This may not seem like a big deal but recently my bf mentioned this girl he dated before he met me(he already told me he dated this girl a few years back called Tracy) but this other girl, he had never mentioned her before in the two years we've been together,so why he mention her now? Things are going fine between us but he also said something about if i wanted to break up with him he would understand,i just dont get men,what's up with him?
2006-09-11 08:01:55 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you've got to ask him about this. the two things may not be related. he may just be opening up to you and showing his insecurity or he may have bumped into her and she knows something unpleasant about him that he doesn't want to tell you. he may just be talking crap..guys do that every so often
2006-09-11 09:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try not to worry so much about the other woman you have to be confident in yourself to know how well the relationship is?? I am guessing that if he mentioned somthing about breaking up that maybe there are some problems with your relationship or maybe he has some feelings "Tracy" and she is now single and maybe he wants to explore his options. If that is the case this IS NOT a guy you want to be associated with, would he really be thinking about your happniess??
Things might seem fine but look close at your relationship as it seems like he already is?
2006-09-11 15:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by TME 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depends alot on what he said about her, and how the conversation turned into him telling you its cool if you break up with him.
his mentioning her is not that big a deal. unless you guys sat down and wrote out the names of every person you ever dated, it shouldnt be a surprise that he mentioned her now instead of when you first got together.
how many times have you told him a story from your past that involved an old boyfriend (or since we girls think we're so slick, we refer to them as 'friends' from back in the day)?
if you flipped out about it, that might be why he said you could bail if you wanted. but like i said, theres probably more details involved
2006-09-11 15:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He "mentioned" a girl and "said something about"- that doesn't sound like much to me. You sound really paranoid. Sorry, but it's true- the other answers have all been lead by the little bits you said, rather than the mountains of stuff you left out. Speak to him, but don't accuse him of anything, he sounds perfectly innocent to me!
2006-09-11 15:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by Oracle Of Delphi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps choose a right moment to sit down with him and talk to him. Ask him whats going on with him and he may well tell you. Perhaps it's nothing. Men often go off on one sometimes and goodness only knows what they are thinking.
Don't expect the rihgt answer straight away, just take things easy obviously something is going on in his head. Some just don't want to talk about it.
2006-09-11 15:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your very vauge in your explaination of whats going on and the details...... but it sounds to me as though he has seen his ex recently, the one he hadn't talked about before, and is having feelings of getting back with her, he is opening the door for you to leave him so that he can try another go around with her. Sorry, that is just what you said sounds like to me. Blessed be.
2006-09-11 15:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be looking for the next best thing, as mean as I may sound, I am not doing it on purpose, but I'm being honest with you, he may not be loyal, but talk to him about it and tell him you don't like it, if he gets mad then he has a crush on this girl.
2006-09-11 15:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've been dating him for 2 years?
I hate to say it but the biggest problem is that your boyfriend is a wimp.
He won't tell you what's going on.
If he's trying to spare your feelings he's doing a really lousy job of it.
Yeah, he probably wants to break up with you but he doesn't want to take responsibility.
FP
2006-09-11 15:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years we are so close and open to each other. i guess there are things they just dont tell you until one day it just comes out. I bet your thinking why has he just mentioned her now? has he seen her recetly? does he fancy her? your mind can run away with itself just tell him to be strate and that your not having a go. You could be taking it the wrong way. I know what your feeling just talk to him gud luk
2006-09-11 15:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by glam123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. You're closer to him than anyone of us here. If you don't even know, how would we know. But he shows signs of wanting a break or something. Or he started missing her or something.. No idea, you really should ask him (in a right situation).
2006-09-11 15:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's getting cold feet. maybe give him some space for a couple days. or take yourself on a vacation without him. he might be thinking "the grass is greener..." so show him it isn't. deny him of YOU. make him remember why he started this relationship and how much you are worth.
2006-09-11 15:05:17 · answer #11 · answered by ms. hardcore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋