Is anyone else sick of catering to people with kids?

Question

I'm sick and tired of having to go out of my way to help some poor little mommy because she can't do something because she has a baby. It's making me nuts! People think that they can let their kids run around and "be kids" A.K.A. destroy everything and then just laugh it off and say something like "kids will be kids." I see it everyday, and I'm getting tired. "I can't pick that up, I have a baby," "I don't want that, my son put it in the cart" "Can someone carry this for me I have a baby" "What am I supposed to do, I have my baby?" AHHHH It's making me insane! I don't mind helping people but I do mind when people are demanding that I help them. Does anyone else feel this way? I'm sorry but having kids is a choice, you are responsible for them.

Thanks Colleen O...but I do NOT have a choice as I work in a grocery store where I am constantly having mommies DEMAND that I go out of my way simply because they have a child with them instead of just asking for help politely and not bringing the kid into IT!

Yes, I am a cashier and I've been in retail too long, but it's a good job while I work through school, I dont mind helping people I just don't like doing it because they demand me to only because they have a child with them.

Jim F, I have been in retail for almost 5 years, the last 6 months in a grocery store. I work at a really nice store where I do provide excellant customer service. (Just because I dont want to do something doesn't mean I dont do it) Even if I am unhappy I will comply and do so with a smile. That's why it's making me crazy. I need to vent it all out. And while I don't have kids of my own (I think that's obvious) I have an awesome little god-daughter who I adore and I take care of her one day a week and we go out but I would never ever ask someone to help me because I have her with me.

Waaa Waaa Waaa Gin, I feel for you...not really though, it was your decision to have a baby so you get everything that comes with it. I don't have kids because I don't want them. I want to still go out and enjoy myself with no responsibilities. So I don't feel bad because I offended you. Or you don't get to go out. YOU CHOSE TO HAVE A BABY! I don't hate my job, I never said that I'm just sick of people using thier kids as an excuse to be lazy.

doplhins_whatever... I understand it's difficult to have children, I am worn out sometimes after spending one day with the baby. AND I DONT MIND HELPING PEOPLE... God what part of that don't you idiots get? I'm sick of saying it. I ALSO DONT HATE MY JOB.

Basically here it is...

I AM TIRED OF PEOPLE USING THIER KIDS AS AN EXCUSE. IF YOU NEED HELP ASK FOR IT. DON'T WHINE THAT YOU NEED HELP BECAUSE YOU HAVE A KID. HAVING A KID IS A CHOICE.

Answer 1

I read your question and I read through the responses and as a mother of two with one on the way I have to say that I AGREE WITH YOU 100%!!!

If I'm taking my children to the grocery store that means I can handle them. If, for some reason, I don't think I can juggle the kids and the shopping then I will leave them at home with dad or get a sitter. I never ask for help. In fact, I often put my 6 yr. old to work helping to carry groceries to the car. It is not the store employee's job to help me because I have my kids in the store.

I get very annoyed by people who expect preferentional treatement because they have kids. Like you said, it was a choice. But many people, especially women, act like they're supernatural beings because they popped out kids. I find that home school moms are the worst when it comes to this. I KNOW because I home school and I used to spend a lot of time with other home schooling moms.

I just wanted to add: why should a cashier at a grocery store care what we've been through all day with our kids? Do you care what she has gone through all day dealing with customers? (I used to work in retail). If you've had a rough day with your kids does that entitle you to special treatment? They're YOUR kids. Learn to handle it and stop bitching. No one should expect special treatment because they have kids or even expect people to understand when they're kids are being brats. Control your kids and stop spreading your misery to everyone else.

Answer 2

Get a life and quit whining. Being with a baby all day is stressful, and the last thing we need is attitude from a cashier at a grocery store who has absolutely no clue what we've been through all day. If you had kids, then I might understand you're complaining. But if you had kids, you would probably understand. Being with a god-daughter one day a week does not constitute being any kind of a parent, and therefore does not give you the right to complain about having to do what you get paid to do. If you don't like the conditions where you work, find another job.

Answer 3

Get a existence and supply up whining. Being with a toddler all day is stressful, and the final ingredient we choose is recommendations-set from a cashier at a food market who has surely no clue what we've been via all day. in case you had childrens, then i'd understand you're complaining. yet once you had childrens, you will in all probability understand. Being with a god-daughter sooner or later a week does no longer signify being any sort of a determine, and subsequently does no longer provide you the right to ***** approximately having to do what you gets a commission to do. in case you do no longer in basic terms like the situations the place you artwork, locate yet another job.

Answer 4

Funny you should ask that question, I spent today helping my friend (she's one of my best one's) with her four grankids all under or right at the age of two. Her oldest is two his brother is just turned one and her other grankids are twin's age 10 months--a boy and a girl. She couldn't do anything on her own! She asked me to help her with kids so she could go feed the horses then it was help me figure out what to feed them, I took half a day off (I can I'm the Director) to help her and what did she do? Went to SLEEP!!!!--her excuse, she was tired, give me a break!!! I finally left when her two daughters got there to take care of their kids. I cleaned the house, watched the babies, cooked lunch, fed them all lunch and cleaned up after them and rocked all but one to sleep. I know first hand by what you mean, mother's and grandmothers alike use the excuse of well I can't because I have a kid....really, it isn't that hard if you just pace yourself and if you need help ask but be grateful when you do receive it. I voluntered my time today because I love those kiddos too, I'm just worn out now and wish I could go home and sleep, LOL....I agree that when you have children you really need to be responsible for them and know the time and effort it takes to raise them. I myself can not have kids but enjoy the time with my niece and nephew that live in California and my sister does an excellent job with them.

Answer 5

Hey there, lets calm down and loosen up on the panties......wow, hey guess what....having a job in a grocery store is your choice, get another one if is an issue for you.

I think maybe you should examine just how happy your life is that you have to vent in this manner. I think a change of career is in order for you.

I am a mother of two and I take care of my boys (a store attendant is not necessarily qualified to do that ) it is not their job, but if my son has a question and I am teaching him how to find an answer, I do expect the clerk to be helpful and courteous (that is your job). I am sorry that you have had such an issue with this, really to benefit yourself and the community you live in get another job.

Answer 6

Hmm...I agree and disagree with you.

Reason I agree: I used to work retail and saw this all the time. Moms with bratty kids that wreck the store and the moms just smile it off and look at you like you're supposed to think it's amusing and "cute"! I would also say moms like that need to either leave the bratty kid at home or learn to control them.

Reason I disagree: I don't have children of my own and I don't know what it's like to be a mom with these bratty kids. Standing on the outside it seems so simple. But I'm sure when our turn comes it won't be as easy as it looked.

Answer 7

I agree with you also. Most parents stop doing the things they used to do just because they have kids. Who cares? Of course there are somethings you can't do....like take them to a bar. But people won't even go shopping or out to eat because they have a child and their eating time doesn't mix with the parents. Who cares? What bothers me is the people who do complain about crying babies in resturants or in stores. Every parent has a right to take their child out with them. But alas, parents have stopped doing so because people complain. Which has in fact made that parent lazy in doing things "just because they have a child".

Answer 8

Sounds like you work retail. Get used to it, people always do that. But if you think about it, they really have to bring their kids with them. What else would they do? Can't leave them at home alone.
People that say "kids will be kids" need to take some parenting classes. You can't just let your tots do whatever they want.

Answer 9

Wow! I am sorry that you have to deal with people like this! I have a friend who doesn't do much for her own children and it drives the rest of us crazy. I have a little girl and I have raised her to be very considerate and conscious of what she does and who it affects. Your description of these mothers (and their children) is precisely why! I don't ever want to be viewed like that. My mom and grandma help me out with stuff, but that's only because they want to. Otherwise, we're pretty self-sufficient! Sounds like more people need to get a clue too! Good luck. Please, do be nice though... some days are really hard on moms - especially single ones!

Answer 10

I usually don't ask for help from anyone but my husband with our baby. He also has never put anything in the cart, but he has thrown things out. I can do a lot with my hands when I am holding him. I usually don't even need help. I also have never heard of what you are talking about. But I am sure that when you have a baby, you will find out how hard it really is to have one. I have always been responsible for my child. I clean up after him even at restaurants when the people who work there tell me not too. You just don't understand at all. You will tho. I promise you that.


If you hate your job so much, get a new one. Not all parents are like that. And also, babysitters are a little expensive sometimes. I live in a one income household. If we want to go anywhere, we either take the baby with us or try to find one of the three friends that we have a see if they can take him for an hour or two. In two years, my husband and I have only had TWO nights out with out the baby. Try that on for size. I am sorry, but you have offended me.

I used to work in the local grocery store where I live, and never once have I seen, heard, or been part of what you exsplain here.
And when my child is acting up in a store or a resturant, I will go out to the car ASAP as to not bother people because I find it rude also. I have always been very curtious when I have my child out in public. It is also hard to disipline a child in public these days. One person seeing you hit a child, no matter how soft or hard, and it is a call to the CPA. I want people to get over that too. If a child is screamig or acting up, hit them lightly in the mouth, hand, or butt.

You are right I chose to keep my kid. I got pregnant on my 18 birthday while I was still in high school. I was even using two forms of birth control, pills and condoms, both correctly too. I also do not believe in abortion. But people like you who put all parent in a category, really make me sick. I try hard to make sure that my son isn't being a brat out in public. Where as other people don't care. But not all parents are how you described. My sister may be like that, but I sure as hell am not. I am also not lazy at all. I have always worked; I started working when I was 10 years old. I am the only one in my family that has bought a house, graduated high school, gone to college, and made a better life for myself. And I am only 20. My sister has two kids from two diffrent guys, living at home wiht our parents, and has no plans for the future. My brother is in and out of trouble with the cops, and is working on his GED at 16 years of age. I have worked hard to get to where I am at, and have had no help from anyone but my husband.

I am also very happy with my life and never complain to others. I am only posting this because of what you posted. But you will see the other side of the spectrum when you meet someone and have a child or two. And I hope you do too. Then you will see how hard it really is. Being with your god daughter one day out of the week does not mean the same as having one screaming and whining in your ear 24/7.