admit it is still hard some weekends, but I had to realize that he is as much my sons parent as I am.
Not all mothers are like your daughters. She just needs to somehow be made to grow up and realize that it is not about her and what she wants, it is not about you and what you want, it is about your daughter and what is best for her in the long run and that is to have both biological parents in her life.
Good luck
2006-09-11 13:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the power that women have over men. I however, feel for you, there is not one day that my son doesn't get to see his father. We live across the street from each other for that reason. Our son! We get along better when we're not together and we both married different people. We all get along too! Sometimes women don't like to think about how their kids would feel and that is selfish. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Talk to her and maybe show her what I wrote. Heck I even had another baby with my spouse and guess who is the babysitter when we want to go out! Yes, my ex-husband and his wife, they're so nice. They love my daughter!
2006-09-11 11:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people do this it seems very unfair to the child to deprive it of either parent just because the adults cannot get along. Don't give up though no matter how hard your ex makes it. It will be worth it in the end when you still have a good relationship with your child in years to come.
2006-09-11 10:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by jumpingjellybean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll be blunt, they do it because that is the one power they still have over you. Its a power struggle and they can use the children as pawns like in a game of chess, sadly though, children are not game pieces and should not be used as such.
I'm sorry this happens to you, I'm sure that you miss your daughter very much and when your ex wife does this it makes her feel powerful to do this to you. Can you ask the court for more time? Is there anyway she can see you more often? I hope you can. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 10:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by T-Bird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, if you are representing your situation accurately, then it's unfortunate that the mother is being withholding. She might not trust you or may be trying to define boundaries, bad situation. However I think there are more males who abandon their families than females who deny rights...but I'm just speaking out of hurt. Good Luck
2006-09-11 18:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by lil_lemon68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you support her financially, and are a fit father, you should have every right to see her (even more often that you already do).
I could only wish my ex paid support. He owes more than $50,000 now.
Seems a lot of women use that to hurt their ex for some reason..like maybe revenge.
2006-09-11 10:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some woman are selfish and try to hold the right to see a child over a guys head....why cant tell you..
but i guess it falls under the same reason some men don't have anything to do with their children either financially or emotionally.....
what you need to do is go to the courts and have a visitation plan put into action and if she don't comply file enforcement papers on it....
2006-09-11 10:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by ladysilverhorn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all dads are like you and like to spend with there kids and alot don't like to pay for them either. They enjoy the act of making it but when it actually comes they're not mature enough to take care of it. But keep up the good work the world needs more like you.
2006-09-11 10:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by britt3m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this is a problam for you talk to a lawyer if you are as good as you say you have a legal right to see her more often .. every other weekend ..alternate weeks/.. etc ....a judge would definitly side with you
2006-09-11 13:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by bigs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋