this guy says that he had 2 failed marriages and scared to make a commitment. we have lived together for 7 yrs now but I am ready for more. I love him so what do I do.
2006-09-11 09:36:10 · 7 answers · asked by VIKKI S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with my fella for 8 years, from about 2 months into the relationship we said we were going to get married, we still haven't gotten around to it! Life just seemed to get in the way, first we found out we were pregnant with our 1st child ( she's 7 now) and after that we didn't have the money.
Things are the same now, we have another girl,3, and les money than before!! BUT, we are still together after all this time,we are still happy and we're not married.
Why change something that is going well? Is your man commited to you and the relationship? Are you happy together? Do you still love each other after 14 years?
If you're answers are yes then why would you want to cange something that's working so well just for the sake of a piece of paper? You could always just change your name by deed pole if that is what you ultimately want.
If it ain't broke don't fix it!!!
2006-09-11 09:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by yumyum2chestnut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but he cannot let the failure of the relationships in the past (be it 2 or more) to hold him back from committing to the best thing in his life - you! My ex had 2 (ex)girlfriends cheat on him and he proposed to me after dating me for 3 months! The first one he dated who cheated on him was with him for 3 years before she cheated, and the second one was with him for 5 years. So, I hope for your sake the real reason he is not committing to marriage is because of his fears, otherwise he is just using it as an excuse to keep you as his sidedish. You sound like a wise enough woman to decipher which is which. If he really is scared, then maybe some counseling will help. Dont wait for too long. If he loves you enough to dedicate 14years of his life to you, then he should love you enough to get over his fear of commitments and marry you! Remember communication is key. Make sure to let him know the importance of marriage to you. He might be under the assumption that living together is cutting it for you. I wish you the best in life.
2006-09-11 16:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Missy chandrasekar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl get with it. This man is not marriage material. You have already given 7 years to him when R U going to give some years to yourself. When you R old and no one wants you?
This is 2006 women are independent. If you do not like it, not working for you, no future - GET OUT. Be strong. Don't allow too much emotions to keep you in a relationship you know is not leading anything profitable. You can be what you want. Be determined and focused. Good luck.
2006-09-11 16:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are ready for more but do you need more? If you think you cannot wait any longer, than you need to move on because there is nothing you can do if that is how he really feels. This will be another failed relationship for him and he will see marriage had nothing to do with it.
2006-09-11 16:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by btdt65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you break up with him to make it so that he would have the 3rd and final marriages, nah, just kidding, he shouldn't date if he cannot commit to anyone anymore.
2006-09-11 16:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been this long, either he marries you or move on to someone that will make that commitment. Screw the past, it's the future that is here and now... GaryT
2006-09-11 16:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the Hogan boot! thats too long. the heck is the holdup? once he wins the lottery?
2006-09-11 16:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by Julio1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋