Is it wrong to set your own expectations for a relationship and then ask for time and then be shot down for asking? Does he have the right?
2006-09-11 09:22:02 · 16 answers · asked by upsidedown1783 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you know what you want in a relationship, no one can tell you that you can't have the time you need and if they do they so aren't worth your time.
2006-09-11 09:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Varacha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand what you're asking. In any case, sometimes we may have expectations for a relationship that go unmet; if the other person chooses to not meet them that is their "right" but it doesn't make them look good.
Unfortunately, relationships between two people can be very difficult and full of trouble, especially if they're not compatible or they don't work at the relationship.
To work, relationships need to be other-centred/focussed or it will be a war of two people trying to get their needs met without regard for the other person.
I wish you all the best.
2006-09-11 16:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not getting the full picture, but in my opinion a relationship is give and take, and patience, love, and if one needs some time to work out what ever they need to. Then no, it is very selfish of the other person to not try to understand, and rude to cut you down for asking for time. This is a good time to really think things over now that they have responded in such a manner.
2006-09-11 16:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you can doesn't mean you should. He does have the right, but the question is should he be excersising that right currently. If so then you should look to yourself and ask yourself questions. If he's just pulling out the old 'get out of jail free card' then you need to confront him on himself and about the relationship.
2006-09-11 16:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by TexasLSUTiger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong for setting your expectations or asking for time. Remember though no one waits forever.
2006-09-11 16:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to ask for time, but make sure the rest of your expectations aren't set for only a perfect person to meet. Be leniant but stay true to yourself. =D
2006-09-11 16:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah it really is, you need to chill on what you want, it's not always about you! it what he wants to. i had a babe i was doing in the late 80's, she just thought everything happened should have went her way, i said to h--- with a bunch of that, i dumped her candy --- quicker than you could say thong, bottom line here is this, you do not demand what you want out of your relationship, you ask the man he will tell you what you want!, and you say to him ty for the advice
2006-09-11 16:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he does not have the right. Do what you have to do, set yourself free. When you find the right person you will both know.
2006-09-11 16:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by DivaByNature,B*tchByChoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its depends what you were asking for and at what stage of your relationship you are in. If you are asking for space and its the beginning vs you asking for space and its the end, it can be played off in two different consequences
2006-09-11 16:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by dramaqueen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in a way yes if he doesn't like the expectations then y would he go out w/u?
2006-09-11 16:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by kayleen marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋