Do you think it is ok for a woman to ask a man to marry her?

Question

we have only been together for 7 months and am very career minded, but just know that this man is for me and i want to spend the rest of my life with him, i have never laughed so much, i think hes gorgeous and giving and patient and wonderful i think you get the drift!

Answer 1

My wife asked me to marry her; but we had known each other for over 20 years and had dated for about a year and a half... it's obvious I said 'yes'.

Good luck

Answer 2

I don't think there is anything wrong with it per se. It really just depends on the type of person he is and the type of relationship you have together. I'm a very "old fashioned" type of girl and so I wouldn't do the proposal. However, if he is the type of guy who doesn't mind you taking the lead then go for it. Two such television/movie proposals come to mind. In Runaway Bride, the Julia Roberts character proposes to the Richard Gere character after she leaves him at the altar. That's more of a "make-up and forgive me" proposal. On the show Sex and the City, the Miranda character proposes to the Steve character over cheap beer. It was very cute and romantic. Although, keep in mind that these were scripted proposals and not real life! LOL The bottom line is...only you know what you feel in your heart and what is truly right for you and your man. Whatever you decide...all the best of luck to you!

Answer 3

I think you should tread carefully here, as I think it takes men longer to come to the decision that this is the woman they want to spend the rest of their lives with. I knew my husband was the man for me very quickly and he told me that he loved me very much and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. However rather than rush into things he said he needed to be 'sure sure' and not just 'sure' that I was the girl for him. We always talked about getting married and knew we would, but he didn't propose until the time was right, when he knew 150% that it was what he wanted and also when we had lived together for a year and were settled and secure in our life. After 2 1/4 years he proposed and a year and a bit later we got married. It was the most fantastic day of our lives and the best thing about it was knowing that he didn't have the slightest doubt.

I think if you propose to your boyfriend after seven months you may not get the reaction you want, but if you wait he might suprise you with a beautiful ring when you least expect it. Great things are worth waiting for, don't wish your life away.

Answer 4

If you think he's the kind of man who's secure enough in his masculinity to handle being asked, I think it's okay. Most men, though, would not be OK with it.

Whatever you decide, don't rush it! Wait until you've been through two seasons of holidays (Christmas, birthdays, Valentine's Day) before you agree to marry. That way, you'll know the family traditions and what impact they'll have on your lives. Family defines so much of who we are and the choices we make.

You'll also know that whatever you have is genuine: anyone can put on a show for one round of holidays, but after two you'll both know exactly what you're getting.

Answer 5

7 Months is a very short time you dont want to lose what you have now by possible scareing him away whats the difference if yall are married or not either way yall are together now and hopefully as time goes by it will stay that way and if it does and he feels what you are feeling then he will ask you keep in mind marriage is just a paper stating that yall belong together and have to stay loyal and all and much more than that but if your feeling what you are feeling and so is he yall should already be doing everything that is done in a marriage yall dont need a piece of paper to prove it but yes it is ok for a women to ask but in your situation why would you want to possible ruin what you already have

Answer 6

YES! I did and have been married for 12 years now and have 2 children,still love him to bits and he is my best friend, the relationship has changed with time but that's the good thing about us, we can still laugh and cry together, but most of all laugh at our selves. I knew within a week he was the man I would marry. You just know when its the one.... Go for it and good luck

Answer 7

I dont think its about who ask, I think is about why the rush. 7 months its not that long and I am afraid he may not be where you are at.
Maybe bringing up the old "where is this going" talk should at least give you an idea of how he feels about a future with you.

If he is a softy romantic type of guy, he would probably appreciate the gesture otherwise he will feel plain gay.

Answer 8

I am not old fashion but I don't agree with a woman asking a man to marry her. It just seems kind of odd. Also we girls normally tend to fall for guys a lot faster and easier than they fall for us, so I would consider waiting if I was you. Wait and see - he might ask you.

7 months is not a long time so your wait might be worth your while. Besides wouldn't you want him to surprise you with a beautiful engagement ring.

After patiently waiting for my soon to be husband to propose to me (1 year 9 months later), we are now in the final plans for our November wedding.

Answer 9

I dont think its anything wrong with you asking him to marry you and If he feels the same way about you he will prolly say yes but Take you time before asking him to be part of a big commitment guys can be really nice and sweet untill you ask them to get lil bit more serious on an realtionship. Be patient.

Answer 10

The next leap year is 2008 so hang on until then when you can ask according to custom and of course by then you might have drifted off Cloud 9 a bit.

Answer 11

Yes I do think it is right, but 7 months is really soon to ask, I would not ask him after only being together for 7 months, it may send him packing. Have you guys openly spoken about taking your relationship to the next level? Has he mentioned that he wants to marry you? My only concern would be that he may say no, as 7 months is not that long really.