I am a single Dad with 2 girls to raise. I often meet women that either have kids or issues with their ex's. I am thinking of finding someone who is single but it worries me that I would just get turn down. I wanted to know, from a womans point of view, what they think of a man with extra baggage(like my situation) asking them out and if, this shouldn't be a point of consideration in my case.
2006-09-11 09:48:06 · 40 answers · asked by Jay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just have to find the right woman. I do understand where you are coming from though. I am a single mom with two kids, I have found men to have a relationship with but it is always in the back of my mind that they will not stick around because of my kids. I just think that take your time and the right woman will come along and it won't matter. I do think that women tend to worry about it a lot less than men do but it is scarry to think that they will end up in a relationship with a man and love them only to have their kids not like them at all. But i suppose that is true with men and women.
2006-09-11 09:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a man with two kids from a previous marriage and we are very happy and have been for 21 yrs. I don't think that being a single dad should be a big factor in your finding a single woman. Some women do not wish to have children naturally and would love to be a step parent to anothers children.But you will run into people who do not wish to date other people with children, you just have to look over these people and keep on looking for the right one for you. This is not saying that it isn't going to be hard for the person to whom you have a relationship with, because some kids hold a lot of resentment for the new woman in their dad's life so try to help and understand her point of view and where she is coming from too. Good luck in your endeavors.
2006-09-11 10:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by shywoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were a story book world, yes. But this is reality, so it won't happen right a way. Hang in there! There is someone for everyone, and it just takes time. Where are you trying to find "Ms. Right?" Please don't say a bar!!! Just remember that who ever you choose to see as a S/O will also be involved with your childrens lives, and you want that person to be a nice girl! Not some party chick that picks up guys at bars! You and your kids diserve better than that! Go with your kids to "kid friendly" places like parks or chucky cheese or school functions and mingle with the moms. Just make sure they are Single Moms! Good luck!
2006-09-11 09:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by sunnychick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am or was a single woman with no children and my boyfriend has three kids, no big deal. The probelm is the ex, we've been together two years and she still tries to cause probelms in our relationship. If you and your ex get along and she can accept someone else being in her childrens lives you are just as acceptalbe as the single guy. In fact maybe better your probally a little more mature and grounded than single guys, and for most girls that's a plus..
2006-09-11 09:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids can be a real chick-magnet. I've never seen so many girls google my hubby as when he holds our daughter. Just make sure she's in love with you, not your lifestyle. There are a lot of single women who want the whole package and your current situation presents them with having a ready-made family. As long as you could handle your life well and have room for another woman, i don't see why that would be a turn off to a single gal.
2006-09-11 09:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that the woman cannot have kids, but you can???? Isn't that a double standard? The people most interested in dealing with a man that has children usually have children of their own. When I was unmarried without children, I didn't want to deal with a man's children and his exes. There are some women out there that do not care about that, but I find it disturbing that she can't have kids. You want a woman without baggage but you want her to accept yours?
2006-09-11 09:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by GreenEyedSista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should ask out women who don't have baggage. It does take a strong woman to take on not only your children but your ex as well. You need to be extra considerate of anyone you date who would be overwhelmed by your situation. Break em' in easy. My husband has 2 kids by 2 different moms.... it's struggle, but I love him and it's worth it.
2006-09-11 10:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by aphrodite_ak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You kids are not extra baggage. You are obviously a decent man - trust me, that alone is rare. You shouldn't really introduce your kids to the women you date until you think it might become more serious than casual dating. This will leave you free to date and explore and not worry about hurting your kids, while finding the quality woman you are looking for - one that loves you AND your girls! Good Luck!
2006-09-11 09:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be discourage just because you have two kids. If you find the right woman it wouldn't matter whether you have kids or not. Beside some women love kids.
I'll say go put on your best jeans and go out there and start asking single women out.
Good luck!
2006-09-11 09:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one likes baggage, but there is hope. Don't focus on this so much, you will find someone who can meet your (for lack of a better word) requirements. Strong women without issues and drama are out there, there just hard to find when you're constantly looking.
2006-09-11 09:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋