I've had this problem for about 3 years now. It's as if certain folk (1 in particular) are obsesively overprotective. By the way, I"m 25 (almost 26) years old.
2006-09-11 08:16:08 · 6 answers · asked by TK COOL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since you've only had this problem for three years, I am assuming that this is not a parent or family member? If that's the case, just cut this person out of your life completely. They are a control freak, and control freaks can not be reasoned with.
With extensive counseling for many years, they may learn how to stop trying to control every single move of others, but they have to WANT to change. Most don't because they believe they are always 100% right about everything.
If this is someone like a parent or sibling that you can not ignore completely, just ignore their complaints/concerns. When they tell you what to do just stare at them blankly as if they're not there. If they repeat themselves, just say, "I heard you." Offer no more. Do not argue the point with them. You will not win, they will not change their mind.
2006-09-11 08:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to start off . You are really 2 years and 364 days behind. From the first day this started you should have put a total stop to it. A lot people meddle and stick their nose in other people business because number 1 they don't have none of their own and number 2 because we let them. A problem is identified as something you can't control or get rid of .You don't have a problem just let whoever know that you are an adult and get some business of their own.
2006-09-11 15:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They like to feel the rush of controll, and it usually comes back to hurt them. If you are over 18, you can file a restraning order (must have a good reason) with the police. I believe the person will not be allowed within 100-200 yards of you. Not sure, though. Contact your local police station.
2006-09-11 15:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by I think... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are just over-protectively and have control issues... if it's you the person is controlling then tell them your an adult and to butt out ... pretty simple. If you live in their house and it's their rules then live with it or move... again pretty simple.
If it's the relative of a spouse/girl/boyfirend then need to tell them to stand up to this person or get out of the relationship because no one has the right to control your life but you.
Unless of course your George W then you think you control the World...but thats another for another answer
2006-09-11 15:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by lisa n florida 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they want to shape you into what they think is the perfect person they know they are too weak to change themselves so they try and change you instead. They are also insecure and have low self esteem they are failures whom try to convence themselves that its everybody elses fault for the bad things that happen to or around them, when in fact it is thier own.
2006-09-11 15:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by LT. DAN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they only meddle because they r not happy in their own lives and if getting in ur business makes them feel better thats what they do its never about helping with a solution its about making themselves feel better
2006-09-11 15:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by ndemby05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋