bridesmaid expenses- what and who pays?

Question

I am confused. What do I pay for for my bridesmaids? WHere they stay? Their attire? Their accessories? Huh?

Answer 1

I think that generally they are expected to pay for all of that. Of course, some might welcome it if you could help with the expenses.

Answer 2

When one agreed to be a bridesmaid, one should understand that one is agreeing to pay for special clothing, transportation, lodging, and so on. The bride (or the hosts) provide any flowers for the bridal (and groomal) attenants.

The more I read "Yahoo Answers", the more strongly I come to believe that brides and bridesmaids should have some sort of written agreement so as to avoid to later disagreements. When one expects merely to pay for a dress and shoes not of one's own choosing, one can become quickly annoyed at the mounting expenses for matching hairdo, matching manicure, matching earrings, matching handbags, and so on. When one spends beyond one's means to meet these expenses, and is then told that one is expected to contribute a few additional hundred for shower and bachelorette party --- this has sent many a mild mannered bridesmaid right through the roof. And we're not even considering the demands on bridesmaids time, when brides expect them to help make favors and centerpieces, address invitations, and so on.

I suggest that such questions be settled in advance, before one accepts the "honor" of serving as bridesmaid.

Answer 3

for sure you may want to be procuring her a wedding ceremony present besides, yet heavily, she 'informed' you that you 'might want to' pay for all this different stuff? do not waste yet another day. tell her you've been satisfied and overjoyed to be requested as a bridesmaid, yet that actual, you hadn't envisioned to incur such huge rate. Engagement present? i presumed she replaced into getting married: it truly is kind of late for engagement presents! although if she's basically were given engaged those days, the bride has NO say in even if every person supplies her an engagement present. No: you want to get which includes the others and communicate this, and performance the senior one of you bypass and tactfully clarify she is being BRIDEZILLA.

Answer 4

Every wedding I've done the bridesmaid's paid for their dress,shoes make-up and hair. As far as the bride paying for anything, they should get their attendants gifts. I suggest getting the jewelry to wear for the wedding. that has been a very popular thing. It's the brides way of saying thank you for sharing this day with me

Answer 5

You are not required to pay for anything. The dress, shoes and other accessories are their responsibility and their accomodations are also their responsibility. However, you should make this very clear to them if you think there is any chance they will be misguided.

Now, if you would like to pay for some or all of these things you are welcome to and I'm sure they would appreciate it. I would recommend keeping their attire at an affordable price (don't choose a $300.00 dress, it's not a kind gesture).

Answer 6

The bride pays for her bridesmaid's dress, shoes, accessories, makeup, hairstyle, etc. Those are considered gifts to the bridesmaid.

Answer 7

It's modern days. If you can afford to pay for the hotel room (they can share rooms if they aren't married), then do so, if not, then be sure to offer cheap as well as nice options for accomodations.

As far as expenses, they are responsible for their own clothing, hair, make-up and accessories, so try not to make their dresses haute couture at $1000 unless you plan on helping them out.

You are responsible to get them a gift to thank them for their friendship and support, especially on your special day. Many brides will buy the jewelry that the bridesmaids will wear with their gowns, but if you do this, be sure to buy something you know that they will like, and not just something YOU like. This shows them that you are thinking of THEM.

Do not feel obliged to do anything, though, that you can't afford. You are already paying for their dinner, drinking and dancing! They love you and that's why they agreed to be your bridesmaids, so they'll understand if you can't pay for their hotel room.

On the contrary, my sister paid for my bridesmaid's dress many years ago because I was a starving student at the time and simply couldn't afford the $300 dress she'd chosen for us to wear!
Also, my best friend's family (who is quite wealthy) paid for my hotel room when I was her maid-of-honor, but I paid for my dress, shoes and hair. She bought me a gorgeous necklace and earing set, though, with my style and tastes in mind.

Do what you can do. Don't worry about the rest.

Answer 8

You can pay for whatever you want to pay for. But traditionally, the bridesmaids are supposed to pay for their own dresses, accessories, hair and makeup, and all travel expenses.

It would be nice if you would pick up the tab for them to get their hair done, or buy them the jewelry you want them to wear if you have a set style in mind. But it isn't necessary.

Answer 9

Bridesmaids pay for their own dresses, accessories, ect..

Go to www.customweddingsolutions.com and click on their attendant duties guide. It lists the traditional duties for all members of the wedding party and is very helpful.

Answer 10

This is from theknot.com on who pays for expenses of bridesmaids:

. Do bridesmaids have to pay for their own dresses?Unlike the shower, it's completely cool to ask guests to chip in for the bachelorette bash. Just make it clear ahead of time.


A. Bridesmaids are generally expected to pay for their own wedding-day ensemble (shoes and jewelry included). If you think the cost is going to be an issue, voice your concerns to the bride. Hopefully she'll choose a dress that's reasonably priced, or consider letting you choose your own. She may give you some color/style requirements (i.e., black and ankle length), and then each of you would choose something that suits your standards. That way, you decide how much to spend.

Q. Who pays for the bridal shower? Just the maid of honor? Can we ask for contributions?

A. Whomever is hosting the shower (it's usually the maid of honor with help from the bridesmaids) should handle footing the bill. So no, you shouldn't ask for contributions from guests, even if the soiree is at a restaurant. That said, there are many budget-friendly ways to plan, and maybe the bride's Mom or Grandma will slip you some dough.

Q. Is it okay to charge per head at a bachelorette party, or do the maid of honor and bridesmaids foot the bill for all?

A. Unlike the shower, at which the hostess(es) pays for the party (that may mean the maid of honor or the MOH and all the bridesmaids), it's completely cool to ask everyone who comes to chip in for the bachelorette bash. But make it clear before the festivities begin. Inform all invitees what the plan is and how much the suggested contribution will be. No one should have a problem with it -- everyone wants to feel like she's showing the bride a good time.

Q. I, along with a few of the other bridesmaids, will be coming to the wedding from out of town, and will need to stay in a hotel for two to three nights. I know that the bride's family has reserved some rooms, but whose responsibility is it to pay? Also, is there any way to split the cost as a possible compromise?

A. Generally, attendants are responsible for paying their own way for accommodations, just as they pay for their attire and transportation. The bride's family may have been able to reserve a block of rooms at a discount, which ought to help save you some cash. Going halvesies is perfectly fine if her family is game; just know that they shouldn't be expected to pay. Bunking with one (or two) of the other bridesmaids is another way to cut costs.

Q. Who pays for bridesmaids' hair and makeup?

A. If the bride wants her attendants to have their hair and makeup done professionally, it's a nice gesture for her to offer to pay for these services on the morning of the wedding. The attendants are already paying for their dresses and -- if they don't live in the wedding city -- for travel and accommodations. You should not be expected to pay for professional hair and makeup as well. Tactfully bring up the issue with your bride (say "Should i do my hair myself for the wedding, or are you thinking of bringing someone in? How much does he/she charge?") just to make sure you're all on the same page.

Answer 11

Im in my second wedding and you are not required to pay for any of that. The attire and everything else is for them, if they cant pay for something they should let you know. Everyone knows how weddings are. Just get them a nice gift.