Back in June, I had a one night stand with my sisters boyfriend. Well, I was drunk and we slept together. The next day he told her and she kicked him out and he "moved in" with me. Not what I wanted, I mean, this was a drunken mistake but anyway, I accepted what I had done. So, two days later, I convinced him to move home. She took him back and has basically forgiven us. (Btw, she is 4 months prego now too). Well, my sister and I are very very close and we spend almost every moment together. The problem is that her boyfriend wants us to be sumthing on the side. (My boyfriend of 3 yrs also took me back in June, thank god) I am NOT interested and I dont know how to get him to leave me alone. She works weekends and he hounds me constantly to have sex with him. If i stay home and away from her house, he comes to mine. (My bf also works weekends) I dont wanna piss him or her off by saying sumthing but there is only so long he'll believe I am bleeding from my period. WTF DO I DO?
2006-09-11 09:40:53 · 29 answers · asked by icantbelievehowbadmylifesucks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know what I did was wrong. And i have more than made up for it with my sister. If she finds out bout this its gonna make him mad at me and her mad at me.
2006-09-11 09:45:32 · update #1
thank you all for your help
2006-09-11 09:49:37 · update #2
i am well aware that i have no balls
2006-09-11 09:58:59 · update #3
update: spoke to my sisters boyfriend tonight and told him that if things didnt stop, i was gonna tell my sister. i still wanna be friends but only friends. he said he was ok with it. we'll see tommorrow
2006-09-11 14:39:27 · update #4
You are between a rock and a hard spot. If you tell your sister about her man. she will end up a single mom. But if you look at the two timing bas ard, if he doesn't cheat with you he will find some one. So maybe you better tell your sister what is going on and let her put the pig to the curb. Remember he is trying to destroy 4 people you, your boyfriend, your sister, and her baby.
2006-09-11 09:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like he cares about anyone in this situation. Who cares if he's mad at you? He can kick rocks. Tell your sister because if he doesn't get what he wants with you he will with someone else. Maybe he already has. What if he brings her back something? He doesn't deserve your sis and about time you got him the hell out of all of ur lives. He's worthless. Time to move on. Be strong. It's YOUR body. You don't have to do what you don't want to just cuz he's horny.
2006-09-11 16:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by queenofthenile513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong and tell him to get the hell away from you and the next time you record the conversation and threaten him with it. That's ridiculous, your poor sister! Why did she allow herself to get pregnant by sucha scumbag. I know you're her sister and she needs you as a friend and it was very big of her to forgive you, don't screw it up again. Try to take care of the situation yourself by getting him off your back, don't get her involved she is in a fragile state right now and probably still hurting from the past. Get him to stop immediately!! Even if it means calling the police.
2006-09-11 16:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You apparently have a problem with the word "NO!". For example, He "moved in" with you, & it wasn't what you wanted. So why not say, "No, your not moving in with me". This isn't about your relationship with your sister, & it isn't about your relationship with your own BF. It's about the relationship you have developed with your sisters BF, & the fuzzy boundaries that you have in place.
He sounds like the kind of guy, who sees a weak boundary, & keeps pounding away at it until he gets what he wants.
Make it clear to him that you value the strong relationship you have with your sister, & that he needs to BACK OFF or your sister is going to hear all about it in FULL DETAIL.
If he gets pissed off then that's his choice. The only behaviour you have control over is your own. So get some self control, & use it.
2006-09-11 16:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all drunk or not you should have known better. second of all you tell him to stay the hell away. what is more important your sister or him. tell him if he keeps coming around you will call the cops. sounds like to me you sister forgave him for the sake of the child. you can't keep a man just because you are having his child. you are blessed that your boyfriend took you back. but you got to wonder if he had someone on the side i can't see a man being cool with the fact that you cheated on him with your sisters man. also tell your man let him handle it if you can't. if you really don't want him around you will find away. but to me it sounds like you kinda still want to get with him. if you are trying to do right tell him where to go and don't answer your door and call the cops.
2006-09-11 16:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by mslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to go through your whole life doing things you don't want to do? You didn't want him to move in, but he did. You only slept with him cuz u were drunk? Now you can't get rid of him you tell him you are on your period, leaving yourself open to sleep with him when you are off? Sounds like you and your sister are totally stupid! Her getting preg by a guy who cheated on her with her sister? Sounds like a show for murry. You guys all deserve each other!
2006-09-11 16:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU SERIOUS OKAY YOUR MISTAKE AS TERRIBLE AS IT WAS SHOULD BE ENOUGH FOR NOT TO HAVE TO EVEN ASK ADVISE ON HOW TO KICK HIM TO THE CURB, HAVE YOU ACTUALLY SAID TO THE MUTHAFUCK* I DON'T WANT TO HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOUR TRIFLING A**..? BE A ***** ABOUT IT AND IF HE KEEP PUSHING UP ON YOU THEN LET YOUR SISTER KNOW. I MEAN TELLING HER THAT HE'S STILL DOING THESE THINGS NOW IS BETTER THEN HER WALKING IN ON SOMETHING AND YOU SAYING "IT'S NOT HOW IT LOOKS" JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN'T PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN! DO YOU LIKE HIM OR SOMETHING BECAUSE SOMETHING IS TELLING ME THAT YOUR NOT BEING THAT STERN OR YOUR SAYING ONE THING AND DOING ANOTHER DON'T HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH THIS DUDE YOU HAVE NO REASON TO YOU SOUND LIKE A FOOL, YOU MUST LIKE THE ATTENTION YOU GET WHEN HE'S FLIRTING WITH YOU, I DON'T GIVE A F*CK IF YOUR BF AND YOUR SISTER WORKED 24 HOURS A DAY THIS LITTLE GAME THAT YOUR LOW KEY PLAYING GONNA CAUSE YOU TO LOSE YOUR SISTER AND YOUR MAN BECAUSE TWO TIMES IS NOT A MISTAKE OR COINCIDENCE GET IT TOGETHER MEN KNOW WHEN WOMEN REALLY DON'T WANT TO F*CK WITH THEM CAUSE WE MAKE IT KNOWN! MAKE IT KNOWN! OR OWN UP TO BEING THE BACKSTABBING B*TCH THAT YOU MAY BE AND KEEP FLIRTING WITH YOUR SISTERS MAN AND GIVING HIM SETTLE SIGNALS SAYING THAT IT'S OKAY FOR HIM TO COME ON TO YOUR YOUR CHOICE,... YOU PATHETIC!
2006-09-11 16:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by sky g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you already made the mistake of sleeping with him once, that you don't want to hurt your sister again, and that you are going to stay loyal to your boyfriend. And if you're close to your sister, you'd tell her about it too. He sounds like a complete loser.
2006-09-11 16:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to back off or your going to you sister with the info. Also, if he tries anything funny report him immidiatley. That's definetly not something you want your sister involved in.
2006-09-11 16:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has loser written all over him. You say you and your sis have mended your way ... do you really want her stuck with someone like this. I know, I know she's pregs, but being a single mom probably has a better lookout than being saddled with a guy who begs "his girlfriends'" sister to sleep with him. Your sister deserves to know what she heading for.
2006-09-11 16:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋