How do i know if all he wants is to hit it I just dont want to waste my time on a guy that when he see's im not going to let him hit it he stops talking to me. Oh and im not easy I respect my self. So how do you know when a guy wants something seriouse
2006-09-11 07:42:38 · 51 answers · asked by lola 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"A guy never talks to a girl that is a stranger just to be her friend."
Remember that quote everytime a guy talks to you becuase it is the plain honest truth...
Every guy when he first meets you only wants to hit it...It sounds bad but it is the lady that can pretty much determine if the guy stays around.....
If you have a guy that will stay around and still do things with you even after a while of not getting any, more than likely he will grow to like you as a person and it will then turn into something serious.
Guys don't start out wanting something serious, it just turns out that way over time with someone..
2006-09-11 07:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by leog7one 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no real way to tell if a guy wants a hit and run or a real deal. The only thing that you can do is try it on for size. Tell him that you are saving yourself for marriage, that always puts a damper on those hit it and quit it guys. Nothing is really full proof in this matter though. You will get better at reading the signs when you get older and you can find the men that want a real relationship a little more easily.
2006-09-11 07:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys want to hit it and leave. It's the nature of the beast. Once a guy gets more mature and his friends are all getting serious then he will too. If your guy does not say he wants something serious - then you can be sure he doesn't.
If you and him have been hanging out for longer than a month, then you know at least that he likes you as a person. If your guy has not introduced you to his friends as his girl - then he doesn't want anything serious. Men say exactly what they are all about and they verify it by their actions. So pay close attention to what he says, what he does and how his friends behave and you will have more then enough information.
If his friends are a bunch of "ladies men" or very unfriendly to you - beware. Never, ever give yourself to a guy just to bind him to you - this doesn't work.
Learn who you are and what you really like about yourself and life and Mr. Serious will come along (Mr. Perfect never will). Of course you should be proactive and go out to various sports/cultural/religious activites that you like so at least you have something in common with the guy. Use your intuition and be safe always. Good luck to you!
2006-09-11 07:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men usually just wanna hit & run, especially if he's just young & has no experience. So what you should do is tell him you wanna have a serious talk with him. See if he's interested in anything you have to say or ask. If he rushes you for sex tell him you don't get into bed that easy & also tell him you need some time to get to know him better & also introduce him to the family. If he starts to back off then you will know what his intentions were from the very start. Wish ya luck boo.
2006-09-11 07:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by extremeparties 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually if he is using every line in the book on you and keeps quite obviously leering at your chest or even touching you rather boldly then you know for damn sure, he is only about getting in your jeans. But if he is more relaxed, willing to take you out, have real fun and not just in a sexual way, then he probably wants something more serious. Big indicators too are if he actually ask you how your day is, your opinions on different things, or even for advice. A guy that just wants to get laid could care less what you are feeling or thinking about as long as he has gotten into your pants and that you have climaxed.
2006-09-11 07:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG girl,...we are on the same boat I have been trying to ask the same question. The only thing I have figured out in the relationship that I am in right now is that he started off really nice and sweet and 2 months into I mistakenly gave in and now he is all acting weird and suspicious. I suggest that you take your time with him and enjoy every happy moment you all spend together. And you'll know if he just wants to hit it. Just take it slow and as it comes..also dont let him get his way with you just when ever he wants to get together or just when he wants to spend time with you. Make him know and understand that you have feeling as well. GOODLUCK :)
2006-09-11 08:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he'll just want to be with you - no matter what you're both doing... You'll have to spend time together - talking, interacting, doing things together... You'll know after awhile whether he's really interested or just biding his time, waiting to pounce... Try listening to the tone of his voice... Generally, there will be more animation there if he's not bored... If he is, time to move on... There are a TON of nice guys out there who never get a chance at bat - so to speak - due to their not being considered "hot" by women... Of course, the same applies to women, too...
2006-09-11 07:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to tell because some guys will just hit it and leave and others wont.
If you are both adults and dating, there is nothing wrong with having sex, but I guess the best way to find out if all he wants is sex is to make him wait. Have a regular relationship with him but tell him you are not ready to have sex yet.
If he gets mad and does not understand, then either he just wanted sex or he is so damn horny he will probably go somewhere else for it. If a man truly loves or cares about you, they are willing to wait a long time.
2006-09-11 07:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you let too many just "hit it". As long as you are loose it will be hard to know one way or another what he really wants. If you don't let him hit it then if he hangs around and invests time with you for your company then it may be serious. You must talk to him and see what his plans are and meet the family etc. before he hits it. It is the only way.
2006-09-11 07:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by FrogDog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If talking to a guy feels like a waste of your time, then the problem lies with you. Only talk to guys who you are actually interested in.
Maybe they stop talking to you because of your bad attitude. Maybe you don't need to tell a guy, who you just met, that you will not be having sex with him (unless he flat out asks you). Maybe they stop talking to you because you are pompous and insulting. Men want sex, but that's not all they want.
2006-09-11 07:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋