I've been a Christian for 16-17 years(21yrs old) and I just do not have any sexual desires. It stinks. Yeah I have the desire to have sex but I never get aroused. So I tried doing everything to arouse me just to make sure if I'm alright but nothing works. Even if a guy touches me I don't feel anything. Any suggestions?
I know it's bad to be sexually immoral before marriage but I want to solve the problem before I marry so the guy I marry can be satisfied in that area without having to be tempted to sleep with other women or something.
2006-09-11 10:06:51 · 24 answers · asked by Meru B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Whenever you find the right guy to get married to, I think alot of your "lack of arousal" issues will seemingly evaporate. Alot of the sexual experience is mental, and the physical is nice (kind of like "wheee") but when you put the whole thing together with someone you love and they love you then it is WWWWHHHHHHEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!
This may seem unusual coming from a guy, but my wife and a few other close female friends of ours, say sex really isn't sex until after you are truly in love.
2006-09-11 10:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by ADF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does not take away your sexual desires until you get married. Were you tramaized in any way as a child? Do you have any bad dealings with men? Those are some aspects that might affect your sexual mood. Also, certain medications can cause a person to not become aroused. This could also be something wrong with you, but you just need to see a doctor, preffereably a gynocologist and they should be able to help you out.
Also, make sure you're hitting the right spots when trying to arouse yourself.
Still, a gynocologist would be able to help you a lot. And they see these types of problems often, so there is no need to feel embarassed.
2006-09-11 10:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a variety of reasons why this kind of thing can happen. It could be hormonal. Some people just don't get the right hormones at the right time and as a result, don't get arroused. It could be because of something that happened to you. It could be that you just haven't found the right guy yet. (Believe it or not, there are some girls that don't feel anything and then all of a sudden they meet a guy and *bam* they feel everything. It's rare, but it happens.) I would say that whatever the reason, take advantage of the situation, and be a model citizen until you are ready to get married, and then talk to a doctor.
2006-09-11 10:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sifu Shaun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not have any sexual desire whatsoever, or it takes a whole lot more for you to be aroused by someone if it is possible at all.
There actually are persons that have no sexual desire. Perhaps they have a Chat Room where you can talk to some of them about your feelings.
You could also may be destined for a career in the church.
You will find your way.
2006-09-11 10:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 00:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by sherie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it isnt you but the person that you chose to try this with. God doesnt take it away- I WISH!! If he did, my life would be much easier to deal with and less sexually frustrating. But he does not. You must be very spiritual or maybe your sub-consciense is keeping you from this. Sex will come- with the right person it will be wonderful for both of you. It is more than a physical connection- the emotional and spiritual connection that you will get with your HUSBAND wil be great!
Keep the faith, keep your pants shut- God loves you and will help you when the time is right-
2006-09-11 10:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by ANGELA D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient! God has a plan for your life. Stop trying to figure out if you're ok or not. If you are open to the leadership of the Holy Spirit and commited in your relationship with Christ, then all will come together in time! If you rush it, you may lose what blessing God has in store for you. Stop, take a breath, and let it out slowly.
Concentrate on the now, stop worrying about "what-if".
2006-09-11 10:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by R.L. S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will come with time. Nothing is wrong with you. Be glad that you are not going through what most girls your age are going through. If you want to wait until you are married I think it is a wonderful thing and trust me the right christian guy will feel the same way. Don't give into the hype.
2006-09-11 10:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think God takes it away....but consider yourself lucky not to have to deal with the temptation! It will come naturally when you are attracted to someone. And don't worry about fixing it before you are married...if it is still a problem afterwards, seek some counseling or see a therapist. I doubt that will be an issue though!!
2006-09-11 10:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by nic_tammyscott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is likely a medical problem. Anti depressants will do it. many medical problems cause this so see a doc. No God has not been widely known to remove sexual desire.
2006-09-11 10:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋