my son is out of control what should I do?

Question

I have a 2 and a half year old child that i understand is going through his terrible two stage. but he is always hurting himself really bad for example when he throws fits he slams his face into the floor and he gives himself a fat lip and a bloody nose and my husband and I can't control him at all. I have talked to a doctor about putting him on ridiline (i know i spelled it wrong) but she said his behavior is caused by his age (and i even brought him into her after he had a fit and and was bleeding and had a fat lip!) which i understand but if he is going to keep hurting him self all the time i want him put on something that will calm him down I dont want him to keep hurting himself any suggestions??

look im not look for haters that are here with nothing to do im looking for serious answers to help my son and yes i supervise him constantly and i am not looking for a quick fix sorry if i want my son to stop hurting himself

Answer 1

Being a mom doesn't come with a book, and they don't teach you in high school. Depending on how you were raised and what you believe has a whole lot to do with how you raise your kids. i use more than 1 method to raise mine such as, love, support, understsanding, honesty, and even physical discipline sometimes.
God uses physical discipline with us and tells us do to the same with our children. "Spare the rod spoil the child".
IF YOU DON'T TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD NOW..THE POLICE WILL TAKE CARE OF THEM LATER (IN LIFE).

My 2 yr old had a tantrum ONCE in the bronx. fell out on the ground hit his head on the ground, cause he saw a toy in the chinese store. And he had plenty of toys with him books, snacks and food. Immediately on the spot he got a spanking. (believe me it doesn't feel good and i didn't want to i swear but i ws thinking about if i let this go and don't NIP IT IN THE BUD. I had to think about his future.)
I said to him oh so u wanna fall out and cry right. I said again do you wanna cry.? He still was crying so i said ok i'm gonna give you a real reason to cry i started to spank him and i was asking him while i was spanking him So u wanna cry right? you wanna cry? he like no mommie no. I'm like yeah ok lets go and don't ever do that again.
I brought him in this world.

See those are the butt whippins we use to get back in the day. Those would have you straight. Now they want to arrest you. Well lock me up cause there is only one jugde GOD and he jugdes everyone eventually. He only knows our true hearts and intentions.

Answer 2

Ignore his outbursts. My daughter would bang her head on the floor, bite herself until she bruised/bled, held her breath. He knows that if he does these things you will give in and let him have his way. Don't give in, if you do you will never regain control. You can't put a child on drugs just because he is going through the terrible twos. Invest in a child gate and pair of headphones. When he gets like this put him in his room with the gate up, grab the headphones and go on about your business, ignoring the behavior, but keeping an eye on him. I can pretty much guarantee that he will calm down once he sees he can no longer push your buttons.

Answer 3

Being 2 has nothing to do with it. I do home daycare and I have a 2 year old who was just like this. It got to the point where I didn't want to watch her anymore. So I called her parents in to talk. We all talked and decided that the best thing to do will be IGNORE HER! When ever she crys just go one with your life and let them cry DO NOT TALK TO THEM AT ALL WHY THEY DO THIS! If they know that the fits won't get them anything, they will stop doing them. Make sure when he starts his fits he is in a safe spot. Put him in a playpen or his bedroom as long as there is nothing to hurt him. good luck!

Also, please do not ever put your child on ritalin, its just going to hurt them in the long run. Also don't have more kids until you have your other two under control.

Answer 4

I have a 2 yr old also and she is going to be 3 in November. She currently (along with her siblings) goes to see a psychologist for various reasons. It is possible she has a disorder, mine I have learned has Reactive Attachment Disorder, possible Oppositional Disorder and a Sensory Processing Disorder. All of this contributes to her continuous (hours) of tantrums. We try to ignore her as much as possible and have learned to give her praise even when she is in time out. Tell her how good she is doing and you are proud she has done it for one minute and only one more minute to go. Other than this we ignore her expect for the praise for her to be quiet and the one minute praise other than that pretend she isn't there, do not feed into or engage her at all. This was the hardest thing for us to learn but it is finally starting to work sometimes.
I suggest taking her to a Psychologist and make sure it is excessive tantrums for a normal 2 yr old behavior. My ped told me the same thing, she will grow out of it, and she hasn't it only has gotten worse.

Also to the others Ritalin doesn't react bad for all children, I have one on it and it helps him alot. But I agree that 2 1\2 is too young.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Whatever you do, stay calm, and when HE calms down enough to snuggle, ask him what he's so angry about .....In a way that he'll understand, of course.

Please don't be tempted to put him on Ritalin... Its effect on a child's brain is very similar to that of cocaine. (!)

Spend loads of quality time with him. Read aloud to him. Sing to him. Play music and dance with him. Cover the kitchen table and let him draw and finger-paint. Get out in the fresh air and really play with him. Also, turn off the TV for as long as possible. My guess is he will outgrow this stage, but it will take heaps of patience and one-one-one time from you and your husband.

Answer 6

You shouldnt use drugs to fix a behavior problems. Have you tried time out? He is not going to do anything to seriously harmhimself... he's 2. When he throws a fit pick him up hold him tight and tell him a story in a low soothing voice... or sing a song. He may just need some good ole attention from mom...HUGS NOT DRUGS!!!

Answer 7

My opinion is that he seems to be controlling the situation. You are letting him controll u and he knows that he can get his way with you and your husband. You need to both come into agreement about a good routine in which you and your husband let your son know what is wrong and what is right. Reprimend him when he does something wrong, but don't hit him or yell at him. He then will think it's okay to hit and yell at you as well. Take it easy and try to ease him into a routine that works for all of you. :D

But remeber in the end, only you know whats best for your child.

Answer 8

Kids usually stop doing things that hurt them (like fat lip, etc), unless they are getting something from it, like extra attention you are giving him due to bleeding, etc. Next time, just let him be. He can totally understand you. Tell him this is not acceptable behavior, and you will not pay any attention to him until he behaves. He'll stop after a while.

Answer 9

get a second doctors opinon if hes hurting himself like that there is something wrong n you dont want him to keep having fits llike that its one thing to have a fit but to where hes making himself bleed the docs needs to do something also try therapy n if the different docs turn you down then keep trying more one thing you can do is when he has fits go find out why n try to comfort him n hold him

Answer 10

well i read in a dib[drug id bible] that anphemeans [what judy g took before she sang ] will com him down ask you edoctor
well if he has adhd or add or you can put something soft of the door so he wont get the fat lip etc also anphetemeans are like pllis no tlike th emore advanced verson[do not use the more advanced verson its iliigal ]