I am 48, both adopted parents have passed away in their late 80's, just a few years ago.
Would you pursue the quest of finding your real parents?
2006-09-11 09:46:23 · 6 answers · asked by Michael K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not adopted, but both my kids are. They were taken out of bad situations, so they of course know who their first parents were. But, I know it matters to them to know all four of us, because it took four people, and the good and bad situations, to bring them to where they are today. So I think it's pretty important to at least know who your biological parents were, their names, ages, maybe the reason they made the choice they did... medical information is also a big plus.
I can understand how it'd be a tough thing to decide whether or not to look, but I think I would want to find out, just to know who and what they were, when the decision was made. Many birthparents wonder what happened to the child, and yours might be wondering about you. It's a hard choice, but really they're all four your parents, adoptive and biological. It took each one of those people to make you who you are today. I think if it were me, I'd go ahead and find out who those people were, who were part of that process.
2006-09-11 10:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Gen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would, because they are the reason you are here, regardless of the fact they gave you up.
There may have been a very good reason for it and you might want that knowledge for closer.
Plus, you could have brothers and sisters out there as well.
I have a 1/2 brother (same dad) that I have never met and don't even know where he's at and a 1/2 sister that is on crack in the the next county. I am an only child and have longed for a brother or sister all my life. Every now and again, I look for my brother, but all I have is a name and state where he was born and his name is fairly generic (Jason White) so it's like a needle in a hay stack.
Best of luck to you, what ever you decide.
2006-09-11 09:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by maat13101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not adopted so I am not sure on how I would feel I would say that I wouldn't I would just think of my adoptive parents as my real parents.
2006-09-11 09:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem, my late husband was adopted. I now need to consider whether or not to find his birth mother for medical reasons, as I have 2 children and need to know this info.
If I were you I would definitely try to find them.
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-11 10:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that is up to the individual. my husband is adopted and his adopted father has passed and he lives about 3400 miles from his mother. He has nor has he ever had any interest in finding his biologicals.
2006-09-11 09:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is only natural the you would be curious, and its nice to know about your family and if you have any blood siblings.
2006-09-12 03:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by mtk721 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋