I was in love with a woman once, but never got a chance to tell her. I harbor a lot of those feelings for her still, but I've kinda learned to let it go. currently I am with a man, and he means a lot to me, but I think in my heart, mind, body and soul I want to be with women. There's just something about them that seems to be so much more better than men. I love men, but my heart is for women. I'm afraid to express this love any way more than jokingly b/c I am soooo afraid of being judged by my family, and more than that, I was raised in church, and I really have no desire to go to hell. What do I do? And if this fear of hell stays w/me, how can I learn to let go my love for women? What should I tell my current partner?
2006-09-11 08:21:28 · 11 answers · asked by luvsuckstrueluvswallows 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont actually think that is totally true. My faith with that has been tested recently and i have been doin some thinking. God is Love. He loves us no matter what, and we are supposed to try and be more like Him, right? So as long as you are in love, you cant go to hell. Love means loving someone whether it goes against thier beliefs or not, whether its 'right' or 'wrong'. I am not saying that coming out wont hurt anybody or that you wont be judged by ppl, but the same can be said for doing anything that is not generally accepted by the majority of ppl. Like saying you are of a different religion other than Christian, or dating outside of one's own race. There are always going to be ppl who are for it and ppl who are against it. If your family truly loves you, they will understand and continue to love you no matter what. just because they are ur family does not mean they are not ppl. And all ppl are not as caring and understanding as you think they should be. Trust me, i had to learn the hard way. Just sit your current partner down and try to explain your feelings. If he understands, yay, if he doesnt, dont worry about it. It might hurt at first, but u will be following your heart, and in the end, you dont have to make anybody happy but urself.
Good Luck, hope this helps.
2006-09-11 08:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by scorpioangel22 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It often amazes me how many people go against the Bible's teaching. OK, you want to know the answer (that a lot will disagree with). Only Jesus can deliver you from homosexual desires. I have gone through this with my daughter and, yes, she is heterosexual now even though she had a lesbian relationship. Now I'll grant you. . . you need a special man that will understand these feelings you have and pray with you and work with you to love you for you and you to love him for him.
You do not have to go to hell. You can have as many women friends as you like and love them (albeit not physically). Finally you should tell your partner (hopefully your relationship is NOT physical either because that still violates God's plan) the truth. Always tell the truth. I would sit down and have a heart to heart with your pastor or a Christian counselor that can help you sort out your feelings. If you can't find one, contact Focus on the Family or some other Christian counseling group in your city. If you can't find one ask your pastor, other pastors in your city until you do.
You WILL succeed. Remember God first. . . success follows.
2006-09-11 08:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You described yourself as a bi-sexual male, capable of enjoying sex with the right person be they male or female. Do not judge yourself too harshly, this is a natural occurrence in nature. Do not pressure yourself to "come out" until it feels right, meaning you fall in love with a man you want to be with in a committed relationship forever. At that point you will need to do some explaining. Don't sweat the small stuff. Just find the right person (male or female) and be blessed and thankful that you did. The new testament does not focus on homosexuality like it does many other sins. Talk to your priest or minister or contact one by email.
2006-09-11 08:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by ebizartistry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are not going to go to hell for loving a woman. You love your mother right? Not only that but some of the things in the bible are just misinterpreted. You need to do what is best for you no matter what everyone else says. The best time to come out is as soon as possible! You dont need to do anymore damage to your mental health by keeping that inside for no one to hear. Your family will either understand and accept it or they wont. Either way, they are your family and they will love you no matter what you do. My fiance has a gay twin brother who is married to a man and is accepted by his religious family. I have a gay cousin and a lesbian cousin and no one loves them less because of it. Not only that but I have an enormous group of gay friends and lesbian friends. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you like and having the courage to tell people what you want. Look at Ellen, no one really shunned her for being a lesbian, in fact, she makes jokes about her being gay. Your current partner is going to be hurt, but maybe you can incorporate him into it if you love him too. Maybe he would be open to you both sharing a girlfriend. Who knows? You have to give people the benefit of the doubt until you find out otherwise.
2006-09-11 08:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Natty137 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A) Forget the myth about hell for loving another woman. You can love who you love...follow your heart. The goal is to love...not hate! Haters are condemned...not lovers.
B) Are you with a man? You must be true, to yourself...and him...it's not fair to lie to either one of you
C) Come out only if you need to...only you can know this
D) Honesty is the best policy
E) Be happy, loved and loving...have a great life..help others..dare to care.
2006-09-11 08:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by robert r 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh I so understand this! I say be honest with yourself you cannot repress your feelings it causes problems that you may not even be aware of. I knew I liked women for a while now but..... I never acted on these feelings until recently. I went ALL the way with another woman who I have been friends with for a year, and I loved it. I feel like I was lying to myself not acting on my feelings. Now I feel scared because I love two people (BF of 9 years and girlfriend who I slept with). I still say you really have to be honest with your feelings because I regret not acting on mine sooner.
2006-09-11 08:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there. Stay with the man. God does not want you to be with women he made you to be with man. Pray to Him and ask Him to take the feelings away and that you don't want to go to hell. Ask Him to forgive you and accept Him in your Heart and the feelings will go away believe me. Maybe its just a fantasy you are having about women. Do what I said and you'll be fine. I'll Be praying for you.
2006-09-11 08:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by kookie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to no longer be rude or something, yet once you may freak out considering which you're in a relationship with a guy then you certainly probable are not gay or bisexual. in spite of the fact that, in case you comprehend you're bisexual attempt popping out on your mum and dad or a trusted grownup (grandparent, aunt, uncle, and so on.) first. Then come out to an in depth buddy who you have faith consisting of your each little thing. determine you could have faith them. yet additionally they ought to be open-minded. yet remember, gay jokes does no longer mean a individual is close-minded. they may be doing as a thank you to "slot in", such as you're once you assert you like females. Then, you frequently have somebody to talk to without concern. finally it gets much less complicated to tell extra people and finally you heavily isn't self-extensive conscious and you may tell whoever you like. have faith me, it gets much less complicated, you purely ought to commence small with some people you have faith, then a bigger group of acquaintances, then you certainly won't ought to difficulty in any respect. Be stable and don't feel embarrassment approximately who you're.
2016-11-07 02:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the feeling go!
Who says you will go to hell for loving women? But if it's true, then you will be there with a lot of nice people.
If this is what you feel then it would be wrong to go on pretending otherwise.
IT IS NOT A SIN!
2006-09-11 08:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by MrsTrellis 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all be true to your self and no you can't go to hell for that.
2006-09-11 08:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by mariah!:) 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋