I loved my ex and the break-up was harsh. I'm falling for another wonderful guy and he looks and acts like my ex but he is sweeter and more respectful. Should i give him a chance or let it go? Everytime i'm with him, it feels like im with my ex all over again.
2006-09-11 07:53:33 · 9 answers · asked by Jasmine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No... because you might accidentally call your new guy your ex's name.
2006-09-11 07:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the feeling that you are trying to reconcile the past. It might be that you still have feelings for your ex and you're maybe transferring these feelings to this new person who "looks and acts like my ex." It doesn't seem quite fair to this new guy to be compared to the ex. Is he getting anything good out of this? Or is he, unknowingly, competing with your ex? Can you see this person as a separate individual with his own unique identity? Can you consider how he could be hurt ?
By saying that "every time I'm with him feels like I'm with my ex all over again" really means that you do want to be with your ex and now you have the chance. Only this time there isn't any animosity. This new wonderful guy is making this possible. And the plus to all this is that he is "sweeter and more respectful."
Is there anything about this new person that doesn't remind you of your ex? Or is he some kind of clone? What kind of chance does this new person have with you? How can he just be himself? I know that if I was starting a new relationship I sure wouldn't want to be reminded of my ex!
This could be an unconscious desire to prove that the harsh break up with your ex wasn't your fault and now you can amend the past.
You really need to take this slow. Be certain that you're not on the rebound. Sure, you can give him a chance. Just make sure it is him, and not your ex, that you are giving the chance to.
2006-09-11 09:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because he is going to end up paying for the mistakes that your ex made. You & your ex aren't together for a reason, why be with someone that reminds you of him, it'll just bring back bad memories. . .
2006-09-11 07:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by lovlouis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just bound to a certain 'look' or style, a familiarity that pleasing to them.
It doesnt mean anything more than staying in a comfort zone for you. If he's actually 'feeling' like your ex, his good qualities...those are things you'd look for in any guy right? Youre ok.
2006-09-11 08:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends. Are you only interested in him because he reminds you of your ex? If so then let it go...it can get very messy. If you honestly like the guy for who he is and not just because he reminds you of you ex then go for it, if he treats you respectfully of course.
2006-09-11 07:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by prettygirl_angel2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. If you like someone, and they just happen to remind you of your ex, that's one thing. But, I wouldn't go out and purposely try to find people simply because they remind you of your ex.
2006-09-11 07:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Eric H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he is similar to your ex, everyone is unique. Give it a chance.
2006-09-11 07:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by hoddin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jamine
This is not a grocery store-
Obviously you're attracted to the same type of guy. The new one, if you cant think about HIM, get out ogf his bed.
Lofe is too short
2006-09-11 07:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a chance.
2006-09-11 07:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by sweetlittlemama2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋