am i "NORMAL"?????

Question

im 14, will be 15 on the 24'th of this month, and my parents have been divorced since i was 3. i decided to move in with my dad over the summer, and my mom was furious(putting it in nice terms).well she FORCED me to come back and live with her, she got the police into it, and i had to ride in the back of one of their cars, but thats not what the question is about. i was wandering if it was "normal" for you to loose wieght, hair, get skin irrations, have migrains, vomit often and caugh up blood due to nerves.And i no that this isnt a good thing, but this place is making me crazy, LITRALLY crazy, i am soooo being truthful!!!


thanks for the help, all this bull is making me feel like an outsider with a differtn last name.



heathernicole

Answer 1

YOU NEED HELP

First get your family doctor to assess the level of stress you are dealing with, then:

Get a child advocate to file with the court an appeal that details the problems you are having, which are caused by stress. And impress upon them ALL, IN COURT, that you cannot stay in a situation which is literally driving you mad.

Good luck to you.


PS it is entirely possible to cough up blood from anxiety - it is masking you cough so much, so hard, so long that you are rupturing small vessels in your lungs/bronchi/airway.

Answer 2

It is completely normal to lose weight and hair, get skin irritations, headaches, and upset stomach which can lead to vomiting from stress/nerves. I'm a nervous type person myself and when I am under a lot of pressure I have experienced some of these symptoms.

But just because it is not un-normal doesn't mean you shouldn't seek professional attention (either psychological or actual medical) to handle the stress better and to look into your symptoms...especially the coughing up blood thing...that's not good! There could possibly be some additional problem that needs to be looked at. For example, being under stress can lower your immune system, making you more susceptible to picking up stuff or developing other problems. Again, these aren't "abnormal" responses to severe stress, but I would encourage you to seek some type of help.

Answer 3

1) I believe at your age it is your choice with whom you want to be with. However, it will require court action to provide a legal standpoint so that your mother cannot force you to come back to here. Your father would have to initiate the court action.

2) It sounds like you are have an extreme adverse affect from stress. Seek a medical professional IMMEDIATELY!

Item 1 will help to alleviate item 2.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Girlie.. I would talk to your mom and just be truthful with her and be honest and NICE not mean or disrespectful to her and tell her that you do not want to live with her but still love her and that it might change again someday.. that you want her to understand where you are coming from.. and that YOU want what is best for everyone and you think that it is at your Dad's for now. Let her know you love her and want to have a mother daughter relationship but you want to live at your Dads! If you explain all of this in a calm peaceful way and she gets mad or blows up or starts getting upset yelling and what not..just look at her and tell her that you want to talk as too adults and it is making you very upset and physically sick what is going on.. tell her that you are sick and feel very bad.. Good luck!!

Answer 5

It can be both stress and declining physical health which in tern is related to your day to day life.

First of all, you need to distance yourself from your parent's problems. It is not your responsibility to fix it.

You need to take better care of yourself and if you feel you are not getting it from either of your parent talk about it with them and consider an alternative like a grand parent or close relative.

If things get really ugly you can seek help from a state or government organization specialized in this kind of situations.

Best of luck.

Answer 6

when I was your age I had similar issues with my parents. almost led me to suicide. I decided to call the operator from a payphone and they gave me the number to a local center for children & families. there they had me speak to a councelor, see a nurse and join some workshops with other kids my age but with bigger problems. after hearing some of there stories I realized there are worst places I could be in my life. I would say to speak to your school counselor and see if there are any programs or places you can go where you can go and get some things off your chest anonomously, believe me it helps.

Answer 7

Well weight loss, hair loss, and headaches are definitely stress related. Coughing up blood is not normal though. You might have an ulcer or something seriously wrong. Get to the doctor ASAP.

Answer 8

I know exactly what your going thru, the same thing happened to me at the same age, I am now 16. Your probably overstressed which led to you having a stomach ulcer. You need to see a doctor & tell him your symptoms. He'll probably give you medication for it. Good luck with everything & remember what doesn't kill you makes you stronger & when you get thru all this, you'll be able to help someone else who is going thru what your going thru.

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear you are having such a rough time!! Yes nerves can cause all those problems! In our state a child is old enough at age twelve to decide in court where they choose to live,check out your local laws. Talk to your dad and see if it is possible to work something out! good luck sweetheart!!!

Answer 10

Yes, those all sound like symptoms of anxiety. You should see both a medical doctor and a counselor. I'm 21 and have had all those symptoms and it's so sever that I have to be on medication so might have to as well. Good luck.