2006-09-11 10:15:12 · 17 answers · asked by AlongthePemi 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i think that children should respect you because you are the parent and because they love you. Never should your own flesh and blood fear you or what you may do. You dont want your kids to fear their parents under any circumstance because when they start getting into bad things or something happens to them they wont come to you in fear that you may blam them. I have two girls and i sure dont want them to fear me. I want to be someone that they can come to no matter what. If my girls are having sex i would like them to tell me so i can explain how abstance is the solution so they dont get pregnant but i would also put them on the pill. If they got into doing drugs i would like to know because as a parent i feel that it is my responsibility to get them help and not ignore it. I have not raised my hand to my oldest yet and timeouts are what is working well. The reason for that is cause i feared that when she got older she wouldnt love me and wouldnt interact with her father and i. Family time is so important to us that we wouldnt know what to do if our daughters didnt want to spend time with us. Thats why i think that children shouldnt fear you but respect you and your wishes because you are the parent and that they love you unconditionally like you do them.....
2006-09-12 04:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by renee r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that you would almost need the combo of the both. However, love, well, that would take tops. I want my kids to respect me because they love not so much out of fear. Respect, I believe has to be earned. If all I did was bully my kids around so that all they do is fear me, well, I don't think they would respect me. I need to set a good example out of love, and capture their heart, then I feel respect will come
2006-09-11 10:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by Trina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want them to respect me because they love me but children have to be taught to respect you
and if you don't teach them when they are young it will not happen my brother is a case of no respect for the parents it's because he got away with everything. My mom is always complaining to me for the way he behaves yet she thinks i shouldn't make my children be well behaved and respectful. They may think they don't love you at the time but when they are older they will appreciate it and love you even more for it.
2006-09-11 10:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by jo_jo_baby2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd definitely say love you! But there is a fine line between that and than just loving so much to let them do whatever.. there has to be some discipline.. but by no means should your children fear you.. what they should fear is disappointing you.. so that would be done by trying to give them good, strong values
2006-09-11 10:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that they should respect me because they need to learn how to respect authority. I never say- If you love me you'll clean your toys when I say so. They learn how to listen to make it in this world. I discipline them because I love them- I want them to be safe and learn how to be successful. You do that by following directions. But, I don't want them to do what they need to do because they love me. I want them to love me because of who I am and the wonderful relationship that we have. We have a great time together playing, reading books, and doing everything together not because they know how to be respectful.
2006-09-11 10:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children should respect me because of their moral upbringing. Growing up there wasn't the question of respect,.it was just something that we knew we had to do. I am raising my children the same way.
2006-09-11 10:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. A lil fear never hurt anyone. Don't scare them to death. And the respect will come with it.
2006-09-11 10:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by suagr_britches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. Mostly you want them to respect you because you are fair and intelligent and love them, but with little children, you have to tell them NO sometimes in no uncertain terms so they don't injure themselves.
2006-09-11 10:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children should respect there parents because they love them and
care what happens to them .one day they to what there kids to respect them . most important you earn and give respect no matter
what age kids need to be respected to.
2006-09-11 10:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by elizabeth c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither they should respect you because you respect them as little people. With that respect comes guidance, love and chastising.
2006-09-11 10:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by tjjkara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋