She cancelled our second date, called me back and was like "Hey" thanks for being so understanding...Then today i called her up and was like you wanna hang out tonight and she was like well what do ya wanna do; I said maybe dinner and go to the park or I can just cook you dinner and we can just go from there...She was like it depends on what time i get in tonight from orientation at work and stuff...So I was like I was thinking like 6 or 7ish....And she said hmm..Il call you when i get in...I know im probably over thinking this BUT I really like this girl...Do I have anything to worry about???
2006-09-11 08:04:28 · 26 answers · asked by Don't stop! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she wasn't interested why would she still call? Iguess this is part two of my question...
2006-09-11 08:07:27 · update #1
I got your back on this one.
The solution to this one is pretty easy. Don't call her. Wait for her to make the next move. You have clearly established your interest. Now you need to figure out what she wants out of this. I understand uncertainty from her new job...you probably do as well. Let her call you and set the date.
Put it this way...if she calls you and sets up a date you should be all set.(Provided you play this one cool) Under no circumstances should you call her until she makes her move and puts the ball back in your court. Resist the urge.
You do this and I guarantee you win. Either she calls and you date(win), or she doesn't call and you don't waste time and money on a few dates.(win)
2006-09-11 08:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can completely understand why you are worried. But relax - lets look at this logically. If she called you back and apologized and was still willing to hang out again some other time ( tonight) then she is obviously saying yes when she could have just said no in the first place. Yes, some girls are wishy washy about hurting guys' feelings and cant say no at once, but it really depends on each individual girl and I cant know for sure which one she is. But chances are she is just busy and stressed, and she does want to see you at some level - perhaps not as much as you want to see her yet, but there is plenty of potential for her to get there and like you just as much as you like her. It is a little weird that she wouldnt just say - yeah lets do 9 so that I will for sure be home by then and told you she will call instead - but it could be just that she wanted to be more flexible and understanding and wants to come over as soon as she gets off after 7 instead of waiting for the affixed later time of 9......
2006-09-11 08:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proabaly not, depending on how the first date went. Some girls don't like going on during the week. Especially if they work, its just too much for them. They want time to relax during the week and do their partying on the weekends. Although, I have known some that can party every single night and not be affected. If she wasn't interested, she wouldn't have even said she would call you when she got in,she would most likely tell you something to the effect of, well, our date was nice, but I just don't think you're my type and move on.
2006-09-11 08:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sandi A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically purchase him a going away card and take it over to him do not watch for him to call and say hiya i'm leaving practice more desirable challenge and then he will know you truly cared. the reason he's mad about the social gathering is because he nevertheless has feeling for you and deep interior he ought to be with you yet he's basically being a common guy and taking area in the not straightforward to come again position. Dont bypass over seeing his face for the perfect time or till the subsequent time. Take administration and bypass see him first.
2016-11-26 01:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by cassone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making dinner at home might be a little too early for a second date; IF she calls, I recommend taking her out for some dinner followed up by something fun like going to a movie; unless this park has rides and games, I recommend finding something else to do or she'll think you're cheap and/or trying to get sex.
2006-09-11 08:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends. If she has always been like that whatever attitude, u dont because she is still the way she was. If she just started that then YES you do have something to worry about. Well you know, sometimes, u dont want to be around someone, even the one u love, that means something is troubling her. Or worse she could be acting like that because she wasnt all serious about it when she said yes and u are always like oh lets go to dinner dis dat. she would try to avoid u.
try dat nonchallant attitude. it works alot. You act like u dont care and she'll be all loosened up. dont ask her to dinner or something romantic everytime. u could just be like friends sometimes play dominos, card games, race yadi yadi yada, and good romantic stuff but few so as to make it worthwile, u know? Dont do it all the time but when u do it, it'll be more special.
2006-09-11 08:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by tebuny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what it sounds like to me: She's dating, and not just you. That's not a bad thing. Doesn't mean she's sleeping around or slutty or anything. Just means that she may not like committment. Even committing to a date. She likes to keep her options open and if that really cute guy that she really likes wants to hang out on the same night as you, then she's going to either Cancel on you, or not schedule with you in the first place.
2006-09-11 08:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first met my boyfriend I was really busy with work and school that I didnt have alot of time to spend with him. I wasnt trying to blow him off I was just really busy. I dont think she is blowing you off. If she keeps this up for the next couple of weeks or doesnt make any plans to see you at all I would let her go.
2006-09-11 08:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your offers are boring.
Woman are looking for life altering experiences. They don't want to sit on a couch and eat dinner.
She asked because she wants something exciting..doesn't sound like you ..
Try a concert and see if she goes..if so..she ony wants the exciting part and in the long run..this gal will make you go broke, hungry, nutz and then still dump you in the end.
2006-09-11 08:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
from experience, hesitation to a guys' invitation out (or in) usually means they are waiting on a better offer or trying to excuse their way out of it. My advice is to get through tonight (but don't wait) and then let her make the next move.
2006-09-11 08:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by heandI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋