Please be honest, and answer truthfully.?

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Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

ok, now shes 13 I'm 15. We've been friends since like I wuz 7. Now it is totally obvious, because she makes herself perfectly clear, that she wants nothing more than to be friends. I am respeceting that, and giving her space, we havent talked about it 4 3 weeks. My question is, does she like me at all, or is she scared, cuz she says she doesnt want to ruin a friendship??

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3 hours ago
But, like a few months ago, it was completely obvious she liked me, I mean people thought we were dating, then she found out I liked her, and she reall backed off. And she told her mom, who she is really close to , that she is really scared, because she doesnt want to take the chance of ruining the friendship. But what should I do/ think:? Because, now she is like totally all over these other guys, like she used to be with me, and it rips my heart out. And please dont tell me I'm to young, I have like many girls, but none like her. I've been trying to let this go forever, but it is really really hard, because I really care for her, I would do anything in this world, anything to be with her, but I want her to be happy , and if shes not happy with me, thats fine. But what should i do?

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5 hours ago
I mean she's never beenin a relationship, so she could be scared, will anything ever happen in the future, I mean I am respecting her wishes, and she knows that, We havent talked about it for a long time, could anything possibly happen in the future??

Answer 1

just stay friends . . .find another girl for romance

Answer 2

I think you should lie adn say it was just a phase you were going through. Do something that friends would do and make sure you dont touch her or anything that could be percieved as -more-than-friendly, and just keep cool. Keep busy and dont be afriad to get into relationships with other people. If she likes you, she'll come around.

Also, as an older teen, we girls arent always sure what we want. it can be scary and confusing, especially for a girl whose never had a bf before. Has she? If she hasnt, thats big. You are 15, so she could be worried about people talking, you wanting more than she wants to give... loads of stuff. so she may be trying to proccess the differences between good friend and boyfriend. No matter what, she clearly wants to be around you, so don't let her get away as a friend.

p.s Super girl- dont be so dumb. And dont generalize. how rude of you to say that 13 year olds change boyfriends on a weekly basis.

Answer 3

Well, it is a sure thing that she is scared, because you two obviously are very close friends and she dont want to see it go away. The future will tell if anything will spark. As pretty much as everyone has said, talk to her about how you feel. You have been honest with her this far, dont let it go. But also ask her why she hasnt talked to you, she might have reallized that she want to be with you as well, but just not at this time. I mean being really good friends is the beginning of most relationships.

Answer 4

Hi! I know what you mean. And no, 15 is not a young age to love someone. I'm 15 too. Well you should tell her face to face. But don't lose her friendship. I mean tell her (face to face) that you would really like a chance with her, and no matter what you two will always be friends. NO MATTER WHAT. B/c girls usually tell guys, "That's what everyone says, but then when we're over, everything is over." That's what we think b/c it does happen in most relationships. Not always but yeah. So just talk to her, tell her she doesn't need to be afraid of anything. That you really care about her and the last thing on you mind is to hurt her. That will NEVER happen. Just pour your heart out, but face to face, so that way she can see your reaction and you can see hers. Good luck! Don't give up on someone you really love. Especially if there's still a chance. Trust me. Don't loose this chance.

Answer 5

She's 13. get over her 13 year old girls(my niece is 13) change boyfriends on a weekly basis if she was interested in you and you didn't act, you lost, she is no longer interested, deal with it and try not to be so obcessive(hence the long, long, long question) @ 13 she is not ready to settle down and get married, she was honest with you, she probably has lots of friends and just want you to be one of them, be her friend. Maybe in future, when she grows up a bit she will see you as more that a friend. I'm 23.

Answer 6

have you talked to her or told her this? if you haven't you should.You might be right she could just be scared but because i don't know her or you for that much it will be hard to give you an answer but here it goes.She said no so give her a little space.(trust me on this i just got out of an obsessive relationship he was suffocating) if she did like you before then backed off a bit she probably just got spooked i mean she is younger (like i can talk at the grand age of 15) and now I'm grabbin' at air here but since she hasn't been in a serious relationship before its new and kinda scary so just try hangin' out with her. and i mean getting pizza with some friends if she sees what its like to just be comfortable with you in a more intimate way and knows it wont be one on one all the time she might come outta' her shell a bit. so if the info is useless sorry but i tried

Answer 7

k listen u need to talk to her again cause she said she wants things the way they were, which is u and her friends and talking. Then once ur friends again she might start to c u as more because she knows how u felt, but let her think that ur over her.

Answer 8

i too was in love with my best friend.and it does ruin any friendship you may have with them.i was 13 and he was 15.your friend is right to think it will ruin your friendship.you have to just let it go .if it is meant to be it will find a way

Answer 9

seems you like her very much and you do care for her, and you said you want to see her happy, so let her go, she wants to experience life, you know there's so much to achieve, and you have to do the same. think that you're doing it for her you will feel better. you are a good guy, good charming girls will fall in love with you easily. enjoy life, there is too much waiting for you.

Answer 10

I only read half of this because its too long but when a girl tells you she only wants to be friends, then she only wants to be friends.

Answer 11

wait until she's more mature. say you're sorry and you've realized that she didn't like you also and you don't like her anymore, and you're ready to be just friends. then if she really starts to act like she likes you, don't do anything until she asks if you like her in case she backs off again. this might have to wait a year or two, thirteen-year-old's hormones are always going crazy.