Ok I have been with this guy for a little over a year, and our relationship has not been so good. He is a good guy, but his family is so controlling over him we can never make plans to do anything. The entire time we have been together we have never made any plans unless at the spare of the moment because he sits around and waits for his family's clearance to do anything. He runs errands everyday for his parents and on the weekends as well. He also feels obligated to spend an excessive amount of time with them, and I am always the sloppy seconds. I mean its to the point where we make plans to do something and they are either cancelled or cut short because his parents will call and he will have something to do. I talked to him and told him how I felt and he said he can not stand up to them and tell them no because he said the things they ask him to do have to be done. When he is done doing things with them he says he is tired and instead of coming over he will go home. what should I do?
2006-09-11 10:27:07 · 13 answers · asked by SassyChick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump him! if he has no time for you then you should find a guy who does
2006-09-11 10:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in high school, there's nothing wrong with it. Your not 30 years old with kids.
His family is strict and very together; something that I'm sure he'll cherish when he's older.
Instead of whining, ask if you can come over to his house more. They also may not feel very comfortable with you and this is a way to protect him.
You can do 2 things. Move on to a guy that doesnt' have a strict home and no responsibilities, or accept his life, and ask him to be sensitive to it. Ask if you can come over more or be a part of some family things. It sounds like they dont' like him being around you much. If you show that your a respectful and nice person, they would trust you more and feel better about you.
A lot of teens today are spoiled brats with no responsibilities or jobs and they do what they want when they want. He is in a solid home and your not going to change that. He respects and loves his parents and he sounds like an awesome guy. I was brought up like him and I know my parents wouldn't be into a "sassy chick". Now I'm married to a beauty who's precious. I had a strict home but now I run the show and they respect it.
2006-09-11 10:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that your asking this man to put his family over you. his family will always be there, will you? Besides that, it sounds like your man is dippin..lol. Maybe there is another girl he's kicking it with...because can he honestly be with his family this much? It's either he's really helping his family or he has another girlfriend. But in the case that he is helping his family out, then who r you to tell him he needs to put you first. Family is more important. All I can say is that, if you are not satisfied in your relationship then move on, explore your options, cause you have plenty of options..you don't have to settle or except something you don't want or like, when will women understand that. Men have no problem moving on when they r not satisfied!
2006-09-11 10:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a hot potato.Do you want to play second fiddle all your life or worse yet wait for them to die so you can have a life.If they are calling him during your dates then they dont respect him.You need to put your foot down and move on because his parents will always come first.You dont want him.Its nice that he cares for his family but he is a wimp and you dont want that.Get a real man.
2006-09-11 10:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself would have left his *** along time ago because if he cant find time for you then whats the point? if he cant stand up to his parents and let them know that they are not the only people that he has in his life then BELIVE me you will be 2nd ALWAYS and you shouldnt be you guys need time for you and if he hasnt changed with in that one year he will never change leave his ***!!
2006-09-11 10:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a guy like that you will always be second to his family. You deserve better than that. Tell him good-bye
2006-09-11 10:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're trying to hard my dear. Take it easy....let the good times roll like the dice tossed on the green blanket. You just might throw doubles:)
2006-09-11 10:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him, if he doesn´t stand for himself now that he is with you, it will always be the same over and over, and if no real plans can be made why bother with him.
2006-09-11 10:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Juan V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow up and get a life no I wouldnt leave him but I would let him know he needs to change and if he wont change then leave
2006-09-11 10:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG...red flags all over the place with that one....things will NEVER change ...dump him.
2006-09-11 10:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋