area on vacation. The guy lives on the other side of the country. Lets also say that you hadnt been with anyone in a couple years and the guy was amazing in more way then one. Now what you thought would be just a drunken night of fun has left you where you cant think about anything but this guy for the past two days. You finally get up the nerve to send him a text message and you get no reply back. Do you just give up and hope that your feelings fade or do you call the guy? If you call him how long should you wait until you do so? Then if he answers what the hell do you say? Even though he lives on the other side of the country, you will be over in his area in two months so is it okay to ask to hook up again?
I'm sure this sounds stupid but please only respond if you can be non-judgemental....
Looking for replys from both guys and girls so I can get both perspectives.
2006-09-11 10:22:53 · 27 answers · asked by GAgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, so FYI we did use protection, he has no wife and no kids. I dont know if he has a girl friend or not but even if he does they must not be too serious or he wouldnt have hooked up with me. I'm not sleazy and its not my thing. I hadnt even been intimate with anyone in over two years.
We never discussed it being a one night stand but I am assuming it was because he didnt call the next day. Granted I didnt call him either but that was because I wasnt sure if I should or not. He lives far away so was he just enjoying his vacation?
Hope this clarifies some things.
2006-09-11 10:37:10 · update #1
So thanks for all the advice, guess I will call him once and if he doesnt answer I will let it go.
It just sucks because I moved to dumb GA where there are no guys that are my type, of course I would have to like someone that lives way far away....
2006-09-11 10:56:12 · update #2
its perfectly normal to feel the way you do....kind of fallin in love, yet afraid and scared you might be in the wrong as well. but who cares....true love only comes around once in a life time, and every time you get this feeling you should at least go with it until you learn you made a mistake, because otherwise people would never meet "the one" for them or at least have a few good stories to tell once your older. you have to take this chance or you might regret it the rest of your life wondering what could have happened.
call him, and tell him you enjoyed the time you spent with him, and you were just (doing whatever you were doing at the time) and thinking about him...and you wanted to know if what you two had together was something "special" or just a one night stand...because you were feeling a little more for him and wanted to know if he felt the connection as well. also explain that you know he lives very far away and its hard to really get to know someone from that far away, but you would like it very much if you could email and write to him in the mean time and eventually meet back up with him once you go to visit his country soon. you would like to see if this is more than just a "fling" you feel. and make sure he feels the same, otherwise plain and simply, you are waisting your time on this guy...he MUST feel the same if you are going to go on with this and chase a relationship with him. otherwise you would be foolish.
just talk to him the way you would your best friend, relax and say whats on your mind, think of it this way....you only get one shot at impressing him all over again each time he sees you....or talks to you.....to make you stand out in his mind as the best woman hes met in a long time.....so do your best and relax and dont try too hard or he will see it. just be yourself. and be honest always. what do you have to lose? he lives far far away, so if you fail at this, at least you wont have to ever see him again. right? so go for it sweetie and good luck...this could very well be "the one"!
2006-09-11 10:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by succubus_angel_666_777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think about this guy because you said it, you have not been with some one in a couple of years. Don't call him, ever, not in tell he calls you 1st, a week before you go over where he is at, text him, and let him know that you are going to be there in a week. If you want another botty call then go, but it most likely that this is what he is going to want from you. He did not answer your text message and that is making you want him more but, if he did not answer it means only one thing, he dose not want to talk to you, he only liked what was under that clothing. That is what happens with one night stands.
2006-09-11 10:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Classica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put the proverbial ball in his court when you texted him. You have to wait for him to contact you back now or you could come across as obsessive. It sucks, but if he doesn't get back to you, it meant nothing to him and you should let it go. Good luck with all that. Just remember if he does call back, then he enjoyed his time with you. If not, then he is probably just a player and you are better off without him anyways.
2006-09-11 10:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should always call before text messaging especially if you really like the guy. Hearing a voice is much more personable. If he doesn't answer or return your call, then he might have just "hit it and quit it" with you and probably has a girlfriend. If you really like the guy, then you should pursue trying to meet up with him again; however, if he is non-responsive, then you shouldn't force the issue. Good luck!
2006-09-11 10:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by Poopie Johnson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If this were me, and there's been a time when it could have been me asking this question, and I had text messaged the guy and never got any response whatsoever, I would just put the whole thing behind me. Just wasn't meant to be more than what it was, a good time for both and that's all.
2006-09-11 10:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by curious 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call him and tell him that you are going to be in town soon and tell him how amazing he was last time and see if he wants to hook up again.
Since you didn't know this guy, I just hope he isn't married. Maybe he lost his cell phone or changed his number, that is why he hasn't answered your text.
Good luck!
And next time, don't wait so long!!!
2006-09-11 10:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a one night stand! Leave that man alone. Don't try to start something out of that night. If it was amazing sex and he didn't text you back, then maybe it wasn't what he was looking for. If you try and pursue it when you visit where he is, just assume that if he answers that he's just looking for sex. Don't get yourself caught up in a fantasy and get let down. Enjoy the memory for what it was.
2006-09-11 10:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by sugarapple25 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Text messages do not always go thru....You obviously have his number so why not call or perhaps you have his email....send him a note just saying hello....glad to have met him and just small chat....let him know that you are going to be in the area in the next few months.....etc, etc....if you receive no reply....LEAVE IT ALONE.....and for future reference....that is very UNSAFE......not by any means judging you sweetie.....but people always have that mind set of "It wouldn't happen to me".....be careful and always use protection.....
2006-09-11 10:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A one night stand with someone who lives on the other side of the country...mmmmmmmmmmmmm..... could be he's married? and didn't bother to tell you. If he doesn't answer your text message maybe hes hoping not to hear from you again. let it go.
2006-09-11 10:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably won't respond, even if there is a chance of return sex on the table. If you were in the bar looking for a one-night hook up, chances are that's all he was looking for, too. Might be worth a try, if all you want is sex. However, if you are looking for something more substantial, give up. You were just another notch on his bedpost.
2006-09-11 10:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋