An oportunity of better job in another city (you going alone) or stay at town with your family (wife and two little kids) and work the same way yo have been working for 4 years....
I need an advise.
2006-09-11 09:23:19 · 38 answers · asked by luis XV 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If the better job means leaving your wife and kids permanently, then no way. That would be a huge mistake. Companies will drop you in a moments notice. Your family is usually your only safety net.
2006-09-11 09:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is away 24 days and home for seven. This works out well for us, although I think my kids may be a little older than yours. He was home for five years due to back surgeries and aside from the pain of his injuries, he enjoyed the time with the kids. Going back to work, especially so far away has been much harder on him than us. When he does get home though, he makes the most of it and makes every minute all about the family. Things you may want to consider are: Is there enough trust on both sides? What will your environment be like? Can you maintain being alone for long periods?
Why are you thinking about doing this? Is it to provide a better life for your family?
You will miss things that happen in your children's lives, but there are trade offs and it can be a good thing. You do need to remember that there will be tough times, guilt and loneliness. If you are prepared to face the obstacles, and there will be obstacles, it can be worth it. Have a game plan and phone often.
Did I mention to phone often?
I just read some of the answers that others have written and I think when people have enough money to pay the bills and feed their children it is very easy to say money is not important. When you don't have enough for even the basics, it is a different story.
2006-09-11 09:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really aren't enough details to provide you with adequate advice. Why can't you take your family with you? Is this better job only temporary - if yes, then maybe short term it would be a better solution. While I'm sure you don't want to leave your family - you have to look at the bigger picture and consider the family unit as a whole and what ultimately best serves that unit.
Good luck.
2006-09-11 09:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Neenah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
id stay with the family ,its worth more than any job ,your wife and kids need you ,and its not fair the kids should miss a second of you being around ,too much time apart and you may grow apart ,
anyway ur mates may move in on the wife ,they crawl out of the woodwork when you are out of sight ,
this job maynot be all its ment to be ,and you would star to miss the wife and kids ,there is so much more to life than money,
i say stay,,,
2006-09-11 09:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, doesn't everyone already know this? It's ALWAYS best to abandon your family and kids for a higher paying job. Your children and wife will love you for it. No guy sticks around as long as you have these days. Wake up. Time to move on and spread the seed elsewhere.
2006-09-11 09:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump the wife for a hot 19 yr old. The 19yr old will be able to comfort you in your move. She will also help you get your mind off your kids. You need to break it off with your wife forever. Then you need to sit down with your kids and let them know you no longer want to have the role of father. Tell them you just want to be friends.
2006-09-11 09:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Husker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having money problems, might take the job for a little while. If not I would rather be with family because take it from someone who knows it gets lonely on the road.
2006-09-11 09:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the wife and kids and get out of dodge for the better job.
2006-09-11 09:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by generationalmixer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father sought work in another city for three months when I was younger. Didn't affect me in a bad way. But if you do move away for a short time for work, make sure your kids can call you at any time day or night, and send them gifts, cards and letters. Otherwise, they may think you abandoned them.
2006-09-11 09:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by RockC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I can support my family at my current job, I'd stay with my family and try to figure a way to change jobs or move my family to this new job.
2006-09-11 09:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by Papa John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋