MEN...have you ever been emotionally abused by a woman? did it damage your self-esteem?

Question

women often say abusive men control them damage their self esteem. does it work the other way around? or a men "thicker-skinned" would a man stay in an "abusive" relationship the way a lot of women do?

Answer 1

I know loads of women who bully their boyfriends - they seem to like it

Answer 2

It does, I've worn the t-shirt.

Have stayed far too long in one than was good for me and took a while to get over it after I managed to get my self respect and dump her.

She always thought she has good intentions, and for quite a while I believed her, just thought she was not very good at making things work. Everybody else pointed it out as abuse and it took while for me to see it.

Lost a lot of money and she consistently sponged and lived off me, even when I had little money coming in. Life was all about her and not ever about me.

When she didn't get her way a number of times she tried physical violence. Now this is scary because as a guy it is very risky to even defend yourself against a women. I was advised to get every event recorded by the police. I didn't do i but i will do if it ever happens again.

She wasn't ever really concerned with win win outcomes she just wanted what she wanted.

She was one of the most manipulative people I have ever met in my life and yet I still think she thinks she wears a halo.

Answer 3

Okay...

I'll work backwards through your question....
Would a man stay in an abusive Relationship?
Put simply yes they do.....
Men in these types of relationship justify their reasons for staying in the same way that it is often reported that women do. Normaly citing that the abuse is in some way their own fault or isnt really that bad.

This normally then leads into a co-dependancy cycle whereby the abused, at a physcological level equates the abuse , whether phsical or emotional , as a demonstration of their partners depth of love for them.
" she only does it because she loves/cares so much"

This is then further exasipated ( sorry about the spelling) by the lack of recognition within society that the problem of Male abuse exists, which in itself leads to a question for the questioner .

Q) What would society presume, if an abused Male, snapped and struck their partner?

The damage to ones self esteem from abuse, i believe, is only short term and normally occours during the relationship itself and for a short term once the relationship is over. I think that once safe from the abusive relationship it is best to accept that the abuse took place , it wasnt your fault and gather strength from that.

My Experience lasted seven years, and included initially just emotional abuse which spiralled after three years into physical abuse, which included assaults with weapons ( Knives, glasses etc...). Some of the abuse was very subtle, some just manipulative some just plain weird.

To give you an example, we lived in a small village, not far from her parents, I dont know whether she had been told that people had heard or suspected that something wasnt right, but one evening after i had cooked she started on me, by this time ( about four years in ) i had realised it was safer not to argue or answer back but just take it, and suddenly she started yelling at the top of her voice " thats right why dont you just hit me" and throwing herself at the backdoor and kitchen cupboards. By this time me and the dog just sat on the stairs listening to her shouts and throwing herself about dragging stuff off of the shelves and sideboards... I really to this day dont know what she was doing, apart from trying to fool the neighbours and other villagers into thinking that she was the abused....i dont know......
The only thing i can say is that it didnt work when we finally broke up, My mother tried to arrange with her mother for me to be able to come around and pick some stuff up....her mum said that my ex didnt want to be in the house when i came around, for some reason my mum then asked why, does he hit her? her mum replied no, he's never touched her she hits him though......!!!!

Answer 4

Have you been emotionlly abused by a man? It goes the same way, just men get over it quicker, while women tend to never forget about it for a long time. I mean if it gets into domestic violence, then thats a different thing though.

Answer 5

Ya while i became into in seventh grade i became into going out with this female ans she cheated on me and made me appear like a fool, ever considering the fact that then I not often communicate in school save to myself, have a no longer trouble-free time chatting with women because of the fact i think of that they are going to fond me grotesque or in simple terms unlike how i'm, i think of that each and every thing I say or do is going to unfold each and every, its replaced me for the extra serious

Answer 6

Men are generally physically stronger than Women, but Women are Emotionally stronger than Men.. Please dont go treating all women like crap if you get mistreated guys.. we are not princesses or angels regardless of our mistakes.. Get over the past and move on

Answer 7

ive never been abused but i been used by my first love which maked it worse as well.
she lied and cheated.
i took me a long time to trust woman again. it nearly killed me as i try once to take my life. then my best friend come to my aid and help me though a bad time.
it took over a year to get my self asteam back.
thank god i did because now i have found my baby my soul mate, my sunshine. my current girlfriend.
weide thing about it it made me more protective of woman!!!!!
if u wanna know more of the story i be happy to tell you.
xxxx

Answer 8

Women are worse than men and more devious, it just doesn't get the same publicity as men don't get the same support or go screaming blue murder over a slap.

Answer 9

Are you an "emotional abuser" of men,that can't control your abusing?

Answer 10

my bf has been through alot of abuse from his ex. he's struggling but he's getting better. i could stab the cow but i feel sorry for her cos he's my lovely foxy now