How do I meet smart guys?

Question

I'm almost 40, recently divorced, and a former model so I think I look pretty good. I'd like to have a relationship with a guy who's intelligent, well read, and as into techie things as I am but because of my looks I feel like I have a difficult time finding out what a guy is really like since his mind tends to be elsewhere. Also I attract all the wolves and jerks and they seem to drive away the nice guys.

I've been married twice to gorgeous guys who were completely shallow and I don't want to make those same mistakes again. Does anyone who has been down this kind of road have some advice for me?

No messges from guys saying "I'm the one for you" please. I'm just looking for advice.

Answer 1

Try to meet someone online and use an average looking girl's picture until you get to know the person. Then you will know what he's really thinking and how he really feels about you.

Answer 2

I don't know what you've been doing, so I can't say definitively what you should do differently, but maybe you could help yourself by changing the locales of your social activity to places where men suited to your tastes might be likely be found. I'll bet you didn't find your previous husbands in museums or evening college classes. If you were looking for an 80-year-old, you'd try nursing homes. If you were looking for a teenager, you'd try the mall. You know what you want. Where is that guy likely to spend his time?
Start spending more time there. And don't be afraid to make the first move. Trust me, guys of the sort you seek are often so tired of rejection that they stop trying unless encouraged.
Good luck.

(Oh, by the way, "I'm the one for you!" ) ;-D

Answer 3

I suggest you don't go after the gorgeous guys, I think you are looking to find happiness obviously, but not the right type. you are looking for the temporal happiness that maybe these your former husbands have given you. Go somewhere other then bars to find men. if you want to meet nice guys and smart ones, I suggest a library, service projects, or anywhere where smart nice men will be. Don't give up, there is someone out there for you that will make you happy, he might not be the best looking but he will be the best to make you happy.

Answer 4

Try to look the part. Present your self as an intelligent person. Don't dress to show off your body but dress like a professional. Use correct grammar. And of course go where the techie,s would go.

Answer 5

Have you considered like trying to meet a guy in a technology store? Have you considered trying a bookstore or library? Have you also considered taking a class? Colligate men are very intellectual and intelligent.
There is hope. I used to wonder if I would meet an intelligent man. I happened to be shopping in the tecnology department. He and I have been dating for two and a half months. I hope I could help you out.

Answer 6

I don't think your issue is "smart" guys versus other guys. Your connection of dumb to good-looking and smart to not good-looking (implied) is a little strange. What you really need is for a guy to see you for who you are without reading you as just a sexpot. That starts with you not reading them the same way, dear. Regardless of looks, try meeting men in different circles than you have in the past. Try through church, or volunteer associations, groups that attract men of character etc. You need to find a man with quality character who will notice that you are beautiful, but will want to know you more than that. Good luck.

Answer 7

It all depends on what you consider to be smart...

Do you mean less smart, as smart or smarter than yourself..?

If you mean less smart then you're setting the bar too low and will just be getting in to a relationship with someone who you look down on, if you mean as smart then you'll be competing for dominance and will probably argue a lot about everything and anything, if you mean smarter you'll feel inferior and resent him for making you feel stupid...

My Mrs. is as smart as I am and we argue every day about anything and everything... I love it, she loves it, we love each other and we wouldn't have it any other way...

I've met people who never argue and they are usually miserable or cheating on each other. I've met people who are unbalanced and the inferior partner usually leaves for greener pastures and will cheat on the other at the drop of a hat...

So, in conculsion, try to find someone who you really can't be with for more than a day without having a balzing row because you disagree on virtually everything... You'll never have another boring day in your life and you'll always have something to talk, or argue, about... Our relationship is as spicy now as it's always been and neither of us would ever look elsewhere for fear of the other beating them to death...

Trust me, it works...

Answer 8

I am the one for you" You said guys.....kidding.. Its all about how you present yourself. If you show off your chest, legs and ***, yes the wolf pack will be after you. You have to look the wright way and be at the wright place. Try happy hour in fancy functions. Go to business net work meetings. These guys make money and smart to.

Answer 9

First, get yourself a pair of horn-rim glasses that just have ordinary glass in the frames. This is your disguise. Next, go where the smart guys go. Lastly, don't ignore the guys that you may initially think of as too nerdy. Most of these guys have what I call 'hyper-loyalty'. If you treat them right, they will stand with you forever.

Answer 10

Volunteer at the library. 40! go back to school but no make up, find a dude into his study check his books & strike up a conversation by asking questions/Good luck (PS I'm available 66m :) .)