I guess it really wasn't a disaster to those who were there but the thing is.., I invited numerous people from our church and only one family attended? What to do about it? I think that is wron because they are always so interested in her and running up to her right after church and loving on her and BAM...don't even show up for the party. Do I say anything about it, or what? Act like it didn't happen....I am so upset, I planned this for weeks and even had it in a banquet room at the church to have space for everyone. I felt like such a loser because everyone asked"where is everyone" Ugh.!!!Help me get over this?
2006-09-11 08:48:43 · 14 answers · asked by T&E 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Bad thing about is was that the very same people that didn't show were the ones 2 months prior asking me when her party was so that they would make sure they were there.
2006-09-11 08:55:39 · update #1
also, there was a note posted for "regrets only" with the phone #...still no calls came
2006-09-11 09:00:20 · update #2
I would be having a problem with this also. You find out through situations like this who your real friends are. I can't believe (considering they were your friends from church) that they didn't have the decency to rsvp. I'm sorry that happened to you, that's awful. Maybe next time just send out invitations to friends with little ones and have it at your own home. At least your little one is to little to understand what happened..
2006-09-11 09:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Major breech in etiquette to those who did not RSVP! Shame on them! I have 2 daughters, and have thrown dozens of parties and that is always my biggest pet peeve as well. But I would never put "regrets only' on the invite because it makes it too easy for them to forget you if they don't HAVE to call. Make them call!
I'm so sorry you feel badly about the way the baby's party went, but like the other's have said (some a little rudely), a 1st birthday party is really more for the parents than the baby. I hope you got lots of pictures! And don't waste any more energy being mad about the ones who slighted you. You've been stressed enough!
2006-09-11 12:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds likie a lot of people at your church are not very "christian". You have nothing to get over and you are not a loser, they are for having such poor manners. Maybe next time you can ask people to RSVP if they plan to come. When you see any of these people, just say you were sorry they could not come, that you missed them. Thank goodness your little girl is only one and didn't realize how hurtful people can be.
2006-09-11 08:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The general rule is to invite as many guests as your kid's age. So next year, that would be 2 friends. Maybe the church people didn't know how big a deal it was to you, maybe they thought you shouldn't throw a huge party for a 1 year old, maybe if you only see them at church they don't consider themselves to be great friends, maybe something came up, maybe they're clueless and rude. Just don't invite them to anything else.
2006-09-11 12:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luckily for you, your daughter is young and will not remember this. When kids are this young, they don't require a large party just a few family members and close friends to celebrate the day. Keep things like this small, only invite people you are close with, not people you associate with once a week. Because they party was for your daughter, and not you, I wouldn't let it bother me because the people who care about your daughter were there.
2006-09-11 10:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by jtj 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think you went overboard on the party. Why would people from your church, that isn't family, want to come to a 1 year old party? Did you do it for more gifts? I don't understand your reasoning. Learn from this experience. Only immediate family to birthday parties for babies.
2006-09-11 13:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people don't know how to say "no" politely. They say "maybe" or just don't answer, because they're afraid of offending. They might love your little girl, but they might have other plans or maybe they just don't like parties.
Of course, not answering is even worse-- as your hurt feelings show.
Next time you plan an event, let people you invite know that you need an accurate count. Better to get a definite "no" than no answer. But, you need to accept their answers-- don't push folks to say "yes"!
2006-09-11 09:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by btsmith_y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way over the top for a 1yr old. Yeah, she might be the cutest thing in diapers, but you put this party on to impress all your church friends. Kid's birthdays are small, immediate family events....aunts, uncles, grandmas and grandpas, and close family friends...
2006-09-11 09:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. That must hurt. Would it feel okay to tell some of those people that you missed them at the party. Your daughter has a generous and loving mom.
2006-09-13 00:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by kepher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That one person was mean - of course the party was for you - a one years old party is very special to a Mom! It would have hurt my feelings to, it would have hurt most anyone's feelings.
Don't dwell on it and don't focus on this next year - still have the party you want for your baby.
2006-09-11 09:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋