Why is it hard to find a person who will treat me with respect and love me unconditionally?? what is wrong with me... Do I sound needy??
2006-09-11 07:59:33 · 35 answers · asked by shysinglefriend 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you love and respect yourself?
2006-09-11 08:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are a likeable person, but the phrasing of your question sounds WHINY and NEEDY.
Memorize the Shakespeare sonnets so you can quote them to women.
Go to a lot of social functions, dances and parties, even if no one talks to you. Keep plugging away and putting in appearances. There are always more people worth meeting.
Consider going to church regularly unless you're an atheist.
Go to the gym every single day and get in the best physical shape you possibly can. Love is a game of snap judgments and immediate appearances.
Do you have a baritone voice? If you don't, consider voice training and thoracic breathing to lower the register of your voice.
2006-09-11 08:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demand respect and love from any potential partner. Also, if you give those you are more likely to get them and keep them. I'm not sure what is wrong with you, not enough data yet. We are all needy, at least those of us who admit it. The unconditional thing is very very hard to find.
2006-09-11 08:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you don't sound needy and i doubt there is anything wrong with you! we all want a relationship like that ! i know i do! and a good man/woman is hard to find! i know i have spent years waiting for mr right to come along! and i'am still waiting! but latley i have met a nice interesting guy but right now all we are is friends!
2006-09-11 08:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always hard to find that person, because for one, they are always with another girl/guy, but hang in there, and don't say you can't find that person, you don't sound needy, you sound a bit depressed.
2006-09-11 08:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..very much so...and you have yet to learn that you must love yourself...When you do this, you will have people coming out of the woodwork to be with you. No one loves a needy person...
2006-09-11 08:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by bigdaddy_longstroke_2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are trying to hard - just be your self and you will attract the right kind of person to you... I am sure there is NOTHING wrong with you, You just hit a rough patch don't be so quick to jump into somthing enjoy the time you have to spend with family and friends and things will happen for you when you least expect them to :)
2006-09-11 08:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by TME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you sound needy. why can't you fall in love with yourself? you don't need a significant other to make things better, you need to believe in yourself and love who you are. the only thing that is wrong with you is that you THINK something is wrong with you.
2006-09-11 08:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by ms. hardcore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u wanna know the funniest thing? =T... when u think about it, what kind of person do u want as a girlfriend/boyfriend? do u picture a confident, loving, caring, smart girl/boy to sweep u off ur feet? or do u picture a sad, disappointed, "needy", unconfident girl/boy to waddle around you and ask you out...? most likely u imagine this positive, happy, confident person to come out of the blue and snatch u up...but have u realized that u haven't done anything to make sure that YOU are the 1st type of person, and not the 2nd?
long story short, what i mean is, u gotta use this time to first work on Yourself. make sure u are a Confident, Caring, Loving, Smart, Healthy, Good, and Positive Man/Woman. that means, gain some confidence. know that you are Awesome, in the way u take care of yourself, as well as your ability to learn, to keep and maintain relationships, to make new friends, and be good to your future girlfriend/boyfriend. until that point, u will always doubt yourself.
my advice would be, instead of worrying about who's gonna like u, try doing stuff to make YOU like you! so, work out, exercise, take care of yourself. play around w/ ur hair, try on clothes, buy some flattering outfits..things that make you feel good about yourself. after that, u gotta work on your mind. study, read, learn, discuss, ask questions, seek answers, excel in your hobbies... anything u can do to feel Confident and Capable. after that, work on your relationships w/ friends and family, make sure u are an asset to any situation or conversation. after that, start practicing your ability to make NEW friends, keep an open mind, do not judge others, and be confident enough to speak w/ strangers...the more confident u are, the less shy or scared u will be when dealing w/ ANYONE.
all of this will help you realize that u are Worth someone great. why? because u spent all this time to work on yourself!!!! keep positive, healthy, and good things around you, and filter out the negatives. so if people don't like you, u know that THEY are not worth it!! all this time u've used to work on yourself in a positive manner, and i know u will like yourself. so until someone can see that about you, u don't have to worry. :) i hope this makes sense.. in the end, u have to love urself before others can. good luck~
2006-09-11 08:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit back and look at yourself. Until you love youerself and forgive yourself for past sins, you will not find the answer. You get what you ask for. You just have to pray specifically and make sure you know what you want.
2006-09-11 08:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Steve O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets start with What do you look like that might have alot to do with it..People only love the outside appearance nobody really cares about the inside we just say that to make ugly people feel better
2006-09-11 08:01:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋