i am preagnet and only 14 i know who the babys dad will be, its my bf i have been with him 1 year but now wit a baby i dont no if he will stay much longer he says he will be here for me n the baby but i dont no i dont want to abort it but i think i should his grandma saaid she will watch it for us so we can finish school and all that. i want the baby so bad but i think we r to young for one right now i would talk to my mom about it but she already kicked me out the house so i am liviin with my bf. should i keep the baby someone help
2006-09-11 08:32:16 · 8 answers · asked by confussed3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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That will give you good, sound advice from the greatest source of wisdom, comfort, and truth. Don't have an abortion sweetie, no matter how you look at it, it's still murder. You do have other options. I know you're scared, but you can do this.
2006-09-11 08:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey you are in a heap of trouble. Why did you not use protection. You need to evalute your lives. Are you really finacially and emotionally ready to give up your lives to care for a baby. Why don't you consider your options. you can have the baby and always struggle to get the things you need and want. You can have an abortion which is up to you to decide if that is a desicion you can make. Or you could give the baby up for adoption ther by giving the child a chance at a life you and your boyfriend can't afford. You can choose an open adoption which will mean you can pick who your child goes with and even ask to be a part of the baby's life. You can get pictures and letters and that way you will know what happend to him/her. I do not know one 14 year old who is capable of being a good mother not because you don't want to but because you can't. Just think of all the really great peopel who can't have children and will give your child a really great life.
2006-09-11 08:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by lunitari601 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I sympathize for you. I can't tell you what to do but in my opinion you should keep it. I wouldn't get an abortion because you are already young and I know some grown women who have had complications with that. If he says he will be there and his grandma will watch the baby then you may as well go for it. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 08:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever decision you make , you have to live with it. Clearly by asking should I keep it, you are not mature enough to parent a child. This is not a decision you can take lightly. You can't take a poll and tally up the answers to decide something as life changing as this. Do some soul searching, figure out what you can live with and pray about it. Make your decision on what is best for you and the baby , no one else.
2006-09-11 08:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by heaven o 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are very young to be having a baby. No do not abort, babys are a blessing. You want this baby so bad, have it. You could get financial help. And if your b/f said he will be there for you than he will he has to he's the dad. Don't do anything you will regret. Remember babys are blessing from God.
2006-09-11 08:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by kookie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow sweetie, this is a big situation for you to handle by yourself. If you are in school, i think you should try to talk to someone. Maybe your school nurse or a teacher you trust. If you have the feeling that your boyfriend is not going to be around after the baby, maybe you should sit down and talk to him and his grandmother. You need to keep in mind that your mom put you out. and if things don't go like you would like them to with him, you will be out of a place to live as well. Maybe you should talk to your mom. She may be mad, but she may be the one to help you choose what is right or not.
2006-09-11 08:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by living this life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give it up for adoption. The baby has a RIGHT to a stable home with two parents that can afford to give it the things it needs.
People that go through the adoption process are screened for exactly those things.
Doing anything else would be for selfish reasons and a baby doesn't need a selfish mother.
2006-09-11 08:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well honestly, you are way too young to even have a serious boyfriend. In my OPINION, I don't think you should keep it. You have plenty of years to have a child. You will loose your youth. When your friends go out to the movies, fair, party, you will be at home changing dipers and doing laundry. but do what you feel is right for you.
2006-09-11 08:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_truth 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋